Keep having to restart. Don't wanna restart again help

Don't think of it as restarting. You are just picking up where you left off.

Maybe you need to start thinking about your weight loss in a different way? Because it sounds like your past approaches haven't worked that well.

I found that it helped to break my big goal (ie, stick to my diet, exercise daily, loose weight) into smaller goals. It's easy to 'fail' at a big goal - nobody sticks to their calorie deficit or exercise plan every day - and when you treat that big goal like an all-or-nothing endeavour, it makes sense that you'd feel like you're back on square one the second you deviate from it.

So break up that big goal into small, manageable bits. Focus on self-care, too, not just calories and exercise. Maybe something like this:

1) eat at/under my calorie goal.
2) 1.5 hours cardio per week.
3) 1.5 hours strength training per week.
4) drink 8 glasses of water a day.
5) eat 5 servings of vegetables a day.
6) do 15mins of yoga each night before bed

...or whatever. This way, even if you do go over your calories, you can still be successful that day - you can work out, you can eat healthily, you can stay hydrated, you can help yourself relax and improve your sleep. Those things are arguably more important than how fast the number on the scale moves.

Commitment is most important. Nothing makes up for commitment, but you also need to be kind to yourself. Plan your new diet and lifestyle choices in a way that allows you to succeed

A specific plan of action is definitely needed if you're committed. Especially when it comes to weekends where most people blow their hard earned work during the week. If I see anywhere that anyone could be more consistent with weight loss and reaching a goal, it's not by succumbing to weekend demises.

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This is my 9th attempt too

For me, it helped take the pressure off knowing that I could basically eat what I want, as long as I eat at a deficit. Once you start thinking like this, the choices you make are a lot better because you don't want to waste calories on non-nutritious food. Plus I just got sick of that full feeling of over-eating, the heartburn, the fact that NONE of my clothes fit...

emily_fox wrote: »

For me, it helped take the pressure off knowing that I could basically eat what I want, as long as I eat at a deficit. Once you start thinking like this, the choices you make are a lot better because you don't want to waste calories on non-nutritious food. Plus I just got sick of that full feeling of over-eating, the heartburn, the fact that NONE of my clothes fit...

^^^this says it ALL for me as well!

I have lost and gained weight so much and I'm just sick of it. I'm using my boys as my motivation this time...and this time I'm going to lose the weight and KEEP it off:) you got this!

The problem I see is in your mental approach. You are trying to lose weight. When your focus is all on losing weight, you aren't able to see the big picture because it is easy to focus on the immediate problem at hand.

Take a minute and imagine that you will never lose a single pound. How do you want to handle eating and exercising for the rest of your life?

For most of us, this losing weight phase is actually very short and temporary compared to the time you will need to invest maintaining a healthy lifestyle for the rest of your life. By putting all of your focus and energy into the process of losing weight, a lot of people (like over 95%) aren't making a plan for maintaining a healthy lifestyle for the rest of their lives. You need to have a realistic view of what kinds of sustainable changes you can make to improve your health and fitness. When you have this view, weight loss becomes a side effect of the changes you make rather than the focus. It is actually very liberating - you are no longer a slave to the tools of weight loss (scales, measurement, numbers) because you know that the weight loss will happen because of the changes you have made. There is no fear of regaining, because the changes you've made are a sustainable part of the way you live.

I'll link to a couple of articles I've read and enjoyed that explain the differences between the diet mentality and making sustainable changes that you can integrate into your lifestyle. I can also highly recommend the book The Beck Diet Solution to help you identify and overcome faulty thinking patterns you might have that might prevent you from achieving your goals.

If you only have time to read one of the articles, make sure it is the first one.

Stop Dieting and Start Living

Surprising Reason Behind Weight Gain: Diet Mentality

If you don't want to keep restarting, then stop quitting.

If you have a day where you go over your calories, don't say, "Oh, well. I was "bad" today. Might as well eat what I want for the rest of the week and start fresh next week." Just keep getting back on track immediately after a slip.

ninerbuff wrote: »

A specific plan of action is definitely needed if you're committed. Especially when it comes to weekends where most people blow their hard earned work during the week. If I see anywhere that anyone could be more consistent with weight loss and reaching a goal, it's not by succumbing to weekend demises.

A restart means that for some reason you stopped. Look at those reasons and work out how to deal with them or you will have the same result. Just restarting and hoping for the best would seem to be highly ineffective.
Look to yourself rather than other people.
Knowing what you need to do, planning and being prepared is a start and then you need to commit. Without the commitment that you will do what it takes, then you arent going anywhere fast.

Look at all the mistakes people make that derail them and avoid.

Dont restart until you are ready.