Loseing weight

I do

Me too. I'm back to my starting weight...again.

Here's something I read on one of these forums a while back: "If you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got." Or, the shorter version: "Nothing changes if nothing changes."

I'm looking back on the past few years trying to identify what caused me to drop off my program each time I failed. Is it my program? Am I being unrealistic with my goals? Am I making too many changes all at once? Am I forcing myself to eat in a way I don't like? Is it stress or unhappiness?

In my case, I think I've figured out that not getting good sleep is setting me up to fail. It seems that the day after a night of very little sleep, I crave sweets so strongly that the wheels come completely off my self discipline for that day and sometimes the next. Sometimes I blow the whole week and undo weeks of prior weight loss. The bad sleep is now an every night thing for me. I can't seem to go a single day without a major pastry pigout. I'm going to the doc.

To the OP: Don't feel like you're just incapable of losing weight. There are many ways to go about this. You just need to find your own way. Don't get too hung up on other peoples' so called rules.

I do the wine thing on the weekends too, but in my case, my husband is present at those times. He is a master of the withering look of disdain which he aims at me when I eat ridiculously in front of him.

Actually, a shot or two or three of Jack Daniels late in the evening helps me get to sleep and actually sleep through the night. I suspect, in the long run, it's not a great plan, though.