How out of shape am I?
HaryGroenenberg
Posts: 28 Member
I think I look really large, but maybe I'm being too critical. So be honest, fitness people, how out of shape am I? Am I really big? I hope these pics aren''t too much but you couldn't really see my body if I was wearing my t-shirt. Thanks.
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For what it's worth, a person can be "in shape" and come in many different sizes. I'm sure lots of people larger than me can run further and faster, and I know tons of people smaller than me who can't walk a mile.
Are you looking for a goal weight? You can find your "ideal" weight based on your height to get started.
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I don't think you are big but honestly, set yourself a goal weight to get down to. Find a meal plan that goes hand in hand with an exercise routine. Take it one day at a time. This isn't as hard as people make it out to be. You could notice a difference in overall fitness as well as in your body within a week with the right plan.0
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You're not very big, you could lean out pretty quickly0
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William is right0
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Being in shape and asking if you are proportional are two different things.
1. One cannot tell if you are in shape simply by looking at your pictures.
2. It doesn't matter what other people think about your body and whether it is acceptable to them. What matters is how you feel about yourself. In my opinion, asking strangers to valid that you are acceptable by looking at your pictures is not the way to go about seeking validation of yourself, in my opinion.0 -
BasicGreatGuy wrote: »Being in shape and asking if you are proportional are two different things.
1. One cannot tell if you are in shape simply by looking at your pictures.
2. It doesn't matter what other people think about your body and whether it is acceptable. What matters is how you feel about yourself. In my opinion, asking strangers to valid that you are acceptable by looking at your pictures is not the way to go about seeking validation of yourself, in my opinion.
Agreed. My input based on her image is she could find herself a good routine as well as diet to follow so she can find happiness for herself.0 -
If you are concerned about your appearance, you aren't that far away from showing some muscle, you just need to start a program. Reduce your body fat through calorie deficit, and work on fitness with a lifting program, and some cardio if you are concerned about cardiac fitness.
also read the first post in this thread: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1235566-so-you-re-new-here0 -
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HaryGroenenberg wrote: »I suppose what I meant was that I always assumed I looked a certain way and when I took those pictures, especially the one from the back, I realized that I'm a lot bigger than I thought. I'm not sure if it's just shock that I'm bigger or if I'm actually fat. Sigh.
You aren't very big. It's all in your head.0 -
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HaryGroenenberg wrote: »Oh okay. Well am I thin? My goal is to look thin. I suppose I can't really tell how I look objectively since I'm too worried I look bad.
No, you don't look thin. You aren't obese...but you aren't lean either.
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You don't look particularly big, just lacking in muscle.
Being in shape doesn't always have much to do with the way you look--it has to do with what you can do and how well you can do it.0 -
You need to get past this idea of looking 'big' or 'thin' because those are subjective words. You're comparing yourself in your head to some ideal you have of what the perfect size might be, and you shouldn't do that. Try to change your thinking to becoming your own best self, which is just reducing your body fat and some body recomp.0
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You need to get past this idea of looking 'big' or 'thin' because those are subjective words. You're comparing yourself in your head to some ideal you have of what the perfect size might be, and you shouldn't do that. Try to change your thinking to becoming your own best self, which is just reducing your body fat and some body recomp.
+1. You're asking something which is very subjective. Thin, large etc - everyone could give you a different answer, then what?0 -
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If you need other people to validate you then I think you need to work on your mental health first. And I say that with complete respect. I have suffered from poor self esteem and depression for most of my life. Sometimes I would blame my lack of self confidence on not being ten pounds lighter but that was never the real reason. Losing weight won't fix your self esteem issues. You need to stop comparing yourself to everyone else (I know that's easier said than done). If you want to lose weight do it for yourself and not to fit someone else's perception of beauty.0
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You have a healthy body. you just need some toning exercises for your abs. you have full breasts and slim arms. Only your belly looks slightly bloated0
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camillemilton1 wrote: »If you need other people to validate you then I think you need to work on your mental health first. And I say that with complete respect. I have suffered from poor self esteem and depression for most of my life. Sometimes I would blame my lack of self confidence on not being ten pounds lighter but that was never the real reason. Losing weight won't fix your self esteem issues. You need to stop comparing yourself to everyone else (I know that's easier said than done). If you want to lose weight do it for yourself and not to fit someone else's perception of beauty.
This.
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Honestly everyones aesthetic tastes are different. I do prefer a very slim, low body fat look. I also much prefer small pert breasts to larger ones- and I'm sure tones of guys and gals would disagree with me, which is fine and good. You need to find the look you like and aim for that. Please yourself because you can't please everyone else.0
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HaryGroenenberg wrote: »Oh okay. Well am I thin? My goal is to look thin. I suppose I can't really tell how I look objectively since I'm too worried I look bad.
Your goal is to look thin? Not slim? Not 'toned'? Not healthy?
Sounds like you need to speak to someone about your self-esteem issues; I can also say for certain that whilst losing a bit of weight may make you a bit happier and a bit confident, it won't fix your self-esteem issues. I am 5ft 3 and used to weigh 110lbs, down from 182. Did it make me feel better about myself? Nope. I still had no self-confidence or self-worth.
I am now 128lbs and more confident and happier than I ever was at such a low weight. Please, stop focusing on how you look and work on YOU.0 -
HaryGroenenberg wrote: »I just think most people are thin and I stick out like a sore thumb
If this is true, then you probably need some therapy for your body issues. You live in a world (if you live in America or in most of Europe) where the majority of the population is overweight, so it's unlikely you stand out as larger than anyone.
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camillemilton1 wrote: »If you need other people to validate you then I think you need to work on your mental health first. And I say that with complete respect. I have suffered from poor self esteem and depression for most of my life. Sometimes I would blame my lack of self confidence on not being ten pounds lighter but that was never the real reason. Losing weight won't fix your self esteem issues. You need to stop comparing yourself to everyone else (I know that's easier said than done). If you want to lose weight do it for yourself and not to fit someone else's perception of beauty.
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I think a lot of people fail at losing weight/dieting because they don't realize the extreme emotional weight that is tied to it. Watch "Extreme Weight Loss" on Hulu and see what I mean. Every person on there has an emotional struggle they need to deal with to really make a difference in their transformation. It sounds like you are placing a large emphasis on a "look" instead of your health. When you are healthy in your head, you'll be healthy in your body! From what I see, you aren't a "big" girl. Just a little soft. Like most people have said, a good strength training program will help you lean up and see some muscle. Then you would not only look healthy, but FEEL healthy! Our entire society needs to stop reaching for a look and start working towards a lifestyle. Change your mind first, dear. The rest will follow!0
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HaryGroenenberg wrote: »I think my body would look better if I was thin.
I think you'd see the same body no matter what. You need to fix your head first.0 -
Big? Big is me in my profile before picture and after 70+ lbs loss, that is still big my friend. Like the above poster said you need to fix your head.
And Just in case try to do whatever you choose to do with your body but do it for your self.
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HaryGroenenberg wrote: »I think my body would look better if I was thin.
Then make it YOUR definition of thin, not a bunch of random internert peeps idea. It's YOUR. body at the end of the day- you need to work with it not against it. Body confidence is a huge issue and I don't have the answers. Good luck on both your weight loss journey and your journey to loving yourself.0 -
Ok first thing... you seem to have a large frame. So get that in mind. You will probably never get the 'slim' look because you're not built that way.
And no, you're not big. What I'd do in your place is set a small deficit (lose 0.5 pound a week) and do some strength training.0 -
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