Starting over with weight loss

Yo! I am working on a non-negotiable life-style change, so it's not a "diet." I have a secret. I keep secrets that I am afraid to admit to anyone that might use it against me. I also depend on approval to an unhealthy degree. I guess that means I avoid people who judge me. So far that means my medical professionals trying to help me. I need to hear what you see me doing right at least as often as tell me what you don't like. No false praise, though, because I got too much of that garbage from my mother.

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