Ive been trying for years & i just cant do it

you can do this,everyone has to start off somewhere,, no one makes fun of you,,, you are out doing this, and making it better, go, and do this!

never give up on yourself... just put yourself first. don't think of others... think of your goal...

Firstly are you in a position to be able to move out and away from your dad? it doesn't sound as though you are in a very healthy environment mentally or physically.

You don't have to exercise to lose weight - you just need to get your diet right. When you have tried in the past have you set yourself unrealistic goals, like setting your calorie goal too low?

I would start off with setting some realistic goals, reading some of the stickied posts which have a tone of useful info and just taking it a day at a time.

What are your stats?

How tall are you how much do you weigh? what is your calorie goal currently set to?

Hey... Dont break down.. Come on..

Every one has to start somewhere.. Fitness models werent born carved into stone, and many bodybuilders were skinny to start with..

The fact that matters is you persevere and take matters into your own hands ,and take steps accordingly..

It takes time to get fit , so if anyone makes fun of you , don't worry, there will be plenty supportive people in the gym.. Just sign up and keep going.. It's your journey and your's alone.. Others can walk it with you, but they can't walk it "for" you.. YOU HAVE TO START AND BE UNDETERRED...

All the best , and if you need support, feel free to add me..

Don't get discouraged! After knee surgery last year, I gained 20 pounds due to inactivity. Baby steps. There are lots of really great work out apps that you can do at home. I'm not ready for the gym either, but I work out at home. Make sure you are eating right, and Nevermind the haters. You have to feel good for you.

You have already taken the first step and logged into MFP and asked for help! Two amazing things you did right! YOU ARE MAKING SMALL STEPS FOR YOU ALREADY! Losing motivation is one of the biggest problems most people face when working out and trying to reach their goals and get where they want to be - you just need to dig deep down and find out WHY! Why do you want to get to that goal and it needs to be something you STRIVE for everyday to not back down and overeat or not workout or let that push of negativity break down your walls!! TRUST ME. There will always be someone, somewhere that needs to say something against what you will be doing or what you want to do with your life! It hurts the most from people we love, but it is going to happen.

Take that negativity and turn it into fire you can fight with! Put that power to use and do what you want to do with your life! FOR YOU! You can do it! Close off your mind to that bad influence and come to realize you are beautiful and if you feel your outside doesn't match your inside than take the right steps towards changing it.

You should not worry about what other people think. It's about you and your health. Set yourself a target each week on here and achieve it ( or close to it). Go for moderate exercise, walking for 30 minutes each day. You will soon see the results and so will everybody else. There are plenty of people on here you can link up with to keep you motivated and on track.

Seeing people at the gym or people seeing you working out in your neighborhood SHOULD NOT hold you back from going to the gym or walking in your neighborhood.

It sounds like you have serious underlying psychological issues that need to be addressed by a professional before you should try losing weight.

You can do this. Knowledge is power. You do have to figure out what works for you. What worked for me was finding out how much I actually ate, and how many calories were in what I ate. Food logging and informed choices have helped me lose 75 pounds in the past year.

How much control do you have in terms of your food choices? Do you feel you have to eat whatever someone else fixes, or can you choose the foods and the preparation?

The greater the extent to which you can make healthy choices in terms of what you eat and how it is prepared, the easier this will be.

Find the power you do have, embrace it, and maximize it. Don't worry about the gym. How much can you build in walking? Is it practicable to adopt strategies like parking farther away, getting off the bus at a more distant stop, etc.? You might be surprised at how fast little things add up.

And - sadly - the maxim that you cannot out-exercise your "fork lift" is (in my experience) pretty much true. You don't need to make artificially low-fat or non-fat choices to make healthy choices, but content and volume do matter. Weight loss pretty much does start with what is on your plate.

A determined mind can do anything! Believe in yourself! You look beautiful in your profile pic. Start by going for walks. I found walking with my music playing was therapeutic and very relaxing. I'm so sorry for the bullying.

There is lots of good advice here-- remember, the haters and bullies are telling a truth about themselves when they bully you or criticize you, not about YOU. It is easy to get overwhelmed when you first start out-- I spent two weeks tracking my food regularly before I even tried to lose weight. It was completely eye opening! I was mostly eating healthy stuff, but way, way too much of it. Just being accountable to myself to really look at what I was eating led to better choices. Although it can seem boring and time consuming to weigh and measure your food and to only eat a single portion size, even those changes can make a huge difference. I highly recommend Judith Beck's "The Beck Diet Solution" and "The Diet Trap Solution". Not a diet, but ways to change your thinking process so that it easier to stay motivated.

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