Any suggestions for someone who's been with the demon for over 30 years

katespalding2014
katespalding2014 Posts: 4 Member
edited November 2024 in Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
Hi, is there anyone who can give me dome inspiration. I am a 54 year old lady who has suffered with this for over 30years. It been extra bad for the last year, my husband and family are at their wits end. I want to be rid of this so badly, it totally messes up my life and my relationships. I am having CBT but it's not helping, I can't commit to making the changes, I'm frightened of so much, loosing control, committing, being brave, failure, judgement. It's almost negative attention seeking. I've tried so many therapies but when it comes down to it, it's me who has to do it, so why can't I????? Thanks xx

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  • tiffanyaiv
    tiffanyaiv Posts: 107 Member
    It is all about deciding that it is more important to be healthy and free then to be so worried and controlled about all of this! The decision is ultimately yours to make!
  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1
  • katespalding2014
    katespalding2014 Posts: 4 Member
    Thank you for replying I've not used one of these forums before. Why can't the sight of my 19year, 6ft3 rugby playing son touch my feelings and make me realise how rubbish this is for everyone, the same sentiments are evident in my 23 year old, 21 year old sons and my wonderful husband. What helps you to take that step into the unknown?
  • dn0pes
    dn0pes Posts: 99 Member
    I used to get on my knees and pray for the willingness to do for me what I need to do for me. I… of my own efforts have destroyed everything of value in my life, only to build it up again to pull it down again. Without God in my life I am hopeless, helpless, a most dismal creature. I think of the serenity prayer – God grant me the courage to change the things I can. The serenity to accept the things I can’t and the wisdom to know the difference. I can do anything, and everything, through my relationship with God. I love my life, and through this program and God I’ve lost about 80lbs and am scheduled to race in a 5k race next Sunday. You are in my prayers.
  • AndreaTayden
    AndreaTayden Posts: 2 Member
    are you talking about an eating disorder?
  • AliceDark
    AliceDark Posts: 3,886 Member
    Build a treatment team. Get into in-patient treatment if you have to. EDs aren't something that you should deal with alone. If you've been dealing with this for 30 years, your family knows that you have a problem; ask them for help.

    Here are some resources:
    https://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources
    http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/


  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    katespalding2014 wrote: »
    Hi, is there anyone who can give me dome inspiration. I am a 54 year old lady who has suffered with this for over 30years. It been extra bad for the last year, my husband and family are at their wits end. I want to be rid of this so badly, it totally messes up my life and my relationships. I am having CBT but it's not helping, I can't commit to making the changes, I'm frightened of so much, loosing control, committing, being brave, failure, judgement. It's almost negative attention seeking. I've tried so many therapies but when it comes down to it, it's me who has to do it, so why can't I????? Thanks xx

    It is terrifying at first, the thought of even putting higher calorie foods on to the fork can make you physically shake. It is a very tough mental battle.

    Do you have a support worker? Can you discuss the possibility of an over night driver maybe? You can beat this, you just need to believe that you can start the journey in to trying to. 1 day at a time, you don't need to commit to any more than that. A hug to you x
  • katespalding2014
    katespalding2014 Posts: 4 Member
    Thank you, it's so reassuring to know that others can relate to what I'm battling with x
  • katespalding2014
    katespalding2014 Posts: 4 Member
    AndreaTayden wrote: »
    are you talking about an eating disorder?
    I absolutely am, I am finding it almost impossible to keep my promises to eat a bit more food with calories in and not do so much excercise but no I still eat veg and little else

  • GaleHawkins
    GaleHawkins Posts: 8,159 Member
    I had to visualize myself in my coffin to get me to leave the junk food set instead of putting it in my mouth. Different techniques work for different people. I do not see it as will power as much as just making a decision and living by it. Yes the first two weeks were hellish without junk food in my case. Yes I know hellish is a subjective term and for some reason I do not remember those two weeks very well but my family does. A demon is a demon but I know now it only has the power that I give it when push come to shove.

    Best of success.
  • RuNaRoUnDaFiEld
    RuNaRoUnDaFiEld Posts: 5,864 Member
    katespalding2014 wrote: »
    AndreaTayden wrote: »
    are you talking about an eating disorder?
    I absolutely am, I am finding it almost impossible to keep my promises to eat a bit more food with calories in and not do so much excercise but no I still eat veg and little else

    It is tiny daily steps that can help you improve. Add in a few seeds to your salads, protein without the fear of a great chunk of meat.
    Pushing yourself to do just 1 more forkful before you put it away.
    Missing a days cardio.

    I hope you have had a good day :)
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