Impossible to get a date when overweight.

It is difficult. Especially if you're not too fond of your image your self. It shows... Not an attractive feature.

Yes unfortunately it happens, there are a few that don't seem to mind, but more that do. Some would say they are superficial, some maybe not.

All I can tell you, and I'm not there yet, is when you truly love and respect yourself you'll have enough self confidence projected that you'll be beating them off with a stick. At that point size really has little to do with it.

Keep doing what you are doing on here, you'll start feeling great about yourself and your future and the rest will fall into place.

It is not so much about the weight.
Well, okay it is about the weight. People are superficial, if they admit it or not. But the bigger part is your confidence in yourself. If you don't have confidence in yourself, people can see it ... it's like dog smelling fear. ROFL And it's anything but attractive.
I'm still not at my goal weight, but lately I noticed I get asked out a lot. It has nothing to do with me having the perfect body or turning into a supermodel. Bwahahahahaha (never gonna happen anyway). But I learned to like my body with all the good and all the bad. And that's what people see now. Accept yourself, and others will accept you too. (There will still be enough dorks trying to get you down, but haters will always hate.)

sure do...and the ones that act like they are interested, really aren't.....very upsetting

It's all bout self confindence. I know alot of big girls that are with great guys and they ain't nothing to drull over however their confidence levels are thru the roof. I'll admit when I was 85lbs heavier no man looked @ me but then again I kept to myself. I avoided ppl as much as possible. Now that I am smaller guys hit on me left and right and I have a lil more confidence.

So, tech. it don't matter bout the size it's all bout confidence and personality.

As a lesbian, I found that when I was at my biggest I would avoid the 'scene' completely! Just nipping rejection in the bud by not even getting out there to start with. But now I'm a little more body confident I seem to ooze charisma and talking to women is so much easier because I'm no longer worried about the one dreaded 'getting undressed' stage. I'm actually astounded at how much my weight-loss is changing my personality, like a new lease of life. If I hadn't made the decision to change then I would have been stuck in my same old ways forever. I can only look forward to how good I will feel at my GW.

I don't even have the confidence to go far enough for there to be a rejection.

i hear u!!

I only found that i was rejected in limited situations about my weight. i'm a pretty confident person and i feel sexy most of the time. that comes across. When i was at my heaviest (260); i still went out on dates with attractive men, however I feel sometimes that when you are heavy ppl think they can treat you anyway they want --- and you have to stand your ground and ask for the RESPECT you NEED and DESERVE. You don't deserve scraps! You are what you think. I think it's about reprogramming your mind, spirit, and holding to your values.

Yes, it can be difficult, however in my case, I didn't find that it was impossible to get a date when i was over weight (i'm still classified as over weight) and have been dating consistently for months now though my fitness process.

There are so many stereotypes and prejudices out there about obese people. When I've been on chat rooms & dating sites, people say things like, "I want a woman with self-respect, who takes care of herself," implying that anyone who is overweight is just overweight out of laziness or low self-esteem or some other character flaw.
I know my own worth. I got a degree from an ivy-league school while working three jobs. I've mastered several different musical instruments. You don't accomplish things like that if you're lazy or undisciplined. I have dieted and worked hard on my weight issues my entire life. But I've still gained about 10 lbs a year ever since puberty. People take one look at me and my figure, and feel entitled to make judgment calls about my character. They just assume that I go home every night and pig out or lay around & eat chocolate, or something. People who would never make assumptions about a person based on their skin color or gender somehow feel perfectly justified in judging me for my weight. I think those stereotypes are perpetuated throughout our culture, and that's why overweight people have so much trouble on the dating scene.
Luckily I've recently found a doctor who was able to analyze my metabolism & put me on a personalized program that's actually working. For the first time in my life, I'm steadily losing weight. But it's not because I'm working any harder, this diet is actually much easier than a lot of others I've tried. I'm losing because I had a medical problem that has finally been diagnosed. People really need to be educated about stuff like this and have a little more compassion.

I don't even have the confidence to go far enough for there to be a rejection.

same

Though I've been off the market for over ten years, I've been fat for the majority of my life and I never had trouble with dating. Like others, I do think confidence has a great deal to do with how you're perceived.

It's all about the confidence! When I was single I was still over 300lbs and I rocked so much confidence it was almost ridiculous! I only had one guy make a comment about my weight. None of the guys had been looking for a larger woman either. Just some great guys from all walks of life. Went through a period a few years back when my confidence took a nose dive and I couldn't get the attention if I had bought a big billboard. Thank goodness my husband still saw the woman he married. Now that my confidence is back in spite of still being over 300lbs guys are flirty again. I got a rock solid partner so I'm not looking but they sure are. :blushing:

My advice, not that you asked for it :happy:, is fix yourself up appearance wise however you like and just know that you are one rocking hot lady that any guy would want! Guys this goes for you too. Confidence is sexy! Not cocky though. :bigsmile: