In Desperate Need of Motivation and Support

Do not let him get you down! Maybe he needs to see you succeed before he will really be able to make the commitment it takes to lose weight. Your motivation can be taken from any of the users here, from your children, from other websites/bloggers/books/wherever you can find it, but equally as important is what comes from you. Your children will learn from your example, and if they see their mommy losing weight to be happier and healthier, that's great! If he doesn't want to go for a walk/go swimming/etc...then take your kids, and if you need time away from them then tell him he can watch them while you work out, since he doesn't want to go work out anyway. If you are willing to commit to eating healthy and working out to the best of your ability then you can do it! You are worth every bit of effort, and you will show your husband and your children what you are capable of Just be strong and keep on keeping on and eventually you will see the results you are looking for!
Luck

Find your own motivation for YOURSELF and work from there. Don't base your reasons for losing weight or getting into shape on other people. Motivation from others wanes and waxes all the time, while motivation from within is always there. Your reasons may change along the road, but you have to take charge of motivating yourself, not base it on others.

And you can't force your husband to go along with you for exercise. No reason not to try, but don't push it. Just make a comment "i'm going for a walk, want to come along?" and if he says no, just tell him you love him and you'll be back later. Don't ever make him think that he HAS to lose weight to be with you. Even if you're not saying it, it's very easy to imply it without realizing it, and that doesn't make anyone feel good. Over time, he'll see how things are working out for you and that might prompt him to start for himself. I was in really bad shape, and as much as I wanted to walk with my husband (and tried several times), it took finding my own reasons to do so to get me to actually start something. Those reasons didn't have anything to do with him, either. I like that now when we can take walks together he doesn't have to hold back on speed anymore, that makes me feel good, but I'm perfectly happy taking walks alone.

I just say goodluck on your journey.... I too think once he sees your happiness and thriving with your goals, it may change him... Like you said reevalute, regroup, and Begin! I am in the same rut you ar with losing motivation. I got a new postion / location ... Im all by myself.. where I eat alone and for a person with binge eating probz I have found myself relapsing. And over the course of 5 months I have gained about 15-17lbs.. I am with you !!! At the end of the day remind yourself you are worth it! and you can do it! and do it for you NO ONE ELSE! your actions will motivate your family ... long walks by yourself or with a child Is mind freeing

Change your mindset.

Cut the husband out of the equation and stop using him as an excuse, his progress or non progress is irrelevant. You really dont need him for your diet and hes a distraction.

Focus on yourself and lose the weight for you. It then becomes a whole lot simpler.

Learn how to lose weight. Buy some scales. Its all about deficit.
Plan it.
Make achievable realistic targets.
Get the right mindset and just start it one day at a time.
Progress becomes motivating.

Please feel free to add me as a friend. I just got back from the store where I had to buy new shorts that are 2 sizes larger than I was. I was in tears in the dressing room. I need support and I will give lots of support.