I realize I have no idea what I'm doing

I agree with @newmeadow , log honestly & browse the guidance on this site. You may be shocked by the amount of calories you eat day to day.

After my initial week of logging, I started by just making a swap or change a week to try and be more healthy, some of the swaps stayed, others needed tweeking to be maintainable, others I've never gone back to, but it's worked & I'm losing weight

A few ideas to try, not all at once but try 1 a week:
- Swap to low fat cheese & other healthy low fat alternatives.
- White bread/pasta to wholemeal.
- Reduce portion sizes.
- Add some vegetables (I microwave frozen ones!) as a side or into any sauces.

- Take your usual meal/junk amount & divide it into a couple of portions to put in fridge/freezer for lunch the next day, giving you a smaller portion today. (Basically you can easily still eat your normal food but just reduce your calories by spreading 1 meal over multiple days - Less cooking too!).

- Add a basic side salad - Lettuce, cucumber slices & a bit of pepper with the nicest low fat dressing you can find or a bit of balsamic vinegar.

Just a few ideas, but you just need to make sure that what you're doing is sustainable in your diet & just keep going! You can do this!

Bam no it. Seems like that it's a lot of will power n mentally prepare which it doesn't like u are. Square one in surgery steps is broth protein shakes Jello water for one month THAT'S ALL N popsicle sf if u wanna chew something so please don't say bam cause it's not a magic it is a tool n depending on person how they wanna use it. Good luck on ur journey