He said iam obsessed??? Just venting. ..

kshama2001 wrote: »

Jboo7825 wrote: »

Healthygreek, me either really I wanted to know has anyone else had to deal with a situation of their spouse or significant other feeling a certain way about the lifestyle change.

Yes, when I quit drinking and my husband did not, the relationship wound down and ended, which was for the best.

But is this really the same as what the OP is going through?

You chose to quit drinking. Your husband chose to continue drinking. Choice involved on both sides, and I can see why the relationship ended when you chose to go different ways.

Here, the OP is choosing to take care of herself and workout. Don't you think her boyfriend would love to join her if he could? He's pretty helpless here.

Not saying she should give up what she needs and sit by him and hold his hand all day. But it's not like so many stories we see here where one partner is saying that they want to go for a walk and their partner chooses to sit on the couch and play video games.

This is not weigh loss related, but I think it fits into your situation.

When I first had my daughter, my husband started feeling very left out. I spent so much time taking care of her , that I was not spending the time with him that I used to and he felt a little left out. It was not that he didn't love the baby, or that he didn't help me take care of her (He was home with her during the day while I worked, and I was with her at night while he worked). He started feeling a little resentful towards me.

I had to make a conscious effort to make sure that I was spending time with him as well. I let him make the choice of what we did during our time together.

I think it may be a combination of things for your SO. He is injured so he cannot do what he normally does. And you are taking charge of your situation. He may feel like he is not in control anymore. A relationship takes time and work. You may have to compromise and make sure you are spending time with him.

Oh for crying out loud your adults and on the day you could spend time together he chose not too and went off to pout. Put your health first you have a child to take care of take care of him but he's an adult not a child he should be acting like an adult. No I'm not harsh have had a blood clot and I didn't expect the world to wait on me and I let my family still have a life. Life goes on.