Can't stick to anything. How to overcome this?

You need a change to change.

It's tough, I'm only a week in and some days are much harder to keep the motivation level high. I don't even think of any other reason why I shouldn't do it, I just tell myself it has to be done. Also, logging food has helped me tremendously. I never did this before thinking I never had to. I was wrong, and it's making a positive impact on my motivation.

Bribe yourself. That's what I did. Set money aside for an item or special dinner you really really want, and set a goal before you get it. For me, if I log 30 days in a row, I treat myself to a steak dinner. And it's not a big dinner either, so I can totally fit it into my day when I do it. For you, it might be a piece of clothing or a day trip to someplace you like. Maybe a massage, I dunno. It has to be something you REALLY want, but can live without. That way, you feel rewarded for making a goal. Then set a new one with another bribe. Keep it up until logging and eating your daily calories becomes normal.

Something else that might help you is to log everything (with a scale) for a week or so, but don't change anything yet. Give yourself that week to see what your baseline is and figure out what to change. Start small, one thing at a time and give yourself time to get used to it. It's slower, but much more effective.

I didn't read all the previous posts closely so I might have missed this: are you breastfeeding? I found it difficult to lose weight while breastfeeding. Part of it may have been my body holding on to fat so I could continue. I think another part of it is just being tired. Making enough food for another person, from my body, was tiring for me. Add to that the fact that I didn't sleep as well while my kids were infants, and I was tired mom. Sticking to a new way of eating, and /or a calorie deficit is hard when you are already tired. Finding a way around that, like with the preplanned meals others suggested may help.

How about looking into nutrition? This will help you and your baby is you work to find the healthiest foods. I became a healthier cook once I had children because I wanted my kids to grow up with great health. To be honest, I wish I'd looked into it more before they were born so I could have given then a healthier start than most kids get. Finding ways to bring health to yourself and baby can be motivating.

The diet I wish I had clued into first was the Paleo diet. It made sense to me. Feed my family the foods that we are designed to eat - a good way to raise healthy kids. Paleo Mom is a good place to look. JMO.

It might be easier to eat a deficit when you find a healthy diet that suits you. I know it definitely beame easier for me when I found a WOE that suited me.

Best wishs.

lauracups wrote: »

Everyone who has ever succeeded at making a change had their own "a ha" moment. Until you have yours you will alway find reasons for not sticking to it. A couple vanity pounds can be lost and gained without much thought or soul searching, but true over all change of everyday habits does require more. It doesn't have to be hard, it doesn't have to feel like a big sacrifice, it just requires consistency.

This.

We can't take that first step for you.

If it feels too hard break it down to one thing at a time. Years ago I went through a very successful weight loss. I took things one little step at a time. The first week the rule I followed was simple. No candy. None. No excuses. Just eat no candy and be committed to it. After I was no longer having candy urges I moved to the next step. The next step was cutting almost all cheese of my diet. A slice on a sandwich was ok. But no mac and cheese, no broccoli cheddar sauce, no cheese based soups. At that point it was amazing how much better I felt. My skin really looked better too. Feeling more proud of myself prompted me to want to work out. Next step was to actually pay attention to how much I was eating. I noticed how it was ore comfortable to work out when not bloated from over eating (sounds silly but I really hadn't recognized it before that).

The one thing I can say it that you simply have to be 100% committed to not sliding backwards. That is the hard part. Its a slippery slope. So don't go there.

Ten years ago I lost 25 pounds and loved how I looked an felt. Ten years later I have gained back the 25 and 25 more on top of that. I have lost about 12 pounds in the last month and it really hasn't been hard. My life is at stake. So, relatively speaking, its been pretty darn easy!

But I found out I am diabetic and it made "making the commitment" extremely easy. But the rules are the same.

Don't worry about diet plans or what other people do that worked for them. I read that some people get up at 430 in the morning to go work out. I WOULD NEVER DO THAT IN A MILLION YEARS. So, I do what works for me.

Maybe you would like to take your children for walks, or play with them on the jungle gym, play with the dog, it helps to do things that you won't feel you will be judged by anyone when you do them....whatever you can do that is more active than before will improve your weight loss results. Once the changes you have made are easy for you move on to something more challenging.

When I was younger I was kind of a super athlete. But those days are looonnnnggg gone! The idea of trying to do what I did back then was nothing but discouraging. So, whatever you do - do something you will be successful at. That will make you feel good about doing it. You will likely be willing to do it again. Eventually, you will get where you want to be. How long it takes is really up to you.

Just remember the golden rule....no sliding backwards.

Sorry, there's no magic. You have to decide you want it more than being bigger.

What is "eat healthy"? You need to be in a deficit to lose. It's that simple.

sevans85mfp wrote: »

On Myfitnesspal with a goal of 1lb per week. It literally gets to 10am and I give up and say....I'll just start tomorrow.
Any advice how to overcome this?

I've been exercising twice a week doing a 10k and my daughter is my exercise the rest of the time as I'm constantly up and down chasing her.

I have no willpower. I've never done a diet before, being a mum is a whole life for me and I'm in the house more and picking at food constantly.

Another way to think about this ...

At 10 am, do you give up on your daughter and say, "I'll be a mom tomorrow"?

Of course not.

So if you can be a mom every day, you can do other things on a consistent basis. And that's all tracking your calories is ... it's just doing something consistently every day.

Brushing your teeth
Changing diapers
Tracking your calories