"You shouldn't wear makeup." ...riiiiiiight...

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  • Seajolly
    Seajolly Posts: 1,435 Member
    Now I don't wear much make-up, and there are some days where I wear none at all. Usually I'll just put a little blush on and that's it. But it wasn't always this way!

    I used to have bad acne and would put on lots of foundation to cover the spots. However, I finally realized that always covering my skin was actually making my skin WORSE. So I had to stop wearing it. Then my acne pretty much all cleared up except for a few hormonal spots that come around that time of the month. For nights when I go out or special occasions I'll wear full make-up, but day to day I'll just wear blush and maybe a little mascara.

    My boyfriend prefers me with no make-up, and he did even when I had the acne, so he's a keeper. :heart:
  • chelsky90
    chelsky90 Posts: 15
    I loveeee my make up.. i wear it everyday but i can quite happily go without it as im pretty blessed with good skin, my bf prefers me that way anyway, understandable really, not nice if i lean on his shoulder, thers a lovely orange explosion all over it haha. make up makes me feel more confident though...
  • heathersmilez
    heathersmilez Posts: 2,579 Member
    I don't like eye makeup. When you wear liner regularly and then suddenly you don't, that’s when people think you look odd or even sickly. It’s not that you look bad w/o makeup it’s the fact that its soooooo different.

    I also finally switched from years of liquid makeup to pressed mineral makeup. That stuff covers anything and looks and feels much lighter. The Avon version is actually just as good (even better for sensitive skin prone to breakouts) as Mac’s Studio Fix and it’s only $9.99 compared to $31.

    Daily I wear foundation, blush (I'm naturally rosy but since I wear foundation I kind of have to add the pink back in) mascara and lipstick. I add lip gloss throughout the day.
  • wonnder1
    wonnder1 Posts: 460
    Everyone does what's right for them. I don't wear any, unless it's a wedding or something. I just can't be bothered with all that work! But hey-good on ya if that's what makes you feel good.
  • Cori615
    Cori615 Posts: 100
    I'm 19 with very good skin but I still get under eye circles so concealer is a must! Also eyeliner and mascara make my eyes pretty :)
    When I don't wear make up everybody tells me I look tired
  • Atlantique
    Atlantique Posts: 2,484 Member
    A little off-topic, but I see many folks have mentioned struggling with bad skin at some point or another.

    I never had the very painful cystic acne, but have always been prone to blackheads and breakouts. Even well into my 40s, I have very oily skin. Here are my favorite skin care products, in case they will help anyone else:

    -Serious Skin Care Glycolic Cleanser (sold primarily through HSN and HSN.com). This stuff is wonderful for oily skin. Gets it completely clean and removes all makeup, including eye makeup, but doesn't overstrip your skin. No toner needed afterwards.

    -Serious Skin Care Glycolic Mask. You don't want to use this more than twice a week, as it does take a lot of oil off your face and also removes the dead skin.

    -Serious Skin Care Dri-Lo. This is a sulfur/salicylic acid combo that you use on those zits that you can feel coming but aren't here yet, or on existing blemishes or blackheads. AWESOME and will get rid of a zit often overnight.

    -Olay Regenerist Serum. This is enough moisture for oily skin, and as the moisturizing component is mainly glycerin, it doesn't cause breakouts.

    -Clean and Clear Oil Absorbing Sheets. Synthetic blotting papers with no powder--they just suck up the oil and leave nothing behind at all on your face. Don't disturb makeup or add anything to your face.

    -Olay Regenerist Night Cream. If you live in a bitterly cold or dry climate, this is great. Doesn't cause breakouts. Close second? Serious Skin Care A-Copper Cream. I use one of these two products in the dead of winter at night. Or if I am somehow dry in other seasons(like sunburn).

    -Sunscreen/Face-Neutrogena Dry Touch. Does not cause shine or breakouts. Clinique City Block is also very good but more expensive (this one is a titanium dioxide sunscreen) and adds a tinted moisturizer.

    -Sunscreen/Body- Coppertone Sport. Does not cause breakouts and very effective, fairly waterproof and sweatproof too.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    Really...when is that last time you were hit on sans makeup?
    Recently. :smile:
    I'm in my mid 40s, I'm still overweight, I haven't dyed my greying hair for a while, I'm getting a bit wrinkly, the makeup and dress come out only a couple of times a year, but nevertheless men often hit on me.

    Once men grow up a bit, physical appearance isn't what attracts a lot of them, it's attitude. Someone who is always worrying about what they look like, that's not attractive to be around. One of my mates told me he recently stopped seeing a woman because she kept saying things like "Don't smudge my makeup" and "Don't do that, you'll mess up my hair", it drove him nuts!

    I would like to make more of my appearance, and I do look better in a bit of makeup, but frankly I've got too much living to pack into every day to be bothered. :bigsmile:
  • ambie35
    ambie35 Posts: 853 Member
    I never wear it,and when I do its usually very minimal. I don't get hit on ALL the time,but men notice me.
  • Atlantique
    Atlantique Posts: 2,484 Member
    Really...when is that last time you were hit on sans makeup?
    Recently. :smile:
    I'm in my mid 40s, I'm still overweight, I haven't dyed my greying hair for a while, I'm getting a bit wrinkly, the makeup and dress come out only a couple of times a year, but nevertheless men often hit on me.

    Once men grow up a bit, physical appearance isn't what attracts a lot of them, it's attitude. Someone who is always worrying about what they look like, that's not attractive to be around. One of my mates told me he recently stopped seeing a woman because she kept saying things like "Don't smudge my makeup" and "Don't do that, you'll mess up my hair", it drove him nuts!

    I would like to make more of my appearance, and I do look better in a bit of makeup, but frankly I've got too much living to pack into every day to be bothered. :bigsmile:

    'Tis true. When i am wearing no makeup, the LAST thing I am worried about is how other people are perceiving me. I don't think it's so much that I look better without makeup as that I just don't care when I am not wearing it, and that vibe is apparently attractive.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    I don't think it's so much that I look better without makeup as that I just don't care when I am not wearing it, and that vibe is apparently attractive.
    Confidence is definitely something that men find attractive.

    By the way, I'm so glad to have spotted one of your earlier posts saying you're female, or this would be a rather surreal conversation... :bigsmile:
  • ginagn73
    ginagn73 Posts: 89
    We all need a little of the make up..I do however think too much looks awful. I am 37 and never leave the house with a little around the eyes....I too have dark cirlces under the eyes. Nothing hides that...and if you plaster on the makeup it looks worse.
  • Atlantique
    Atlantique Posts: 2,484 Member
    I don't think it's so much that I look better without makeup as that I just don't care when I am not wearing it, and that vibe is apparently attractive.
    Confidence is definitely something that men find attractive.

    By the way, I'm so glad to have spotted one of your earlier posts saying you're female, or this would be a rather surreal conversation... :bigsmile:

    LOL! Yes, it would! My avatar is of Marc Broussard, one of my favorite vocalists. If you enjoy the 60's/70's Motown sound or blue-eyed soul, you need to know about him. He was just a baby when he first hit it big (Home is the only song most folks have heard) but he's changed labels and has a new album coming out June 14th. He makes me happy, what can I say!

    If he's a new artist to you, start with the album Keep Comin' Back. That is the best representation of what he's all about.

    And every woman has dated one of these *kitten* along the way: Let Me Leave.
  • Forensic
    Forensic Posts: 468 Member
    I very, very, very rarely wear makeup.

    Only for special occasions.
  • kimber607
    kimber607 Posts: 7,128 Member
    I wouldn't go out in the light of day w/ out make-up..LOL
    I'll be 38 in a few days and I think (just my opinion) as u get older you need make-up MORE
    Now I use a gentle hand and can put m face in in probably 5 min flat
    I use a face disk which has my concealer, blush, bronzer, eyeshadow and liner....I use mineral powder, some mascara and lip gloss and am out the door....takes so little time (though it sounds like a lot or lots of steps) but I think makes a big difference..and again takes NO time..
  • JEK717
    JEK717 Posts: 1,497
    Haha i know what you mean. See me......i dont ever wear it and people dont ever comment on my looks in person. But my sister.....when she wears it....they ALWAYS comment.....what's with that?

    People i think are so worried about what other people think in my HO. I think i look just fine without all that glop of stuff but people always say "Ellie you should just wear a little of this or a dap of that". Honestly if people think you are pretty just because you wear it then they need to re-adjust their beauty box!
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I prefer to go out made up but if I just don't feel like it I'll skip it. I've got rosacea so when I'm having a flare up I look like I've got a sunburned face with some acne thrown in. :( I'll skip the makeup around the house when it's acting up a but I definitely wear it when I go out during those times. It is a confidence thing! I feel really ugly when my skin is not happy.

    I typically wear a more natural looking makeup but there are times when I apply it heavier (like when the hubs is taking me out or I just feel like being a little more daring.) Now my husband is one who says he prefers the more natural look. He is very sweet and prefers I don't wear makeup when my skin is bothering me because he knows it can irritate it and make me uncomfortable. But when I do wear a little heavier makeup he does seem to respond favorably! I don't know if it's because my mood is more playful or if he likes the look or probably a combination of the two.

    I have discovered the Physician's Formula Mineral makeup is very kind to my skin and since I've been moisturizing my face with coconut oil I haven't had any flare ups so that makes me happy!
  • NA_Willie
    NA_Willie Posts: 340 Member
    Chics who wear makeup are hot. I love it. I love the way it smells. I love the way it looks. I love everything about it. Off to by the mrs a dept store gift card now to make sure shes stocked.
  • I...love make up. In high school, I never wore it, mostly because I never really experimented with it. Now I'm in college and I feel like makeup has become a part of my identity. I've been blessed with really long eyelashes, so I tend not to wear much eye makeup. I do like a good blush and definitely bold lipsticks. However, the people closest to me chastise me for using makeup since it masks my "natural beauty." I'm trying to go without it for awhile, but I don't think I can do so for much longer...
  • ivyjbres
    ivyjbres Posts: 612 Member
    Put it this way, when guys say women don't need makeup, or that they prefer women without it, they mean one of 2 things:

    "I like it when I can't tell she's wearing makeup." (That whole low maintenance girl friend thing they love.)
    or-
    "I ACTUALLY like it when women don't wear makeup." (Usually because they don't get to see it that much and its just more interesting. or maybe it reminds them of something you do *after* you've taken off your makeup for the night?)

    From a psychological view, men and women are geared to look for different things as far as attraction, so when you get down on yourself about the shortcomings you see, there's a good change that guys either don't notice, or don't care. What both sexes have in common is that we look for people who look like they take care of themselves, which may be why you get more attention when you're wearing makeup. With it off, its pretty clear your taking more care of everyone else rather than taking care of yourself first. (BTW, take a spa day, you can't take care of everyone else forever. Especially not if your burnt out.) With makeup on, you're able to hide the dark circles, the bags, whatnot, as well as placing the idea in people's subconscious, "I put this on, I took the time to make myself look better."
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    i wear makeup every day. I look ill without it.
    I couldnt give a hoot whether a guy thinks i look better without.

    I think most guys prefer the natural minimal makeup look for everyday wear, as opposed to the troweled on look, but ive never had anyone make any comment about the fact i wear makeup.

    My cousin wears none and is naturally beautiful and olive skinned which probably helps, but i look pasty without. All depends on the person
  • fteale
    fteale Posts: 5,310 Member
    I do think most men prefer minimal makeup, but in general they are pretty rubbish at being able to tell the difference between minimal and no make up.

    I always always wear eyeliner and mascara. I don't have any other makeup (apart from a concealer stick I cover occasional spots with), but I know I look better with mascara. Without it my eyes look small and pale (I have white eyelashes). With it my eyes look big and blue. No contest. Even my husband, who has known me since I was 13 says I look 100 times better with mascara on.

    I am not a fan of foundation, though. It usually looks awful, I have never owned any. And lipstick is for special occasions only.
  • unsuspectingfish
    unsuspectingfish Posts: 1,176 Member
    I've actually never worn make-up in my life. Well, OK, there was that short period in high school that we're not going to talk about, but, beyond that, I've spent all but about a year of my life make-up free.

    And people constantly compliment me on my complexion, then usually ask either what foundation I use or what face wash I use (or both). I totally wash my face with bar soap, too. >_> I've found it's the delivery method (face sponge vs. washcloth), not the soap. My point is that, in general, people are pretty bad at telling the difference between your natural look and your made-up look. I'm very much of the opinion that, if you like how you look, then everyone else can just shove it.

    Oh, and I totally get hit on without it, but it's usually by creepy old guys or other women. I only have a problem with the first one.
  • _Aimée_
    _Aimée_ Posts: 190
    I got chatted up in the sauna the other day with no make up on, swimming cap hair, and my fat rolls showing through my swimming costume. He was really great looking too, shame I had to tell him I had a boyfriend!!
  • irishblonde2011
    irishblonde2011 Posts: 618 Member
    Well as a make up artist i LOVE my make up but have no problem not wearing any on my days off.
    I do not wear make up for my boyfriend or any men for that matter. I have never even thought to ask my boyfriend is he likes me with or without it. I love trying out new looks and seeing what suits me. I have gotten to train with daniel chavez(head of smashbox who has worked with julia roberts,ange,carmen electra etc) and bobbi brown herself. To me make up is fun. I know some girls that would not be seen dead without a full face of slap but i suppose it comes down to each person and how they feel about themselves.
  • candistyx
    candistyx Posts: 547 Member
    I've got horrible skin but I never wear makeup. I tried to a few times ages 11-12 and couldn't manage to wear it in a way that didn't make me look like a slut so I gave up.
    Plus the idea to me of spending over 10 min getting ready in the morning?!?
    Screw that! I'd rather have the sleep. (I am a get up, put shoes on having slept in my clothes, rush out door, still miss the bus kind of person to be honest).

    It also bugs me that, guys don't wear makeup, but we appreciate all the interesting little features of their faces. Yet womens faces have to look all the same and have no character because all the character is covered up.
    My dark circles, my (although not many yet) wrinkles, my acne scars, my birthmarks, all tell a story, if I covered them up I'd be lying about who I am.

    Of course that's just my excuse. It is ultimately the laziness thing, and its so hard to learn to wear makeup well and not look like someone with stuff caked onto their face, and I just don't feel it's a priority to learn that skill when I could be learning something interesting instead.
  • mamijujuphat
    mamijujuphat Posts: 407 Member
    I'm not feeling the whole thing about wearing heavy make up....I rock both the au natural look & like to accentuate my looks with make up when I go out ....or when the mood strikes me...I'm not really worried about what everyone thinks about how I look...in the end is what makes me feel beautiful
  • CraftyGirl4
    CraftyGirl4 Posts: 571 Member
    I have a photo right now on my profile of me sans makeup and super sweaty after a workout. ;-)
  • Ms_Natalie
    Ms_Natalie Posts: 1,030 Member
    People ask if I'm ill when I wear no make up!

    I always wear make - up unless I'm jogging otherwise that would just end up looking horrendous :laugh:
  • I think guys are just confused, cause when they do see a girl without makeup no matter how beautiful she is, if a girl with makeup walks through the door there eyes will go right to her..it makes me laugh how guys say I want a natural girl.....well when they see a natural looking girl they dont get hit on as much.......Idk I can go without makeup THANK GOD, and looking totally normal, but I like makeup eye liner and blush and lipgloss Im good :) i think guys might just be confused....you see only 1 guy wrote on this thread....
  • Hi, I've had this conversation with the guys and my sisters in the past & as I guy, I thought I'd give you my perspective.

    My experience is that most guys don't like it when a woman has too much makeup on and think it's a pretty unattractive quality

    At the same time a lot of men don't understand the subtlety that can be achieved using a little powder, concealer etc, and when they see a girl like this they assume them to not be wearing makeup.

    I understand that the amount of makeup you put on is a sliding scale so this is oversimplified but given the choice between the same woman with either
    1) no makeup at all
    2) very simple makeup to cover blemishes etc. (maybe a little eyeliner etc, but toned down)
    3) A moderate amount of makeup up for a big night out (lipstick/gloss, eyeliner/shadow, rouge, etc, etc)
    4) Covering your whole face in makeup so it's really noticeable

    The majority of guys would choose #2. But would also assume that she wasn't wearing any makeup or would think it so little not to count.
    That all said my girlfriend never looked better to me than first thing in the morning, but everyone is different.

    Hope that makes sense.
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