Unsupportive spouse...help!

My husband does the same thing. I ignore his junk food and when he gets it out to eat I grab some veggies and dip instead. When he makes pizza and crappy foods I make healthy ones.

Basically it is each for their own with meals in my house. I eat what I want and he eats what he wants.

I see his junk food as a test and that makes me more stubborn and focused on my determination not to indulge.

I am so sorry that he is not doing a better job of supporting you. My boyfriend is currently dieting for a bodybuilding competition and has to cut his food way down. When he was starting his diet I told him that I would diet as well to make it easier for him. He used to be a trainer at the local Gold's so he set me up with a diet and I have stayed with it for the most part and have only strayed when he is not around and not talked to him about it. He says that it really helps him to have me dieting with him because I am not trying him to get him that is off his diet when I don't want to eat according to mine. I don't know how you can get your husband to want to jump on board with you to eat healthy but I hope that some day he realizes that just saying you support someone isn't always supporting them.

Sadly I dont have advice but I know how you feel I have the same battle!!

I know EXACTLY how you feel. My husband thinks he is supportive because he tells me I am doing so good blah, blah, blah. Then he goes to the store. I went to the store alone yesterday and did so good, except for the a few things he asked for that I can honestly avoid. Then today he went to the store and bought 3 bags of chips, soda, stuffed crust pizza and no telling what else (I haven't actually looked yet lol). He also wants to eat out ALL THE TIME. We will be out and he will pull into Sonic and then out when I tell him I don't want anything. I have found sugar free gum helps me a lot, but not having the food here would be even better.

My wife does the same thing. She likes her junk food, which I am able to stay away from for the most part or I'll have a little for a snack. One thing I have done is told her is that if she wants it, she'll have to hide it from me because I know if it sits on the table in plain site, I will snack on it.

What kills me is that she loves to go out to dinner. Friday has become "date night" where we will go out to dinner (not cheap either), I don't want to, but it makes her happy :grumble: . Next weekend we are going home and we'll be eating out for pretty much every meal friday - sunday :noway:

Wow. That is hard. I have to say that we do have junk in our house too, b/c my husband (and my kids, but I can control what they eat) love that stuff. I just don't eat it. For me, it's not really an issue of willpower. It USED to be. But then I started eating cleanly, and the better/healthier I ate, the less I wanted/craved the junk. Now I'm at a point where I find that kind of food close to repulsive. If I eat it, I can tell how greasy, artificial, sugary, whatever, it is. And I don't like it. I find (from reading posts here) that that happens to everyone who has been eating cleanly for a while. So if you keep at it, just resist the temptation, it will pass. But the key is that you can't be good all day, and then eat a small bag of chips or cookies at the end of the day. That keeps that craving/temptation alive.

As for eating differently, or that you're cooking healthy, and he's "not in the mood" for it - that depends a lot on your relationship. With my dh, I just started cooking healthier, making small substitutions, adding more veggies, and he actually wasn't really aware that I was making changes. So for ex. we'd still eat meatloaf, but I'd make it with gr. turkey and put more ground veggies in it. And I'd make a vegetable side, in addition to the mashed potatoes (which I wouldn't eat). Now I'm at the point where I don't even make the potatoes anymore, and he just loads up more on the meatloaf. Better for him that he eats more lean protein and veggies than a lot of starch anyway.

He did know that I was revamping our diets, but it happened pretty painlessly. Thankfully, he does prefer (at this point) to eat more healthfully. But I can assure you that if he ever told me that he wanted a burger and fries instead of the fish and spinach I'd prepared, I would hand him the car keys, and he can go to McD's if he wants. Or make it himself. I'm not cooking 5 different meals for the 5 of us. I make one meal, that has protein and veggies (sometimes a side of starch for the kids/him), and they can eat it or figure out how to make their own meal.

I don't know if that helps at all, but you need to do what's right for you and your health, bottom line. And if he loves you, he should support your efforts to become a healthy person, whether he wants to do that himself or not. Btw, my husband is overweight and out of shape. He eats junk all day until he gets home for his good meal, and doesn't exercise. So it's up to me to be the good role model for our kids, so that they learn what good nutrition/health is all about.

For me, it's out-of-sight, out-of-mind. If it's in the house, in most cases I will eat it. Luckily I do the grocery shopping. But not having a TRUELY supportive spouse does SUCK.

I have a husband just like that... I asked him to go to the store for me this morning and he brought me home a Magnum Double Caramel Ice cream bar.... Knowing I don't eat that stuff.

I just told him he could eat it when he comes home from work tonight. I just made up my mind that I will avoid all of the junk he eats.

They just don't understand.... I think my hubby just thinks "its only one"

Just stay strong, don't let it hurt your feelings, he doesn't understand. I know my husband doesn't and if he sees something I would like he likes to just get things for me.....

Living with someone who is not on the same path as you is hard, but that is what life is about - surviving thru some challenging obstacles and coming out stronger on the other side. I remember before I was choosing to be healthy that hanging with people who were healthy already always made me feel a bit guilty. We all get there in our own time. He may (Unconsciously) be worried that you will leave him if you to a healthier place??? Without calling him out on it, I would just keep reassuring him about his position in your life. Maybe you extending that to him will help him to be more supportive to you. My husband still eats crap - and thats ok - he doesnt have a weight issue - his counts are all good. His body tolerates it better than mine. This is about YOU!! Do what you need to do for you.