I hate the way my body looks, yet can't stop poisonig my body with crappy food !!!!

Averell wrote: »

MamaBirdBoss wrote: »

Diet soda will help at least that part!

no, it will not, it raises your insulin level and makes you crave for more food. No soda - period.

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I'm 135lbs today. Down from 162lbs. I drink 6 diet sodas a day--MINIMUM. And I refuse to be hungry. If I'm hungry, I eat!

Something I consider important and helpful to my project is to learn to enjoy the food while you're eating it (no matter what it is you're eating): Take the time to nicely prep and really take the time to taste what you're eating. I find that when I eat in a hurry. or without attention, or without enjoyment, I end the meal or the day in a sour frame of mind, which might lead to defiant splurges out of my deficit. Associating meals with positive things like time for yourself and a good book; or time with friends and family goes a long way toward helping me keep a balance.

CynnamonSweets wrote: »

BrianSharpe wrote: »

The first thing you have to do is stop blaming others for "sabotaging" your diet, accept responsibility for your own well being and move forward from there.

What is this "healthy" shake you're drinking? Why not real food which will probably be far more satisfying and not make you feel deprived.

As others have pointed out, it's not what you eat it's how much (believe it or not you can lose weight eating nothing but Twinkies......not my idea of a good time but it's calories in, calories out).

This "shake" i speak of consists of any fruits and veggies I find in my fridge. And never did I blame anyone for "sabatoging" my diet. I take all responsibility.

I would suggest getting an actual breakfast in that you need to chew. How about Greek yoghurt with fruit, or (scrambled) egg with veggies? It'll up the calories a little but i find that when I eat a good 300-400 calorie breakfast, I don't crave until lunchtime.

Hey there
A little about me, My heaviest weight was 295 lbs that was just a little over 4 months ago, I drank at least 12 cans a pops (on a slow day) Could eat half a large pizza to myself than down a family size bag of chips and a king size chocolate bar and a liter of chocolate milk that was just dinner. I would never eat in the mornings . My eating started about 2 pm and lasted to I went to sleep about 2 to 4 in the morning.
I have tired so many times in the past to "diet" was always told by family that I would be so much prettier if I just lost weight, than they would bring me home fast foods and we had a drawer filled with chocolate bars and I could help myself when ever I wanted. We spent our summers at the cottage and lived off ice cream, burgers, hot dogs, chicken wings, pop, chips, marshmallows, etc.. Needles to say I have been overweight since about the age of 8.
When I stepped on that scale a little over 4 months ago, something happened, it was like a big kick in the *kitten* and a light bulb went off in my head, that said CONNIE what the hell are you doing? WAKE up enough is enough. I turned to my husband (who is also overweight) and said no more I need to change that. I did a lot of reading that night because I did not want to go on a "diet" they do not work. I knew this had to be a lifestyle change. The next day I informed my husband that I will be doing the cooking and prepping the food for now on (we always shared the cooking) I told the family what I was doing and some of the foods in the house would be changing and I am going to start moving more. My husband has been great, he doesn't count his calories, but he eats what I make and he is really loving all the different fresh foods and meals. The kids are getting use to it, but if there is something they really really don't like, I won't make them eat it. I had to learn how to eat breakfast and than learn how to eat a healthy breakfast. I started with 3 meals a day and snacks in between, that was not working for me, so I changed it to 4 to 5 smaller meals/snacks a day and most days that works perfect for me. 4 and a half months later I am down 46 lbs. It is not an easy journey, I take it one day at a time, I still have my treats, my dairy is open feel free to have a look. I try to make sure I fit my treats into my daily calories and if I go over, I try to move more, go for a walk or do a short aerobics workout. Beach body mom on you tube is awesome. I will not pay someone for my weight loss and I will not ask any one to pay me for their weight loss. I do not believe in shakes, drinks, pills etc. for weight loss. I have rough days but I know what I want, so if I fall I pick myself back up and try again. You only fail if you give up and stop trying. Not sure if you have talked with your family, but maybe if you keep trying and they see how much you really want this than they will be more supportive. I wish you much success on your journey and remember this is your journey and you are worth it. Love yourself first and good things will come. All the best to you

CynnamonSweets wrote: »

I wake up in the morning determined to make it a healthy day and sometimes start my day with a healthy shake. I then start to feel hunger pangs so I see what I can find in my kitchen. Because my family is not supportive they have junk food all over the place and because I am at this point hungry I eat whatever crap I can find. I then keep the day going with crappy food because in my head I'm thinking.....killed my day, might as well eat all my temptation away and start healthy again tomorrow.

I'm quoting this, because I think in it you have your solution: plan ahead!

Specifically, if this keeps happening, it seems like the shake isn't working for you. Try some more filling breakfasts and plan it out the day before and have everything on hand. I find oatmeal with some berries and protein powder is really filling for me, or a 2-egg omelet (with veggies and feta). What makes a breakfast filling for me is protein, so if I can't get it in some other way I have some greek yogurt or cottage cheese. I'm not saying this will work for you, but that you should experiment to see what does.

Similarly, have on hand ideas about quick meals to make if you are hungry and the ingredients on hand. I used to come home from work and be hungry and tired and decide to order Indian food or a pizza. Now, because I'm in the habit and know what I can make quickly with ingredients on hand, I can do that instead. You can make this easier for yourself or harder, and if you make it harder it's so much more likely you will fall back into old habits.

Finally, it's going to be a learning process and you aren't going to be perfect right away. Pick a few small things to focus on in week one and try to do them. If you mess up, don't give up for the day or beat yourself up, but think about why you didn't do what you'd intended to--what made it harder for you? Work on that. It gets much easier.

After the first things are down (maybe having a filling breakfast and a plan for a snack if you are hungry), move to something else.

And as others have said, you can fit in favorite foods into your new plan -- it's worth sitting down and logging different options for a day in MFP just to understand what the foods you are used to eating will contribute in terms of calories.

I know you can do this!

You use a lot of negative and extreme words regarding food. My advice is to stop labeling food as junk, crappy or poison.
Stop thinking you are destroying your day if you go over your calorie goal a bit. You have to eat about 3500 calories over your maintenance level to gain 1 actual pound.

Think about how some foods have more nutritional benefit for the amount of calories. You aren't doomed if you eat something with less nutrition but maybe you will not think it is as worth it because the empty calories won't help fuel your body as well and you often don't feel as satisfied which leads to overeating. If you think of calories like money and your calorie goal is your budget then you want to get the most bang for your buck.

Eat fewer calories than you burn for weight loss. It doesn't matter what kind of food it is.
Eat foods you like. Eat in a way you can sustain for the rest of your life. If you can't see giving up a food forever then don't.
Think about adding foods to your diet rather than cutting out a lot of foods right away. Maybe start with adding more fruits and vegetables to your day.
Log everything as accurately and honestly as you can even if you are going over or not eating the foods you think are optimal.
Make sure you get enough protein, fats and fiber. They will help you feel satisfied.
If you are hungry after eating, drink water or chew gum and wait 20 minutes to an hour to see if the hungry feeling goes away. If it doesn't then get a snack.
Put food away and/or get out of the kitchen. Get busy with other things.
Try a different food for breakfast. Shakes do very little for me. I need to chew my food. I do better with certain foods for breakfast.
I drink water or unsweetened tea mostly so my calories are for food.
I pre-log my food for the whole day the night before or in the morning. It really helps me not reach for random items. I know I get hungry in the afternoon and evening so I plan a snack for those times that fits my day. Maybe you could plan a morning snack that fits your goal.

I think you would benefit from learning how to troubleshoot and modify your behavior. There's a program called the "Chronic Disease Self Management Program" and there are agencies in Texas licensed to offer it. It's not just for seniors, and obesity is a chronic disease!

Try packaging out your entire day in the morning, when you are most motivated. Include all your snacks, your lunch, everything up to supper. I would suggest portioning out more than you have in the past, because you should not allow yourself to get to starving. Fill up a water bottle flavoured perhaps as others have described above. This will extend your discipline throughout the day without depriving yourself too much.

I have a wide range of ziploc bags and snack size containers that I use to package up my meals and snacks in reasonable portions.

Read up on cognitive distortion and "all or nothing thinking", common among dieters. Every positive choice you make in a day is towards your goal. It all counts.

In all of the years I've tried dieting, I believed I needed to eat less and eat what would be construed as "diet" foods and drinks. The eat less part is fine, it's the eating diet foods that would derail me because they weren't necessarily foods I really wanted to eat. I ate them because they were less calories or they were "healthier" for me but I was always left hungry and dissatisfied. I now eat what I want and keep it within my calorie goal. I may be a little hungry afterward (as I'm not stuffing myself silly) but I never feel deprived of eating what I really like. I don't like shakes as meals because they would never satisfy my hunger or taste buds.