Struggle with food

> I hate exercise

This is the first thing I addressed when I started. For me, the key to dealing with food is to be able to adjust my exercise accordingly. At a 500cal/day deficit, I feel starved if I meet that deficit by eating less (or eating lots of high-fiber vegetables). If I eat normally and simply burn 500cal, I feel much more normal. My first goal was to feel good exercising.

To quote Terry Crews:

"TREAT THE GYM LIKE A SPA.

Yes. It has to feel good. I tell people this a lot - go to the gym, and just sit there, and read a magazine, and then go home. And do this every day.

Go to the gym, don't even work out. Just GO. Because the habit of going to the gym is more important than the work out. Because it doesn't matter what you do. You can have fun - but as long as you're having fun, you continue to do it.

But what happens is you get a trainer, your whole body is sore, you can't feel your legs, and you're not coming back the next day - you might not come back for a year!

I worked my way up to 2 hours a day. I ENJOY my workouts. They are my peace, my joy - I get my whole head together! I value that time more than my shower! And it really gets me together. But it's a habit.

There are times when - I'm not even kidding - there are times when I"m in the middle of a work out, and actually woke up because i am so engrained with going to the gym and being there - it's that much of a habit to me. The first thing I do in the morning is work out - I lay out my workout clothes the night before, and just hop in 'em.

So lay out your clothes, and go to the gym, and relax.

HaAHAHAH!

But sooner or later, you WILL work out."

i always thought i hated exercise.

then i found i really LOVE going to the gym. and yes, the right gym can make ALLLLL the difference.

i also wanted to lose weight more than i wanted to be fat. that means, weighing food, working out and being much more cognizant of how much I am eating.

IF you want it bad enough, you will not make excuses.

I started in january at 260 pounds and a size 22/24. Last friday i was 188 and am a 10/12 on top and a 14 on bottom.

i was tired of being fat and feeling crappy. I look better and feel better now, and still have more to go

like i said, if you want it, you will do it.

make one change at a time, maybe?

-like right now, just start walking for 30 minutes every day. Even in two 15-minute periods.
-Then in two weeks, start tracking your food. Not to eat at a deficit, just to track it, to see where you're at.
-Then two weeks later, calculate your average TDEE and start eating at "maintenance" for a while. If you're 100 lbs overweight from the last 7 years, this means you eat over your "maintenance" levels. On average you overeat by an average of 150 calories or so per day. Learning how to eat at maintenance would be a good step.
-Then after a couple weeks, cut your daily intake by 100-200. And eat at that level for a couple weeks. Get used to it. Teach your body what this level of food is and looks like.
-Now you're 2 months in, and it's a daily habit You'll never look back again

I say start with bacon and eggs for breakfast!
My bacon and eggs is about 240 calories
Start with small changes each day.

Lol
I am a stay at home mum I have more time.

OP: You say that "one little trip up" breaks your will. You need to break that cycle, and if you turn this into a math problem, I think you can. As others have said, 3500 calories = 1 lb of fat. Eat 3500 calories less than you burn, you lose a pound of fat. That's 500 calorie/day to lose 1 lb/week. If you "trip up" one day and eat am extra500 calories, that's one day that you didn't lose 1/7 of a pound -instead you stood still. Even if you have a really bad day and eat 1000 calories more than you planned, you've gained 1/7 of a pound of fat. That's nothing. A tiny pebble on a long road to a healthy weight and no reason at all to despair. Good luck.