Nobody notices!

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  • kgb6days
    kgb6days Posts: 880 Member
    Don't worry about it. My husband is 5'8" and has lost 28 lbs. That's a LOT for his height and weight. Just last week someone at work finally noticed. Just remember you're doing this for you not them. It'll happen
  • leslieblue1
    leslieblue1 Posts: 2 Member
    I have lost 39 pounds, which is like 13% of my body and other than a couple people who know I am working on this, no one has said anything. However, I think that part of it is that I am still wearing my same clothes. Yes, I notice how incredibly baggy they are but I think to others it just makes me look the way I have always looked. I can't wait until my face shows some loss and I really should go lift something about 39 pounds and take a selfie shot. Thanks for the great ideas posters to help me "see" the difference for myself.
  • Marcus_2015
    Marcus_2015 Posts: 119 Member
    It is a combination of things like everyone has said... cultural pressure not to talk about weight, clothes, how you lose, etc.

    However, if you dress differently, people will notice. I wore a polo shirt tucked in (I used to leave them out) and people said something.

    When you are ready to show off, go ahead... :-)

    R
  • IILikeToMoveItMoveIt
    IILikeToMoveItMoveIt Posts: 1,172 Member
    I have lost 50 lbs and no one has said anything...BUT I definitely get carded all the time now (I hadn't been carded in quite a while before) and get more free stuff like I used to, more compliments and generally people are treating me better. I see the difference and that's what motivates me...
  • TheSatinPumpkin
    TheSatinPumpkin Posts: 948 Member
    Around 80lbs i started getting compliments. given i had over 200+ to lose.
  • sunshynes_
    sunshynes_ Posts: 15 Member
    I think there's a social stigma about discussing weight with a female, particularly. My husband has been by my side throughout this weight-loss/get healthy adventure--at one point when we were out shopping together several people us & "ooh-ed & aahhh-ed" over how good he looked & how much he'd lost (about 15 lbs, at that time) whilst just looking at me & saying "oh hi" without a word about the 50 lbs I'd lost at that time. I was *so* upset!

    Now at 85 lbs down, a few people have commented to me directly, but I find that lots more have commented about how I look to my husband & daughter. They often say that when this happens, it's prefaced with something like "I didn't know if I should say anything to her, but..." (they always say "yes, definitely say something to her!"--they've got my back. :) )

    As others have said, hang in there & always remember that this is for you!
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
    It's nice to be acknowledged, but if you feel good about yourself, that's more important. People will notice other things and not realize you've lost weight. If you let us see your picture in your profile - probably someone would notice. :)
  • titotito48
    titotito48 Posts: 120 Member
    It took a while. Maybe 25 pounds.
  • whosaiditwaseasy
    whosaiditwaseasy Posts: 19 Member
    I lost half my body weight and there are people who still havent said anything about it to me. They are called haters...dont lose weight for anyone but yourself!!
  • jodokast89
    jodokast89 Posts: 11 Member
    Keep at it, it will happen. I get a lot of comments now (especially from people I havent seen in a while).

    I had an eighteen(ish) year old kid (stranger) pass me on the street this past weekend and say "Boy I wish I had a six pack!" I replied "me too" - then my wife said he was talking about me, took my pic and I saw what he saw, I 'almost' have a six pack, I call it a 440, a four pack and a forty. ;)

    Not too bad for a mid 40's guy that was obese to begin the year. (-85lbs in 8.5 months)
  • caroldavison332
    caroldavison332 Posts: 864 Member
    Do you really want people commenting on your external appearance, such as "Hey, have you put on a few?" What difference does it make? I would just be happy that I was more fit.
  • VeryKatie
    VeryKatie Posts: 5,961 Member
    Don't forget people are also afraid to say something because they don't want to offend anyone.
  • Alidecker
    Alidecker Posts: 1,262 Member
    Give it time, people will notice. People noticed in me fairly quickly, but I lose in my face first. I was talking to a co-worker who said something to me after I lost 50 pounds. He said he didn't know how to bring it up, he didn't want to offend me. I think that happens a lot.
  • lgrix
    lgrix Posts: 160 Member
    If you want people to comment on your weight loss, let them know you are working on it. I think it helps to have a support system in real life as well as on mfp.

    Congratulations on your loss so far, good work!
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,698 Member
    edited July 2015
    Blubberboss wrote: »
    Nobody notices that I've lost weight! Granted it's only 15 lbs so far, but I can really see a difference. When did people start noticing your weight loss and did many say anything about it? It would encourage me so much if my friends and family would comment on my accomplishment!

    No one said a word to me until I hit 15 kg lost ... my first goal. That's about 32 lbs.

    Then someone very hesitantly came up to me and asked if I might have lost a little bit of weight. She said she noticed it in my face a few weeks earlier, but had started to notice the rest of me just recently.

    And another coworker came back from leave and saw me for the first time in about 6 weeks ... and commented that I looked like I might have lost a little bit of weight.


    The things is a lot of people in that office gain a bit and lose a bit and gain a bit and lose a bit ... so a few kg isn't really anything to comment on.

  • chelsy0587
    chelsy0587 Posts: 441 Member
    Like others have said, weight loss is a sensitive topic and some people just chose not to say anything rather than possibly offend you.

    Took about 30lbs for some people to comment on my weight loss.
    Keep it up, no doubt the important people in your life will comment when they see how proud you are of yourself.
  • tesemarie
    tesemarie Posts: 37 Member
    Unless you are very public about your weight loss journey, I have found people don't say much because they aren't sure they are supposed to bring it up. :). I am very public about my weight loss journey (I have very supportive friends and family and it helps keep me motivated). People started to say they could really notice at 20/25 lbs. Now at 42 lbs down, people who don't know I'm trying to lose weight just look at me funny when they see me or say things like "wow...you look so nice today" but won't mention my weight
  • heronh
    heronh Posts: 529 Member
    Confidence and happiness comes from internal validation not external happiness. No Big whoop if nobody acknowledges your hard work and why should they? The "hard work" is only affecting you.
  • LloydGK
    LloydGK Posts: 86 Member
    edited July 2015
    As a gentleman I can attest to the fact that most of us have been taught very early on that there are things you don't ask a lady about:
    • Her weight.
    • Her age.
    • Something about the moon...(?)
  • headofphat
    headofphat Posts: 1,597 Member
    The majority of people find it socially awkward to comment on someone's weight whether good or bad. Drop 100 and they will notice.
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