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  • txcraftr
    txcraftr Posts: 133 Member
    I used to think I was addicted to food but tried the food addiction diet (KayShepard. Com) and found out that wheat of any kind with gluten makes me want to keep eating. I never felt full and would binge. As long as I don't eat glutenous food I can control my intake and make better choices like fruit and veggies. Try it. Your body might be sensitive to gluten too.
  • alt5057
    alt5057 Posts: 62 Member
    I find if I can keep myself doing something it helps me keep from constantly snacking in the evenings like I want to...walk the dog, do some sort of crafty thing...something that keeps me and/or my hands busy so I am not just reaching for food.

    I have heard of people chewing gum...that doesn't work much for me because I get bored with gum after a few minutes. I sometimes will have a crystal light packet (10 cals vs whatever else I would be snacking on that is way higher) or have in the past brushed my teeth because then if I eat anything soon after it will mix with the minty toothpaste and taste disgusting. haha
  • dhimaan
    dhimaan Posts: 774 Member
    Time to visit a shrink.
  • 89GermanG
    89GermanG Posts: 73 Member
    I had the same problem bc I was depressed. I used to eat a lot when I feel bad or when I'm unhappy. How's it going at work, home, private life? Maybe you should see a doctor? Good luck!
  • booksandchocolate12
    booksandchocolate12 Posts: 1,741 Member
    Sometimes, the only thing you can do is buck up and tell yourself "NO!"

    (That was my version of "just stop").
  • rsclause
    rsclause Posts: 3,103 Member
    Your in a bad spot. A drug addict can stop using, an alcoholic can stop drinking but you will never be able to swear off food. You must find a way to break the connection between you and the feeling that you crave when over eating. I think that this one will need to be given over to professionals to solve.
  • kimny72
    kimny72 Posts: 16,011 Member
    OP, you have gotten some great advise for creating good habits and redirecting your mind. I wanted to add one thing, which is probably really my version of Just Stop, but maybe it will help.

    As long as you believe that you have no control, that it's not your fault and you can't help it, then you will continue to have no control.

    We all have situations where we have to take control and do something difficult, where we have to dig down and do something that takes effort, hard work, something we don't want to do.

    Every time you overeat, it's because you chose to overeat. I know it isn't really that simple, but ultimately that is the truth. So if you finish eating and realize it was way more than you should have, don't feel helpless and give up. Decide to make a better choice next time.

    You have to believe you can change the way you eat, try all of these suggestions and tips to find what works for you, and get it done. The first couple of things you try might not work, but keep trying and learning until you get it right. Good luck!
  • gav1901
    gav1901 Posts: 7 Member
    thank you for most of the comments, I am going to write down notes on what everyone has said and try to implement them. Yes I'm weak when it comes to food, yes I don't have any willpower to stop it. I'm currently battling depression and other medical problems so its hard to keep on top of everything.

    I have to lose 10kg before January. That is why I am desperate for help. The doctor has said there is nothing he can do and I have to do it myself.

    Thank you for all your advice
  • kandeelopez
    kandeelopez Posts: 61 Member
    kimny72 wrote: »
    OP, you have gotten some great advise for creating good habits and redirecting your mind. I wanted to add one thing, which is probably really my version of Just Stop, but maybe it will help.

    As long as you believe that you have no control, that it's not your fault and you can't help it, then you will continue to have no control.

    We all have situations where we have to take control and do something difficult, where we have to dig down and do something that takes effort, hard work, something we don't want to do.

    Every time you overeat, it's because you chose to overeat. I know it isn't really that simple, but ultimately that is the truth. So if you finish eating and realize it was way more than you should have, don't feel helpless and give up. Decide to make a better choice next time.

    You have to believe you can change the way you eat, try all of these suggestions and tips to find what works for you, and get it done. The first couple of things you try might not work, but keep trying and learning until you get it right. Good luck!

    I second this! Also, please read "Battlefield of the Mind" by Joyce Meyer.
  • Venus_Red
    Venus_Red Posts: 209 Member
    I would suggest you never read anything Joyce Meyer has written...but I digress.

    You aren't addicted to food in any way - no one is. Food doesn't alter your brain chemical composition lending itself to an addiction. You have a behavioral disposition to food. There are people who have a medical condition that makes them sensitive to gluten. If you do not have this condition, gluten is not your problem.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    My suggestions require very little willpower, because everyone's willpower is fairly weak until they have exercised success many times over. It's like an unused muscle. It is very weak to start; it's painful to work it. But with regular (gentle) exercise, it can support us longer. But you wouldn't demand that muscle hold up a house on the first day.
  • WBB55
    WBB55 Posts: 4,131 Member
    edited September 2015
    gav1901 wrote: »
    thank you for most of the comments, I am going to write down notes on what everyone has said and try to implement them. Yes I'm weak when it comes to food, yes I don't have any willpower to stop it. I'm currently battling depression and other medical problems so its hard to keep on top of everything.

    I have to lose 10kg before January. That is why I am desperate for help. The doctor has said there is nothing he can do and I have to do it myself.

    Thank you for all your advice
    Are you losing weight for surgery?

    You have 3 months to lose 22 lbs or so? I think you might be a good candidate for going super low carb (maybe 40 or so net carbs per day or less). At your size, you don't really have to restrict much in terms of quantity if you're eating that low carbs. You fill up on meats and vegetables and one or two servings of fruit. But really, at your size, you can nearly eat endless meat and vegetables slathered in olive oil.

    I don't like to spread just my personal experience without a caveat, but many people just like you find they aren't hungry and lose weight by limiting carbs that low. But it's not what I did when I was morbidly obese (I followed the diabetic "exchange" diet when I lost my first big chunk of weight).

    I want to emphasize that if you decide to not go low carb, and instead just restrict calories, you need to eat at a sensible deficit for your size. Suddenly eating 1500 calories per day when you've been eating 4500 calories is a recipe for disaster after a couple days.

    If you post your stats (age, height, activity level, current weight) the very helpful people here can give you a great idea of a starting point for how many calories would help you lose 2 lbs. per week until January. Good luck, we believe in you. (And many of us started in your shoes.)
  • gav1901
    gav1901 Posts: 7 Member
    WBB55 wrote: »
    gav1901 wrote: »
    thank you for most of the comments, I am going to write down notes on what everyone has said and try to implement them. Yes I'm weak when it comes to food, yes I don't have any willpower to stop it. I'm currently battling depression and other medical problems so its hard to keep on top of everything.

    I have to lose 10kg before January. That is why I am desperate for help. The doctor has said there is nothing he can do and I have to do it myself.

    Thank you for all your advice
    Are you losing weight for surgery?

    You have 3 months to lose 22 lbs or so? I think you might be a good candidate for going super low carb (maybe 40 or so net carbs per day or less). At your size, you don't really have to restrict much in terms of quantity if you're eating that low carbs. You fill up on meats and vegetables and one or two servings of fruit. But really, at your size, you can nearly eat endless meat and vegetables slathered in olive oil.

    I don't like to spread just my personal experience without a caveat, but many people just like you find they aren't hungry and lose weight by limiting carbs that low. But it's not what I did when I was morbidly obese (I followed the diabetic "exchange" diet when I lost my first big chunk of weight).

    I want to emphasize that if you decide to not go low carb, and instead just restrict calories, you need to eat at a sensible deficit for your size. Suddenly eating 1500 calories per day when you've been eating 4500 calories is a recipe for disaster after a couple days.

    If you post your stats (age, height, activity level, current weight) the very helpful people here can give you a great idea of a starting point for how many calories would help you lose 2 lbs. per week until January. Good luck, we believe in you. (And many of us started in your shoes.)

    yes its for surgery. I have my referral to a surgeon in January. I'm 30 at 5'11, don't really exercise (I know I should) and weigh 167.2kg as of today. My goal for surgery is 154kg. All the dietician said was to go on 1200 calories a day which I tried and couldn't do at all.

    Thanks again.
  • ewhip17
    ewhip17 Posts: 515 Member
    1200 calories a day is terrible advice and I'm sorry that they gave you that number. I started at 320lbs and am sitting at 164lbs today. As a reference, I can still easily lose weight at 1900 calories a day or more. I've lost weight in the past on as many as 2300 calories a day. I'd suggest that finding the intake where you are eating as much as possible but still losing will really help you find something sustainable. It takes some experimentation. But when you find that number you may just discover that you then have some momentum, and that momentum is all you need to start winning the battle. Just my opinion of course.
  • gav1901
    gav1901 Posts: 7 Member
    ewhip17 wrote: »
    1200 calories a day is terrible advice and I'm sorry that they gave you that number. I started at 320lbs and am sitting at 164lbs today. As a reference, I can still easily lose weight at 1900 calories a day or more. I've lost weight in the past on as many as 2300 calories a day. I'd suggest that finding the intake where you are eating as much as possible but still losing will really help you find something sustainable. It takes some experimentation. But when you find that number you may just discover that you then have some momentum, and that momentum is all you need to start winning the battle. Just my opinion of course.

    Yeah I thought that was a bit low for my size. But I'm gonna try 1900 to 2000 calories and reduce sugar intake and up the protein to see if that helps.

    Thank you for your advice
  • yarwell
    yarwell Posts: 10,477 Member
    With surgery aren't they looking for you to demonstrate you can eat to the smaller capacity you will have, in order not to overload your reduced digestive system ? As well as reduce the liver size to make the operation more practical.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Have you talked to a therapist?
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I think the reduced liver can be accomplished within a dozen days before surgery.

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