Can't stick to anything. How to overcome this?

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sevans85mfp
sevans85mfp Posts: 25 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I gained a few lbs during my pregnancy and then a few more in the 10 months after. I'm really unhappy with my weight right now and I want to do something about it.

I've started 'healthy eating' about 20 times since having her. On Myfitnesspal with a goal of 1lb per week. It literally gets to 10am and I give up and say....I'll just start tomorrow.
Any advice how to overcome this?

I've been exercising twice a week doing a 10k and my daughter is my exercise the rest of the time as I'm constantly up and down chasing her.

So it's got to the point now that my pre pregnancy clothes won't fit, I'm literally wearing the same 3 outfits over and over again as I don't want to go out and buy more clothes in the next size up.

So...it's not that I have a problem losing weight as I haven't even tried. I have no willpower. I've never done a diet before, being a mum is a whole life for me and I'm in the house more and picking at food constantly.
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  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
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    Batch cook, pre-plan, weigh out and pre-log

    And stop making excuses - starting tomorrow is no solution

    Your alternative is to accept your bigger body
  • sevans85mfp
    sevans85mfp Posts: 25 Member
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    Pre log might be an option. If I have something to stick to it might be easier. Thanks
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
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    Yep, stop making excuses.

    You need to do what you need to do, because the time will pass anyway and you'll accomplish nothing.

    Forget about trying. Forget about motivation. Just do it.
  • KHS86
    KHS86 Posts: 29 Member
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    rabbitjb wrote: »
    Batch cook, pre-plan, weigh out and pre-log

    And stop making excuses - starting tomorrow is no solution

    Your alternative is to accept your bigger body

    qft
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
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    You don't sound that committed to me

    It won't work until you commit, every single day

    Go and jump up and down in front of a mirror naked that might help
  • sevans85mfp
    sevans85mfp Posts: 25 Member
    edited July 2015
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    I'm not committed at all. That's the problem.

    I'm committed to fitness but the food aspect gets ignored. I need to sort my head out and get to it.
  • Orphia
    Orphia Posts: 7,097 Member
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    sevans85mfp wrote: »
    I'm not committed at all. That's the problem.

    I'm committed to fitness but the food aspect gets ignored. I need to sort my head out and get to it.

    That sounds like excuses. Stop it!
  • robideg
    robideg Posts: 1 Member
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    I feel you! I am the Master of "I'll start Monday" and by Wednesday I'm all for throwing in the towel. One of my motivators in my Personal Trainer. He has access to my food log and if I try lying about my diet he knows right away!

    Maybe find a buddy. Someone who won't let you cheat. Share your food log with them so you'll be accountable for every single bite!
  • vogel712
    vogel712 Posts: 1 Member
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    Hi Sevans85mfp, to discover your commitment: - answer this question: why do you want to loose weight? I mean not the superficial reasons. Your personal deep inner reasons. Write it down, anticipate your goal and how good you feel being there and then remember it every day. Let nothing else get in. This will boost your motivation and commitement.
  • eeeekie
    eeeekie Posts: 1,011 Member
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    I was told a long time ago to stop calling it a "diet". What's the first part of that word? DIE. lol. When you "diet" you feel restricted, bored...etc. Try calling it something else to boost your mentality towards it. Honestly, you can eat SUPER YUMMY when you eat healthy. You've just gotta find what works for you. And who says you have to cut out "naughty" good? Have it, just moderate it.
  • hekla90
    hekla90 Posts: 595 Member
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    Make smaller changes over time maybe if all at once doesn't work for you. Since you actively are gaining instead of eating to lose every week try eating at maintenance for a couple weeks, then 0.5 lb, then 1 lb, then 2 whatever. That way you'll taper your intake into it. Maybe not ideal but even switching to maintenance would stop the gain and if you don't eat back exercise calories you might see verrry slow loss. Maybe just try to stay on target for a few meals to build consistency and then increase or something. The worst thing is to just give up and act like you aren't capable of doing it. You're an adult and can make decisions, so start making better ones. Whether you lose or continue to gain is 100% up to you.
  • timtakel
    timtakel Posts: 50 Member
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    It would be much better for you to not do the 10ks and to lose weight instead. If you are overweight and fit your health is still worse, than being in a normal weight range without sport. Think about your child, do you think it's nice to have a fat, immobile mom, who dies early? I don't think so. Take care for your child and change yourself. We know you can do it, because we did it!

    It's not that hard. You don't actually need to change anything for step one. Step one is to log your food, just eat regular and do it. To think about the food you eat is only the second step.
  • hekla90
    hekla90 Posts: 595 Member
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    timtakel wrote: »
    It would be much better for you to not do the 10ks and to lose weight instead. If you are overweight and fit your health is still worse, than being in a normal weight range without sport. Think about your child, do you think it's nice to have a fat, immobile mom, who dies early? I don't think so. Take care for your child and change yourself. We know you can do it, because we did it!

    It's not that hard. You don't actually need to change anything for step one. Step one is to log your food, just eat regular and do it. To think about the food you eat is only the second step.

    Exercise is almost always good, especially what she is describing and some people can certainly be overweight to an extent and in better health than skinny fat people who don't exercise or do crap.
  • cupcakesplz
    cupcakesplz Posts: 237 Member
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    The thing that got my eating under control is the thought of the fact
    I have little or no control over my life (kids and hubby)
    The one thing I do have control over is what I put into my mouth. It's me who eats it. its me that gives in.

    For me it was a mind thing. During my first week I felt dizziness, fatigue, hunger and lightheadedness. I have learnt how to control that now
  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
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    There is a minimum level of commitment required to make any progress at all, otherwise you wont get anywhere.
    Sit down and think about if you really want to lose weight and understand the changes you have to make.
    It will help if you educate yourself on how weight loss works because that will give you an idea what you have to do. http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

    Controlling he amount you consume is the most important. Lean how to use this app an just weigh (with a scale) and log your food without restriction focusing on one day at a time. No need to restrict, just monitor how much you are eating. At the end of 7-10 days when you have the weighing and logging mastered then start with a calorie limit and decrease it every few days till eventually you are down to a deficit. Be patient and focus on each day. You cna eat what you like just not in the qyantities you want.

    Log your exercise, but if you use mfp then ionly eat 50% of the calories it awards as its common for it to overestimate as well as people overestimate their own effort.

    Make small changes so you transition into a routine. Keep taking it one day at a time and if it goes a bit off try and do better the next day, but keep going. Once you start losing weight that will encourage you.

    It wont happen till you are ready to commit. Its easier to commit if you understand what it is you have to do, how to do it and can follow a plan which lest you focus on each day.
  • cupcakesplz
    cupcakesplz Posts: 237 Member
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    999tigger wrote: »
    There is a minimum level of commitment required to make any progress at all, otherwise you wont get anywhere.
    Sit down and think about if you really want to lose weight and understand the changes you have to make.
    It will help if you educate yourself on how weight loss works because that will give you an idea what you have to do. http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

    Controlling he amount you consume is the most important. Lean how to use this app an just weigh (with a scale) and log your food without restriction focusing on one day at a time. No need to restrict, just monitor how much you are eating. At the end of 7-10 days when you have the weighing and logging mastered then start with a calorie limit and decrease it every few days till eventually you are down to a deficit. Be patient and focus on each day. You cna eat what you like just not in the qyantities you want.

    Log your exercise, but if you use mfp then ionly eat 50% of the calories it awards as its common for it to overestimate as well as people overestimate their own effort.

    Make small changes so you transition into a routine. Keep taking it one day at a time and if it goes a bit off try and do better the next day, but keep going. Once you start losing weight that will encourage you.

    It wont happen till you are ready to commit. Its easier to commit if you understand what it is you have to do, how to do it and can follow a plan which lest you focus on each day.



    Well said
  • timtakel
    timtakel Posts: 50 Member
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    hekla90 wrote: »
    Exercise is almost always good, especially what she is describing and some people can certainly be overweight to an extent and in better health than skinny fat people who don't exercise or do crap.

    Skinny fat people are overweight, with all the disadvantages, but there is not such thing as a fit skinny fat person. But there are fit overweight people. So losing weight and then being skinny fat is still a way better position, than just being overweight. The exercise can start at the end of the main weight loss.

    Yes, exercise is always good and being overweight and fit is also better than just being overweight. But overweight fit people still have the same health risks than only overweight people, just in a smaller degree, they still don't have a healthy lifestyle.
  • lewissheldon125
    lewissheldon125 Posts: 11 Member
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    I don't know from your post but it could be that when you try to do your "healthy eating" you go into into it to hard to soon. My wife used to do the same, decide on healthy eating, set out a plan that was way to restrictive and fail days into the process.

    I've found that if you go to hard, i.e exercise 5 times a week and eat clean it is almost always a short term plan and you end up losing interest.

    Your doing your 10k runs so this is fine for fitness, perhaps scale back how extreme your healthy eating is, set yourself a goal of keeping to the calorie deficit MFP sets you 5 days a week and have two days off, if you know you have a day off coming you are more inclined to stick to the clean days, if you have no days off in your plan life just seems a bit boring and you give up.

    When i say day off it doesnt mean binge eat, could be something as simple as having a treat dinner.

    Start there and then try and increase training / decrease days off as and when you get to grips with it all

    Good luck anyway
  • lauracups
    lauracups Posts: 533 Member
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    Everyone who has ever succeeded at making a change had their own "a ha" moment. Until you have yours you will alway find reasons for not sticking to it. A couple vanity pounds can be lost and gained without much thought or soul searching, but true over all change of everyday habits does require more. It doesn't have to be hard, it doesn't have to feel like a big sacrifice, it just requires consistency.
  • snowflakesav
    snowflakesav Posts: 645 Member
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    Figure out why you are giving up and change the pattern. You don't have enough leverage on yourself to make a change. You must at some level be ok with the extra weight. What is going on in your head that is making this okay for you?

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