I Cant Focus!

I know that losing weight is hard. And yes our bodies and metabolisms change as we get older. I don't know if there may have been some major change in your life besides graduation (which is huge, congratulations!), but girl,.....you have to love yourself for more than your looks.You sound like a sweetheart and I am positive you have more to offer than your body. And if your "friends" give you grief for having a few extra pounds, well they're not friends in the first place. By the way, your picture looks as if you don't have an ounce to spare, so please be good to yourself and don't starve!!! I am assuming that you are around 5 feet tall to be shooting for 100 lbs. If you starve yourself, it will come back to you with a vengeance, promise. If you lose weight in a healthy way(which unfortunately is slow), you will feel so much better!! It does seem like the closer you are to your goal weight, the harder it is to shed those last 5-10lbs.

Maybe, concentrate on eating healthy and getting in some exercise everyday. Get any temptations of junk food out of your house, that helps me a lot. If you have extra time to sit and eat, maybe look for something else to fill your time like volunteering somewhere or a healthy hobby.

Hope I don't sound too preachy. Be good to yourself!! You are worth it!!

Claire

How much do you weigh now? Judging by your pictures, you don't need to lose weight - you look almost dangerously thin!!! . Building muscle might be in order, but not weight loss. And building muscle puts weight on. Perhaps you're fighting the wrong battle? Just a thought...

I have to agree with this. I have to admit, I'm a little worried. I used to be super-skinny but with really bad eating habits. So instead of focusing on losing weight (I'm not sure which part of your body it would come off of), maybe focus just on eating healthy. Take it day by day. Fill yourself up with healthy things and you'll see a huge difference in your perspective.

I understand the fear of not being able to control your weight. Sometimes, when other things are out of our control in life, we may end up over-controlling the only thing we can - our weight. Be kind to yourself. Remember, your not just changing what you look like in the mirror, but also need to make a lifestyle change that will stick with you in your later years when gaining weight due to hormones, post-pregnancy, and other problems will arise. You are young, healthy, and beautiful now. Use this time to make yourself as healthy as you can possibly be so you're in a great habit in your 30s, 40s, 70s, 90s.

Sarah, maybe you should focus right now on starting and maintaining the healthy habits that you want to carry you through the rest of your life. At your height and weight it is possible that your body has hit its plateau and cannot get any smaller without resorting to unhealthy measures. You are beautiful and young just the way you are and weight can and WILL become a unhealthy obsession if you don't learn to love yourself just the way you are.
I am certainly not perfect and I haven't weighed 100 pounds since kindergarden, but too I worry about you and anyone else that uses this site or any other method of weight loss to become unhealthy and too thin. I am 5'7, so not much taller than you and I KNOW it gets A LOT harder to lose weight after you get older and have children, so I REALLY think you should not worry so much about what the scale says and maybe challenge yourself to fitness goals instead of weight goals. I am sorry I do not mean to fuss at you, I am just worried for your health, try to understand everything I said is in the most positive of attitudes!!

Sara, I remember your posts from before. Most everyone agreed that you are underweight and tried to get you to want to become healthy and not skinny.
At 5'6" a healthy weight is between 117-143. That is a big range and takes into account the many different body types we have.
You say you are 109 and want to get to 100. You are already very underweight and do not need to lose more.
Again because I care about your health I am suggesting that you seek professional help from your doctor.
Please do not continue on trying to lose weight that you really cannot afford to lose.

Okay, I'm just going to be blunt, because I'm not as nice as everyone else here and I can't stand to see a person making themselves miserable.

You're incredibly thin and more worried about whether a cigarette has sugar than whether it will give you lung cancer and eventually kill you.
It's obvious you have a poor body image and an unhealthy weight goal. I've said it once and I'll say it again--it's about priorities. If you never work on your confidence and self image, you will never become mentally healthy, so you will never become physically healthy. You will always be watching the scale, always wanting a smaller pant size, always thinking you have a muffin top or a roll or some other imperfection, and in reality you'll just be ruining your body. You don't have 10 pounds to lose.

I just want to put it out there that if you are having a hard time accepting your body the way it is that it may be worth talking about it with a counselor or other professional.

That is of course a personal decision, but I think there are a lot of people on here that would benefit from talking about body image with someone.

I have done it (even though I am in a different situation) and found it very helpful.

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Okay, I'm just going to be blunt, because I'm not as nice as everyone else here and I can't stand to see a person making themselves miserable.

You're incredibly thin and more worried about whether a cigarette has sugar than whether it will give you lung cancer and eventually kill you.
It's obvious you have a poor body image and an unhealthy weight goal. I've said it once and I'll say it again--it's about priorities. If you never work on your confidence and self image, you will never become mentally healthy, so you will never become physically healthy. You will always be watching the scale, always wanting a smaller pant size, always thinking you have a muffin top or a roll or some other imperfection, and in reality you'll just be ruining your body. You don't have 10 pounds to lose.

^5, my friend!! Try as I might, when I'm blunt, it doesn't go over as well. Your statement is on point, and shall I say *C*O*S*I*G*N* !!