Lack of motivation

Start with thinking about why you wnat to lose weight and how importnat it is to you.
Learn how weight loss works and how to do it this thread is a good start.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

Decide if you are willing to eat less consistently to lose weight or you dont mind eating more, but gaining as well. Its your choice.

88lbs and the whole weight loss thin might sound overhwleming but there are many more people on MFP who have more to lose or have lost more, so understand its possible and that you cna do it.

Once you understand the basics of losing and calorie counting then you need a plan which involves small steps and can gradually get you into the habits which will enable you to start creating a daily deficit.

Get some scales, weih and log all your food so you understand how much and what you are eating.
Do a small bit of extra movement each day such as a 10 min walk to the shop.
Read the link. The idea is to take small manageable steps that you cna tick ff and feel the changes are building up then when you are ready lower your calories down to maintenancce and then a deficit by entering your details into MFP and fixing the rate you feel able to lose weight. Then focus on one day at a time, keep going and you will make progress. Be realistic, adjust and be patient
Good luck.

Ince you make the connection that you have a plan which you cna follow and that you will 100% lose weight if you do so then the whole task becomes a lot less overwhelming and you start to realise you cna do it.

ingridiak wrote: »

Thank you.

The problem is, I already know all those advices. All my life I try to loose some weight. But every stress, every conflict situation makes me more open to eat sweets.

I tried diets and log my food. The problem is, if I don't eat enough meat or bread I feel hungry. Very fast terrible headache comes, so leave dieting, as I need go to work and headache is not helping.

Mostly I'm trying to get to work asap, so don't spend time on walking. During lunch break I make like the 10-15 mins walk. In the afternoon again, asap to pick my youngest girl from school. Then normal life, some shopping, homeworks, cooking, cleaning... Don't have additional time for gym.

I have to loose weight as I'm just too fat, it is for my health mostly. But I don't feel it. My motivation appears very rarely few times per month.

I know I have to, but it doesn't look I want to

Then you dont want to lose weight enough and you arent ready for it. There are really no shortcuts, just methods to make it easier, but at some stage you have to get down and do it. Im just seeing excuses, but other people manage to commit and get it sorted.

Your headaches just sound like poor nutrition.
Your lack of time just like poor organisation. You cna workout at home or just start with extra movement such as plating with the kids. you really only need to contol your food intake at the beginning.

Nobody cares whether you lose weight or not, do you care enough about yourself? One day you will realise the importnace of it. As an example there are plenty of threads over the time ive been here where people have been warned about diabetes and to change their ways but they ignired that advice and developed diabetes. The health risks over time about being obese are serious and you cna be sleepwalking into them.

Ive already pointed to the fact they can be gradual small changes, but you have to be consistent and change your lifestyle. Get some friends on here in the same situation or read the succcess boards to understand people lose weight. 88lbs woyld be gone in 88 weeks at 1lb a week, its not long.
Its up to you nobody else is going to do it for you.

The other aspect is maybe you are an emotional eater, which is quite common which means you try and eat your feelings.

Maybe get friends on MFP (do a thread asking for friends on the introduce yourself section)or use soemthing like weight watchers which has a social aspect. Your situation isnt that bad and plenty of people on MFP have lost or have yet to lose more thna that. It just requires you to be prepared to make some changes and put some effort into that for a few years, but you cna lose all the weight, thats the message you need to welcome.

Write a lits of things to do and just do each one at a time. Break it down into small steps.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

being busy and not liking diets are things everyone deals with. Sweets aren't the bad guy, eating too many sweets and not moving is the problem. Maybe you haven't reached your tipping point yet, when you do, when you're really ready, you'll stop making excuses and you'll go after it. You have the time, it's there. We all have the same amount of hours in a day

Do you have health insurance? Most plans offer 6x/year meet with a nutritionist. That, along with a check-up at the doc and blood work would be a good start. As others have said, motivation comes from within you -- no one else can give it to you, because in the end if you don't really want to do it, no rah rah's from other's will get you there.

Start logging, and at the end of every week review your log see what worked and didn't. Keep a diary or put in your Food Notes here how you feel. Watch your macros (too little/much bread?) and make changes over time.

You don't have to do it all RIGHT NOW. Baby steps, small changes, small consistent LIFESTYLE changes. This isn't a diet it's changing the way you live from this point forward.

Take the kids to the park and run around with them. Do lunges while vacuuming. Do squats while dusting. Take the stairs more often, get up 10 minutes earlier for some 'me' time and get in a walk around the block or yard.

Incorporate better food choices, start eating w/ a salad before your main meals. Eat your fruits and veggies.

I'm finding that after just a few weeks of cutting back on the breads - I'm not craving it as bad and my blood sugar levels are dropping.

Get your starting point now and build from there.

You CAN do this; you just have to want it.

Hi Ingridiak,

Do you like competition? Are you looking for someone to check in with? I am trying to lose 40lbs before my wedding in November. My goals are ambitious but I also struggle with staying motivated. Are you looking for someone to check in with or compete against? I know that this helps me.

Hi Ingrid.... In all honesty, weight loss occurs in the kitchen while exercise improves our health, helps shape up our bodies, and can allow a few more calories to eat among other benefits. If you can't find extra time in your day for specific exercise right now, just focus on what you eat, weigh your food on a food scale and log every little thing that goes in your mouth. You can and will lose weight so long as you are eating at a calorie deficit. Make small changes if you have to at first. I lost half of my weight before I started adding in formal exercise. You can do this