giving up

Then you are doing it all wrong!

What is your goal?

seska422 wrote: »

tremroy1 wrote: »

Its got to me....too tired to excercise.....love food too much......intake always higher than what i am allowed......deprived......not having fun anymore.....very sad......dont fit in my clothes......awful feeling......slipping away....

If you do anything besides give up, you will be ahead of the game. Anything. Don't make changes or do things that you won't be comfortable with for the rest of your life.

If you are too tired to exercise, don't. Weight loss happens mostly in the kitchen. When you have some energy, exercise as much as you like but don't let it overwhelm you.

Get a kitchen scale if you don't already have one. Eat what you like in moderation. Don't let yourself feel deprived. The only foods you should cut out (temporarily) are foods that trigger binging and you can try to work those foods back in later.

If you are over on your calorie goal, maybe you have it set too high. Start at 0.5 pounds per week or even maintenance until you are comfortable.

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If you don't want to lose weight, don't lose weight! That's easy!

Wait until you really want to do it and then give it a go.

There is no reason to give it some half-hearted attempt because you think you should. That just leads to failure and being mad at yourself for not doing the thing you never really wanted to do! No, no and no.

Enjoy eating what you like and eating it whenever you want.

When you really want to make changes, you will. Nobody will have to drag you or motivate you. You just will.

In my experience, a food scale is a MUST. I've been very surprised at how off my estimates can be. FTR, I'm not working out. I do a low-carb diet (I'm diabetic) and fill in the extra calories with fat and foods moderate or high in fiber. It helps me to feel full.

For me, I work the best when I eat about 4 small meals a day. My breakfast and lunch are usually so light that my "snack" is actually a fourth meal. I graze a lot at night, but I still weigh everything out.

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tremroy1 wrote: »

not very happy with myself

And walking is a mood enhancer.

You need to be ready to do it. If you aren't, it's too easy to slip back into bad habits. However, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. If you are too tired to exercise, forget that for a while. Just focus on making one healthy change to your diet. Maybe have a slightly smaller dinner. Or give up one snack. Or substitute stevia for sugar in your coffee. Or quit drinking soda. Make one small change that isn't too difficult and do more when you are ready.

tremroy1 wrote: »

maintenance did not work

Maintenance is the hard part.

Many people think that they can lose weight on a diet and then go back to eating the way they ate before after the diet is over. That's not true. If you want to keep weight off, you need to eat for your new weight, not your old one.

If you aren't ready, you aren't ready. Don't be miserable about it. Give it another shot when you are ready.

I see you've set your calorie limit to 1200. Perhaps you should set your goal to 1/2 pound a week so you'll have more calories to play around with, especially if you keep going over. Additionally I see you drink alcohol pretty much every day & they take up A LOT of your calories. Perhaps you could try to limit that to a glass or two during the weekend?

When you want this badly enough, you'll go get it.

it's hard when we know we have to lose the weight but we somehow are just NOT ready.

tremroy1 wrote: »

Its got to me....too tired to excercise.....love food too much......intake always higher than what i am allowed......deprived......not having fun anymore.....very sad......dont fit in my clothes......awful feeling......slipping away....

Take responsibility and make choices.

It does sound like a series of excuses. Its not the end of the world being 20lbs over, but its a choice. Losing weight is straightforward, but you have to be disciplined or consistent at creating your deficit.

Too tired to exercise? Is that something medical are you unwell or just unfit? Start small, do soemthing you like, be consistent.

Low energy cna be a sign of not eating enough or not eating the right types of food at the right time.

Love food too much? You cna moderate and just eat smaller amounts. If you wnat to eat more than your body needs, then just accpet you will put on weight.

Higher than whats allowed?? you set the targets. Dont deprive or you will binge and be miserable... oh wait a minute.... Controlling and moderaing is not the same as depriving.

Not having fun anymore... You either wnat it or you dont, nobody said it was fun, some of it cna be hard work, but then the rewards are worth it for many.
You need to change your mindset and toughen up plus take more responsibility. Being miserbale is a waste of time. If you wnat to settle at 20 over then do so, but if you wnat to lose the 20 then realise that it requires you to provide consistent deficits over a period of time if you wnat to lose and experience the benefits that bring.

Take a break, get checked out, then decide if you wnat to recommit. I can see your problems, but I just see ways round them. If you really want it you cna do it.