"You're fat Mommy"

I can't begin to count the number of time's I've been on MFP, had success, and fell off the wagon. It's been probably about a year since I've last logged on. Yesterday I had a massive slap in the face. My 7 year old told me I could be a good villain because I'm fat. That hurt....big time! I remember when being his age and being embarrassed when my mother would come to school functions because she was fat. I don't want my son to be embarrassed to be seen with me because I'm fat. So, here I am again with more motivation this time, looking for some new support.

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,973 Member
    Gotta love kids. They tell it like it is.

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  • Tubbs216
    Tubbs216 Posts: 6,597 Member
    Aww, sorry - that's got to be tough.
    Good luck with your plan :)
  • Kincar
    Kincar Posts: 601 Member
    I sent you a friend request. I'm on MFP pretty much every day and am happy to be supportive. See an active news feed and sharing this experience with others motivates me.
  • Diana_GettingFit
    Diana_GettingFit Posts: 458 Member
    Kids don't hold back. They call it as they see it. Sometimes that can really hurt. Sometimes it can be a powerful motivator. You can do this! Welcome back and this time make it stick!
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    I teach pre-school aged kids and before I started losing, one of the kids was playing with my arm fat one day saying "You're so mushy!" and other interesting things. Yeah, they don't hold back.
  • JennyAmi2012
    JennyAmi2012 Posts: 4 Member
    I think it's the slap I needed. I've known I put all my weight back on. The pants that used to be big are beginning to be snug. I'd like to blame it all on the dryer and the closet gnomes that shrink clothes, buuuut I can't....
  • Pinnacle_IAO
    Pinnacle_IAO Posts: 608 Member
    Kids can be brutal without intending.
    I have 5, and I have heard it all, including how fat I was. WELCOME BACK!

  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    I know how badly that hurts.I remember going through that . the good news is, your here now and know you have to make some changes. You can do this! Stick around :smile:
  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    made me lol. tough audience. Might I suggest you formulate a second plan as to why you keep regaining and going back to old ways so you dont repeat yourself.
  • Bombon15
    Bombon15 Posts: 6 Member
    I too am getting back on the wagon...how do people manage to stay on track?
  • Marilyn0924
    Marilyn0924 Posts: 797 Member
    Mine used to call me squishy. They're honest little buggers, but yeah, it motivates for change. Now, I'm no long squishy, but just a little mushy. LOL Baby steps! Wishing you the best on your journey!
  • racheldavis307
    racheldavis307 Posts: 3 Member
    I'm so with you. I'm making a 100% committed effort as of tomorrow. My youngest daughter turned 3 on Thursday and I'm that whole 3 years I've been standing to the side only dreaming about what it'll be like when I can get involved, go on the slide, ride the horse, climb the wall, bounce on the castle, play on the soft play equipment... And before I know it she'll be grown up, along with my 8 year old, and I would've missed the chance... Good luck x I'll update tomorrow :)
  • letsdothis511
    letsdothis511 Posts: 27 Member
    You are not a nice moderator.
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Gotta love kids. They tell it like it is.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • Bctyummum
    Bctyummum Posts: 14 Member
    I know your pain, my son told me I have a big tummy & a fat bum. Good luck xx
  • bringon30
    bringon30 Posts: 75 Member
    You are not a nice moderator.
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Gotta love kids. They tell it like it is.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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    What was "not nice" about that?
  • bringon30
    bringon30 Posts: 75 Member
    I have 4 kids, and from the time they can form sentences until they get to that age where they can understand the old, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" mantra, you really need thick skin. Who am I kidding? You need thick skin to raise kids at any age! I'm glad you're back, OP. I'd like to add you as a friend.
  • oh_happy_day
    oh_happy_day Posts: 1,137 Member
    Ouch! At least female villains often have really fabulous outfits?
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    You've done this before, you know what to do - you can do this!
  • Kagemori
    Kagemori Posts: 88 Member
    Yea, my neighbor's kid is autistic and even though she's at the age where she should know better she doesn't always understand that even though she's being honest her words can still hurt people's feelings.
    One day she was rubbing on me and hugging on me and chattering away about nonsense she made the comment "you can't run or play because your to fat"

    Brutal but true, all I could do was laugh cause I know she doesn't mean anything by it.
    Id be happy to add you and provide motivation and support!
  • lseed87
    lseed87 Posts: 1,105 Member
    My nephew asked "how fat I was" -_-
    It was annoying especially since I'm skinnier than I used to be
  • 3AAnn3
    3AAnn3 Posts: 3,054 Member
    Kids do not always tell it like it is... my 3 year old tells me how big my butt is every day and I wear a size 0/2.
    In a 3-year-old's eyes, anything bigger than they are is "BIG!!"
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,973 Member
    You are not a nice moderator.
    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Gotta love kids. They tell it like it is.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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    Lol. Actually I'm quite cordial. My response was just to how honest kids were. Personally myself, if someone was obviously overweight, I don't go up to them and say "hey, did you know you're fat?" That wouldn't be nice.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,973 Member
    3AAnn3 wrote: »
    Kids do not always tell it like it is... my 3 year old tells me how big my butt is every day and I wear a size 0/2.
    In a 3-year-old's eyes, anything bigger than they are is "BIG!!"
    There's a difference between a 7 and 3 year old though.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

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  • mamanewland
    mamanewland Posts: 281 Member
    Welcome! You'll love MFP! Add me as a friend if you want. I'm a mom of 4 and down 45 lbs so far!
  • cmm7303
    cmm7303 Posts: 423 Member
    I can't begin to count the number of time's I've been on MFP, had success, and fell off the wagon. It's been probably about a year since I've last logged on. Yesterday I had a massive slap in the face. My 7 year old told me I could be a good villain because I'm fat. That hurt....big time! I remember when being his age and being embarrassed when my mother would come to school functions because she was fat. I don't want my son to be embarrassed to be seen with me because I'm fat. So, here I am again with more motivation this time, looking for some new support.

    Ouch. My kids will ask about my strechmarks, and "how come you're so soft?". Honestly, they did this when I was my smallest, too, but it really stings when you're bigger. Hugs, and good luck.
  • GreenValli
    GreenValli Posts: 1,054 Member
    I have been a teacher of many classes and gotten many comments and questions from children: "Are you going to have a baby?" "Why are you so fat?" I have also taught health and it was personally convicting to teach a nutrition unit, encouraging young teenagers to eat healthy food, have a girl in the class who had lost significant weight, and felt like such a poor example.

    But that is life! And sometimes it is the "kick in the pants" we need to do something about our weight. It is never too late to make a change for the better.

    And I am not thin now, but have improved and still making progress. So have many of you. o:)

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  • ogmomma2012
    ogmomma2012 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Feel free to add another momma to your friends list. I have a 2 year old boy and been on this weight loss journey for just about a year. :)