I need some help

kpetrus04
kpetrus04 Posts: 6 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
Hi guys,

Homestly am I the only one who feel an almost unstopable crawing at around night time? If you maybe feeling the same can you give me some tips how to handle it?

A little about me.. I'm 22 years old, I have always had problems with y weight ever since I existing. It increased the problem thatcmy year old younger brother is reqlly skinny, so my father would make jokes like Imeat away my brothers food that's why he is so skinny and I'm fat .. or my mom would say that I'm different as my brorher was alud to eat a pack of chrips every afternoon and I just omly could haveba few pices. He was 40kg I'm 60 so I get it.. I felt depressed ab8ut my weight al my life my weight changed at the age of 18-19 from 83kg to 72kg but I couldnt keep it and went back to 80 then 86 kg till the moment I waired 93kg by the age of 21. That was devastating.( I'm 178cm tall. ) my brother is about 195cm tall and 68kg just to compare. At the moment my weiggt is 77kg. And I'm struggling real hard about the numbers. This app really helps me to keep track with the numbers. But sometimes I loose it. :( I'm more of an emotional eater. I eat when I' tired when I'm alone when I'm lonely.. a month ago I quiet eating sugar comoletely tht really helped with my moodswings but I work every day and I'm just soo tired.. also I started to take anticonteption pills and my hormons are out of the normal.. i have hunger swings or crawin swings.. today it's pretty bad I ate up to 2500kcal but to make it up I worked out a lot. Aw I do work out since May this year I see the reasults nicely, but the number on the scale somehow never wants to change..

anybody coul suggest me something how to handle sadness tiredness, emotional eating, or find peace with myself please drite down your thoughts :
A million thanks
petra

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  • kpetrus04
    kpetrus04 Posts: 6 Member
    Ps: Im sorry for the tipos .. I was typing from my phone and it's a little slow and hard to type corretly
    aw I also wanted attach pictures but It didnt work. Any suggestions how to do it? Thank:)
  • WBB55
    WBB55 Posts: 4,131 Member
    I suggest tracking your intake but for now just trying to eat at maintenance. You'll learn the skills of weighing and logging, but not add the added stress of a deficit. Then after a couple weeks think about a sensible deficit instead of a large cut that will make you crave.
  • WBB55
    WBB55 Posts: 4,131 Member
    And stop comparing yourself to others. You're not them. They're not you.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Spend two weeks weighing your food with s scale logging everything.
    Make changes so that you are getting more restful sleep.
  • Roxana1089
    Roxana1089 Posts: 24 Member
    Kpetrus04 how much do you weight.
  • Merkavar
    Merkavar Posts: 3,082 Member
    Yeah stop comparing your self to your brother, stop giving your parents insults any mind.

    Is 77kg at 178cm over weight? Are you trying to lose?

    Maybe give the number on the scale a miss. You say your seeing results, just not on the scale.

    How about measuring you waist, arms, legs etc and track them instead of weight.

    I have no suggestions for emotional eating other than not buying tubs of ice cream or packets of biscuits or what ever it is you eat when emotional.
  • kpetrus04
    kpetrus04 Posts: 6 Member
    Roxana1089 wrote: »
    Kpetrus04 how much do you weight.
    At the moment I'm 76-77kg and 178 cm tall
  • kpetrus04
    kpetrus04 Posts: 6 Member
    Merkavar wrote: »
    Yeah stop comparing your self to your brother, stop giving your parents insults any mind.

    Is 77kg at 178cm over weight? Are you trying to lose?

    Maybe give the number on the scale a miss. You say your seeing results, just not on the scale.

    How about measuring you waist, arms, legs etc and track them instead of weight.

    I have no suggestions for emotional eating other than not buying tubs of ice cream or packets of biscuits or what ever it is you eat when emotional.

    Thanks for your respons. I'm trying to loose weight indeed. My ideal weight would be 68-70kg.
    Nice idea!
    I quit eating sugar 2 minths ago so I'm not eating products lije ice creams or chochlet, I more have to mind my portion sizes :) but since this post I'm doing better. :)
  • vivmom2014
    vivmom2014 Posts: 1,649 Member
    It's really unfortunate that your parents set up a lifelong comparison to your brother, with you coming out in a negative light. As these family roles can be difficult to shed, counseling may help. Also: you are so much more than your weight. If you've never gotten this message from the most important people in your life, you're operating at a profound disadvantage.

    Good for you to take control and pursue your weight loss goals. But chronic sadness and emotional eating point to a need for professional help.

    With regards to your diet, beware of getting overly restrictive. When you cut out whole categories of food it can be very hard to maintain. You can still eat all the foods you love while shedding weight, so long as you keep to a reasonable (not too aggressive) calorie deficit.
  • tiffanyschadow
    tiffanyschadow Posts: 20 Member
    Do you workout? I have cravings first thing in the morning and then late at night and barely eat anything throughout the afternoon so I experimented. I shifted my workouts to late night and by the time I get home I'm too exhausted to eat, still high on the excitement of my workout to sabotage it with food and I just shower and go to bed so I've managed to "avoid" that craving timeframe. I wondered if the cravings would shift to the afternoon but it's been over 2 weeks of late workouts and they haven't. It has really helped me manage my caloric intake!
  • FGTisme
    FGTisme Posts: 87 Member
    If the cravings come from actual hunger, plan your day differently and save some calories for when they hit.

    If the cravings are emotional, think of some "substitute soothers": a hot bath, a cup of herbal tea, yoga, posting/reading these boards, etc. Choose those over food and pretty soon they will be what you look forward to instead of food.

    With regards to your family: remind yourself from time to time just whose life you are living-yours or theirs. You decide who you are and what you are worth. No matter what they say or have said, YOU are the one who gets to define YOU. You can choose to live by their perception of you or by who you want to be. Your choice either way.

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