i wish i didnt hate the way i look

Its very normal. I think disliking the way you look or certain things about your physical appearance is what keeps us going. I for one HATE my legs, cellulite and stretch marks 2 or the 3 things will never change =/, I just have to learn to love them (its been hard).

Hang in there girl and know you are not alot in the challenge.

Well, you could always go to the "people of walmart" website and look at those pics and guaranteed you will feel better about yourself immediately!!!... LOL... jk... in all seriousness though, my dad always told me that everyday is what you make of it... Everyday I look at myself in the mirror and i am immediately disgusted, but I say "STOP" outloud and remind myself that I am a beautiful person, even if i dont LOOK like a supermodel, I can always remind myself that I FEEL like a supermodel and that I am a great work in progress! : ) You are beautiful woman, so try hard to remind yourself of that everday! : )

I usually think about all the quirky things I love about other people- my high school friend's slightly crooked nose, someone's beauty spot they despise, my best friend's legs. I think these are the things that make them cute, and they hate them. Trust that someone will love that thing about you that you do not.

That and I crank up Kate Nash's "Mouthwash." and remember I'm a human and my body does cool things.

aww, bless!

Firstly, I think you're gorgeous!

heres a little trick! Try and focus on three things that you really like about yourself...they don't even have to be physical. When you start focusing on the negative things, then look at the positives and try and take your mind away from thinking badly about yourself.

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Looking at your pic I t hink there are A LOT of women who would love to look like you. I think as women we are constantly fed BS from the media about the perfect look which no one has...not even the people in magazines and on TV. (Google "celebrities without make up" You'll see!) Anyway, I listen to what my friends say about the body parts they hate and it's always things I don't see at all on them even when they think they are pointing ot out to me so I can only believe that they must not see what I am talking about when I swear my head is too big and my arms are like big fat marshmellows. Most of what we don;t like about our looks is invisible to everyone but ourselves!

Loving your flaws I think is something that comes with age. I know when I was your age I would look back at high school photos and think I looked SOOOO much better then, and I was unhappy with myself back in high school. And so it goes. Now I look back at all my pre-baby pictures and *whew* having kids ages you like whoa. And I know in another 10 years I'll look back at pictures of myself now and wonder what the hell I was fixated on?!

I still have spots that bug me, but I don't let it get to me very often. And I avoid looking in a mirror with bad flourescent lighting.

Appreciating and loving.. Ok, LIKING, at least, LOL! our bodies is one of the hardest things we women can do it seems. With all the commercials and magazine images always telling us we're not good enough, not thin enough... How we just don't measure up some how. learning and believing we are okay the way we are takes us way too long to believe. I totally believe that when we concentrate on our inner qualities at least as much as our outer we will be happy and content!

You are beautiful.

When I was in HS- 3 decades ago- I was convinced that I was overweight and ugly. All my buddies( male and female) told me I was, and I believed them. I weighed 115 ( I'm 5' 1")
When I was married, I weighed 120- 125- my father in law said I was chubby.
I started down the road of eating disorders- and starved myself till I was 83 lbs. . I still had the double chin, so some told me I still was chubby.
That sent me into a tailspin that sent me in the other direction of binge eating- and I gained 60 pounds over the next several years because I didn't care what I looked like- if everyone thought I was fat, I might as well enjoy it. I denied myself nothing.

My weight recently became a health risk- THAT was my wake-up call.
It's no longer about how I look- it's about my health.
I'm not doing this for my looks- that's been a wrong motivation for me all along- cuz obviously my view is WAY SKEWKED, huh?

And what is my "goal" weight? I'm shooting for that so-called "overweight/chubby" category. haha
And will I like the way I look? probably not. Do the people in my life love me anyway? Absolutely. They're way less critical.

I feel short and stumpy too!! lolol I've embraced my height and like being petite. I do however have one hell of a schnaz that I would pay a doctor to take a knife to if I had $10,000 to throw at my nose!!! lol

Does anyone ever experience this? Sorry bit of a negative post but people keep saying ahh youve lost weight. But i always think Im short and stumpy and have a big nose. I hate feeling like this. Does anyone have any statergies of getting over this?

I wish I did. I look in the mirror and see a fat man-looking chick. I want to be invisible most days, but I just keep living life and try not to think about it.

Do I know this feeling. I think I got to feeling this way after being called "sir" and having people calling me my dad's "son" when I was with him as a teenager. It's one of the reasons I keep my hair long and afraid to cut it. I look more feminine when I am slimmer, because when I am fat, I gain all over, including my face, and I start looking like my brother.