Trying not to be an "all or nothing" girl anymore...

NicoleRene1029
NicoleRene1029 Posts: 26
edited September 28 in Introduce Yourself
Hey all, my name is Nicole and I have been doing Myfitnesspal for about a month and a half, but just logged on online for the first time. When I first started this, I was excited, and energized! It was fun to see the end result when I finished a log for the day and it said "if every day were like today...." but it seems like I've been doing the best I can, watching what I eat (mostly) and working out pretty hard, and I just don't feel like it's consistant. It says to eat this many calories if you want to lose this many pounds in a week, but I don't really see anything changing! I wish this app not only had a log in for calories, but a log in for all the stuff you are supposed to eat... like fruits, veggis, meats, grains, etc. Like it's great that I am watching my calories, but it would be nice to be able to track what I am using those calories on, and not just count the calories.... like if I had 400 calories left in the day, if I had a check list of all the water, fruits, dairy, etc that I ate, then I could look back and see that I only ate 2 veggies throughout the day, and I need one or two more so I'm going to use those calories on fresh veggies instead..... that would be awesome.
I also just moved so I'm getting use to a new place, and pretty much new everything. I am kinda stressed out with the living situation, and it is definitely bumming me out, and I'm trying not to.
I posted this as all or nothing because I feel like that is exactly how I am. I need to do everything right, or fail all the way, and I hate that kind of thinking. That is the kind of thinking that doesn't really get me anywhere, and the kind of thinking that causes me to fail! I want to lose like 40 more pounds, and I sure can't do that by feeling like I can't do it. I think I need to journal and let the stress out, or maybe try to take a boxing class... any advice on hanging in there? And I need tough love not, "oh you can do it" cause the reason I got the way I am weight wise was because I never saw myself for how I was. I felt like I was living in my old body, but I just got "big" and I hate that feeling! Tough, but encouraging advice would be awesome. Thanks people, and good luck on each and every one of your weight loss journeys!

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  • petithamu
    petithamu Posts: 582 Member
    Hi Nicole,

    Well, welcome to MFP!

    Secondly, you have to just accept that it takes time and along the way you will fail then get back up again and possibly fail and then have to get back up again. It's not fun but this is the damn truth. I've been on MFP since late December and I've been happy, I've been angry, I've been sad and I've quit, more times than you can imagine! But the wonderful thing about MFP is...my friends on this always pull me back. They always remind me that even if I haven't seen result in 4 weeks or if I gained weight due to whatever reason, I can't give up because I haven't reached my goal yet.

    I know you don't want to hear just 'you can do it' but the truth is you 'can' do it ONLY if you want it bad enough. Blogging helps me de-stress because I just b*tch about everything, not just on weight loss or nutrition, I use it to log everything I feel so when I look back on it, I can see how much I've grown.

    If you really want to do this, you're right, don't be the 'all or nothing' girl, take it literally one step at a time. A good friend on this told me when I fell off the wagon that I should focus on one HOUR at a time. Be mindful of everything you do, every decision you make and you will feel proud and better about yourself at the end of the day.

    Good luck!!

    Tiffany
  • Dave2041
    Dave2041 Posts: 257 Member
    Hello Nicole,

    Tiffany gave some great advice there, I just want to ask are you eating similar meals and doing similar workouts?
    I've heard a lot of good things about challenging your body and not falling into a routine, because even if you are working out, but it's the same workout then your body will adapt and the same with diet.

    The key is to challenge your body, catch it off guard.

    Most importantly if you really want this and to change then you'll get there one way or another,

    Chin up! :)
  • PeachyNess
    PeachyNess Posts: 6
    Hi Nicole,
    I would definitely recommend you check out the Canada Food Guide - or the US Food Guide (Wherever you are). It makes it very easy to keep a check list of the servings of foods you should consume. Try regularly snacking on vegges and including a little extra fruit in your diet. Once you get the hang of it, you won't even have to stop and think.
    As far as failure or sliding back into your old ways - it's not an option because you've come too far. Whatever state your body is currently in is just a reflection of your past, so stop living in the past and start living right now. If you look in the mirror, I'm sure you could pick out parts of yourself that you dislike - why not focus on the great things and focus on self-love. No matter what size you are. There is always room for improvement, but we can certainly enjoy the body we are in at every stage of our journey.
    Don't give up, and don't give in. But don't feel like this is it - sometimes you just need a little extra push to get your body back on track. Take a class at the local gym - you might be surprised at the intensity of the workout.
    Most importantly, love your body no matter what - it is the only sure thing you have in this world. Keep moving forward, don't look back.

    Ness
  • NicoleRene1029
    NicoleRene1029 Posts: 26
    AHHHHH you guys are SO awesome! Thank you, I love this site already!! I totally agree with everyone and it's so nice to have people who kinda understand what we are all going through. Thank you all for the tough love! I do try to switch up my eating, and some days it's easy, and other days it's hard! It's also difficult because my husband can eat like 2Xs more calories than me, and he only wants to lose like 2 pounds or something, hahaha.... so I definitely have to work out more some days so we can eat the same things-ish. I do change up workouts, and have noticed a difference when I stick to it. The last two weeks I've taken a spinning class at the gym I go to, and it has been great!!.... all except for my lower back killing me afterwards, which yesterday wasn't nearly as bad as last week, when it felt like I pinched a nerve or something, right in the middle of class! I learned that it was because the bike handle bars were too far forward so I was straining my lower back reaching out for them. Yesterday was way better, but for some reason it still hurts, which is lame. But, I'm not afraid to try new things so I'm going to keep doing it! Thanks guys, I am feeling a lot better today. I really liked the adivce about one hour at a time. Sometimes that is the best way. I was talking to my mom about weight loss, and was telling her, man, losing weight really is something you have to think about constantly in order to succeed! Every single decision makes a difference. Now, I just got to learn to not get down on myself if one decision is not the best, instead, jump back on and get on track! Thanks again guys! You are all so awesome! <3
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