305 lbs and tired of living this way. My life begins today...

Well I'm 5'7 and 305 female and have finally decided to stop feeling bad for myself and do something to make ME happy again. I'm very nervous and scared. I don't know what lies ahead but I know as long as I don't give up better days will come.... Any advice and tips would be greatly appreciated!

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  • aurora184
    aurora184 Posts: 54 Member
    Good for you, it's takes a lot of courage to start this journey. My best advice is to take it a day at a time and be gentle to yourself. I'll send you a friend invite, if you want support or just want some laughs just add me.
  • JessicaLSpinder
    JessicaLSpinder Posts: 14 Member
    My highest was 303lbs. It's not fun being that overweight. With a little support and daily motivation, you'll be able to do this. Myfitnesspal is a great tool. Plus, Pinterest has a million healthy recipes and exercises. I use both in order to stay healthy. I'm already down about 13 pounds. You can do it. If you get stuck just remember why you've chosen to live a healthier life style.

    Also the message boards on MFP can be really helpful and inspirational.

    Good Luck!
  • stricklandkaykay
    stricklandkaykay Posts: 6 Member
    Thank you !! I finally decided that I want to be happy again and be able to interact with my daughter and be happy about it. Its gonna be a long road but I'm finally ready
  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    I think the best advice I ever got on here was to be in it for the long haul and focus on health rather than weight. Weight is a number. Health is how you feel. If you make healthy choices weight comes off. I started on a different calorie counting site and ended up here. When I started I was 223 and 5'3" Now I'm 190. I'd like to get to 145. I've been doing this now for 16 months and I have had so many days where I failed to stay under my calorie goal. I'm not quitting. If it takes 10 years then whatever.

    However, since joining I can now run several miles without stopping. I'm back in a size 12 which I haven't worn for 7 years, and I'm making better choices for me and my kiddos.

    Before jumping in at 110% with a big calorie deficit and exercise maybe just take a week to log what you normally eat so you can see how much you eat and what. That was kind of eye opening for me. I thought I "ate healthy but just ate too much." Yeah, that was a lie I was telling myself. I was eating poorly and too much.

    Feel free to send me a friend request if you like.
  • stricklandkaykay
    stricklandkaykay Posts: 6 Member
    That's actually really good advice because from what I've seen online I was assuming doing a low calorie diet and cardio would be what I needed to start asap but after this morning I'm wondering if I may be over doing it right off the bat?
  • dziedzorm
    dziedzorm Posts: 1 Member
    This journey is not an easy one to be quite honest with you but guess what nothing good comes easy.
  • stricklandkaykay
    stricklandkaykay Posts: 6 Member
    That is very true!
  • Elc320
    Elc320 Posts: 12 Member
    First step is definitely realizing this is the journey you want to go on. Find a supportive group of friends and family that will help you eat and exercise. Remember you will have days will you won't want to move off that couch and eat all the bad foods you can find, and just remember that is okay! We all fall off the wagon from time to time but just make sure you stay committed in the long run. As long as you approach this journey with positivity and actually try you will lose weight! Remember don't trust the scale, this is all about how you see yourself and making yourself feel better!
  • lgrix
    lgrix Posts: 160 Member
    Start out with logging and make that a habit. Then you will have a baseline to go from to see if what and how much you are eating is helping you to reach your goals. I think that small changes are easier to maintain than a huge jump in to it. Good luck!
  • sheermomentum
    sheermomentum Posts: 827 Member
    I know its silly to say "don't be nervous and scared," but don't be nervous and scared. You're going to be better than all right, and its all in your own hands. Read some of this stuff if you haven't already: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10177910/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads#latest

    Don't feel the need to eat the fewest possible calories that you can, and try never ever to feel defensive about anything you do to create and support your healthy habits. That's be best I got. :)
  • Hi there! Just take things one day at a time, and don't beat yourself up if you have a day that doesn't fit into your goals... Always remember that tomorrow is a new day :smile: Glad you're here! :smile:
  • mrron2u
    mrron2u Posts: 919 Member
    Start off and find your "WHY". It will make a difference knowing why you are trying to change. And take it one day and one meal at a time. Smaller goals are better and celebrate each and every victory and brush off the mess ups and learn from them. It's hard work but the end results will be well worth the effort. Tap in to the success stories too. I get motivation from reading about other people that are similar to me who have made it to their weight loss goal. You have the power and you've already taken the first step!
  • Lisabelieve
    Lisabelieve Posts: 12 Member
    Hi.. I am in the same boat, 52 yrs old and over 300 lbs. So tired of living this way. Maybe we can help each other!!??
  • chelsy0587
    chelsy0587 Posts: 441 Member
    edited August 2015
    We all have to start somewhere... I started at 294, after 8 months I've lost 66lbs.

    For me the biggest thing was the emotional part of weight loss, figuring out why I felt I needed to hide my horrible eating habits and dealing with that... still dealing with it in fact. This is a long process and there will be bad days but DONT EVER QUIT because if you keep with it you will feel better and you'll see your weight start to go down. Don't under eat, and don't deprive yourself of foods you enjoy. No matter how low your calories are set there is always a way to fit in a small treat and savor it in peace and quite.

    Find an exercise you enjoy, something that leaves you feeling good... something you want to do, not something you force yourself to do.

    I came across this on the net one day... I have it printed at home and at work.

    I Promise Myself I Will…
    1. Care for my body in a loving way, always remembering I treat those things I love, well.
    2. Maintain a balance in my nutrition and exercise, allowing my body to be healthy, strong and the right size and shape for me.
    3. Listen to my body and respond to its needs.
    4. Exercise for the 4 F’s: Fun, Fitness, Friendship, and improved Function.
    5. Treat myself as well as I treat my best friend.
  • JuliaJuliaBoBulia
    JuliaJuliaBoBulia Posts: 22 Member
    It's great that you are motivated by your desire to be there for your daughter. It's important to have a reason that will keep you losing weight and maintaining your progress. I've lost weight and gained it all back in a year - I needed to be committed to my long - term health and not just hitting a certain weight.
  • stricklandkaykay
    stricklandkaykay Posts: 6 Member
    Thank you all so much for your kind words and encouragement!!! It really does mean a lot and I have took each and everything said to me to heart and I also went and read all those posting ... I've been reading everything on this site all day. I'm trying to get as well informed as possible!