Trouble getting my mind into weight loss

Think about the long term and health you will gain. However, when all is said an done, only you can change yourself. If you're eating to the point of puking and then some, I really suggest talking to a doctor or therapist that specializes in binge eating disorder. What you are describing is not normal nor healthy. They may be able to get to the bottom of the reasoning behind it.

When you are 'ready' you will tackle all of these issues and not before.

Hoping that they will resolve will not help, you need to be as proactive about your health as you can....that includes your mental state as well as physical.

It sounds as though you have a troubled relationship with food with binging and if you are struggling to control these urges on your own, seek help. NOW. There are counselling services and no doubt support groups that could be of benefit to you. Continuing this cycle of abuse and it really is self-abuse when you eat till you are ill and have gotten so heavy that it would be severely impacting your life is such a waste.

As well look at these forums closely....get yourself acquainted with any Overeating groups on MFP. Log EVERYTHING and at least you will know how many calories and the macro beak downs...write about your feelings in relation to the food that day and you may start to see patterns emerging. Within any patterns you may then be able to see that a higher protein style of eating is better for you, it may be IIFYM's or intermittent fasting....whatever. Knowledge, patience and self awareness rather than lethargy are going to be much better companions and help for you over the coming time if you are finally ready to tackle these problems.

OK I get it you feel tired and overwhelmed on your own....that doesn't mean you can't reach out for help and by coming to this forum you have made the 1st step in acknowledging that there is a really serious problem....keep going with the seeking advice and gaining back control.

You may be older and feel tired but try looking at this from the other side you now have years of experience behind you....you are going to be able to discern what will help you more easily and what won't. You do have the power to get these destructive behaviours under control.....

I wish you well and hope you find the courage and strength to do what is best for you.

Seriously @zzipitydoday don't try to do this alone or only with the support of a friend.....this behaviour is something that needs professional help.

You aren't old....you may feel it but some of the best people around don't get their *kitten* together till later in life....I am a constant work in progress (PTSD and Lupus to name a couple of mine) I'm 52 and it's damn hard to ask for help and a bit embarrassing as I felt I "Should" have my aforementioned crap worked out by this stage. Life just doesn't work like that.

I'm very impressed by your open minded attitude and taking responsibility for yourself on here today....keep going with that get proactive otherwise there is a high chance you will burn out without REAL support.

I had a big empty spot, I was trying to fill with all that food. I had to fill that empty with love for myself before I could be successful at losing and keeping it off. My weight was a protection, I had to become strong enough emotionally that I could feel safe without the weight to hide behind. I had to stop looking forward to death, before I could begin to desire to be healthy enough to live a long life. If you eat for comfort, protection, as a stress release, because you are sad or lonely or any other reason other than being hungry, see a doctor. I am on medication for anxiety based depression and PTSD, I have also done years of therapy. Now that I don't think about wanting to die everyday and instead think about wanting to be healthy everyday, it is possible for me to find the will power to resist all kinds of calories that I don't need.

zippitydodaday wrote: »

@Hippyskoppy. I have been a caregiver my entire life so agree asking for help is hard. This site helps . to everyone else much appreciate comments

Ahh....this may explain much. Your needs come 1st....Then give to others what is left. It isn't selfish. It is self-care.

OA meetings might be a good option for you. Good luck on whatever path you choose.

daniwilford wrote: »

I had a big empty spot, I was trying to fill with all that food. I had to fill that empty with love for myself before I could be successful at losing and keeping it off. My weight was a protection, I had to become strong enough emotionally that I could feel safe without the weight to hide behind. I had to stop looking forward to death, before I could begin to desire to be healthy enough to live a long life. If you eat for comfort, protection, as a stress release, because you are sad or lonely or any other reason other than being hungry, see a doctor. I am on medication for anxiety based depression and PTSD, I have also done years of therapy. Now that I don't think about wanting to die everyday and instead think about wanting to be healthy everyday, it is possible for me to find the will power to resist all kinds of calories that I don't need.

Much respect to you.