My body image after weight loss is affecting my realationship

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Amberrv33
Amberrv33 Posts: 1 Member
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I'm a 23 yr old female who has lost 230 pounds over the last 3-4 years. I have saggy skin everywhere, stretch marks everywhere, and my breasts are basically non existent now. I am not in anyway shape or form comfortable with my body, and I know that's a problem. It has been affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I have been with him over a year and will not let him see me or be intimate with him because I'm extremely embarrassed. I just want to me happy with myself and my boyfriend. I need advice.

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  • MeiannaLee
    MeiannaLee Posts: 338 Member
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    If he stuck with you at your highest, then he'll stick with you at your saggiest.
    He loves you for you.

    In order to gain some sort of self esteem and confidence I would recommend journaling or starting a weight loss blog.

    I dont know, but these issues are only curable through yourself, we cant be much of help :/
  • chey282
    chey282 Posts: 96 Member
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    Maybe some counseling? I'm considering it myself, I've lost 55 lbs, have 40 to go, I still feel like I'm the same weight, still see myself the same, even tho, I went from a size 26 to an 18. I have a hard time seeing the weight loss, I only see what's still left! Maybe try some soft lights, candlelight, tell him how nervous you are, get a sexy nighty you can keep on and go for it!!!!!
  • MarthaLeliefeld
    MarthaLeliefeld Posts: 2 Member
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    I would suggest reading Bodypeace by Heather Waxman. It will definitely help your mindset become more positive on the outlook on your new body :)
  • JustChristy79
    JustChristy79 Posts: 156 Member
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    @Amberrv33 I used to feel really embarrassed about my body after having 4 kids & didn't want to be naked in front of my husband. One day he told me something that changed everything. He said basically that women judge each other & women judge themselves. Women are hard on themselves & focus only on the flaws. He said, "Men just like to see naked chicks. Period." He went on to say that I don't have to look like a super model to turn him on. He said, "Just get naked in my bed & have fun with me. Believe me, I will never complain or probably even notice whatever flaws you see in your body."

    If your boyfriend loves you, he'll accept you & just be happy to be with you. :smile:

  • AR10at50
    AR10at50 Posts: 1,533 Member
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    JustChristy79, that is fabulous advice!

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