How do you avoid eating because of friends?

make the oreo thing for them and make something healthy for you. you can always eat smaller portions. just because they are eating doesnt mean you have to.

Is there a way you could make the sundaes a bit healthier? Perhaps with lower fat ice cream? And then just have a small portion and don't worry about it. You could also suggest to your friend that you go for a walk around the park or the mall instead of staying in and eating, she might go for it!

Make a small one if you want. Eventually you won't want this stuff.

make the oreo thing for them and make something healthy for you. you can always eat smaller portions. just because they are eating doesnt mean you have to.

I've found this to be really hard (especially with my friends). I tell them to eat what they want and that I just don't want any but they end up feeling guilty and do everything in their power to convince me to eat/drink what they are so they feel better about it. It sucks. That's my #1 struggle. Left to my own devices, I do pretty good.

But I agree with most. Make yourself a smaller sundae and enjoy!! If you don't allow yourself to indulge a bit, you will never stick to your new lifestyle! Just make sure to drink lots of water and save calories throughout the day so you have some leftover

Make a small one if you want. Eventually you won't want this stuff.

I'm still waiting for that day!! LOL!!!:bigsmile:

I have the same problem with going out to the bars with my friends - they're always taking shots and drinking and man, do those calories ADD UP! I discovered my favorite liquor has 69 CALORIES PER OUNCE!!! Gonna have to give that one up. I'm trying to change up my habits with my friends too. For instance, last night I brought Sprite Zero to the bartender and asked her to use it in my drinks instead of regular Sprite. And whenever anyone handed me a shot, I only took half and gave the other to someone else. Not only did I cut the calories in half, but I feel much better today too! lol!

As for the food you can do the same thing, portion control. The Sundae sounds delicious so if you're set on having one just try to alter it, buy the low fat Oreo's and buy a light ice cream

I would plan to eat a small one. You can maybe use lower fat ice cream or frozen yogurt and a small amount of oreos. You could also add some fruit(like strawberries or bananas) to make the sundae and little bigger and fill you up more. There's nothing wrong with icecream(or any other treat) now and again as long as you plan and account for it.

Make a small one if you want. Eventually you won't want this stuff.

I must beg to differ on this point, the part about not wanting good stuff. I've been on this ride for just over a year and I never began it with the expectation that I would cut the foods I love out of my life, but just to be more controlled about what I allow myself. I say allow yourself treats, but just keep them reasonable. Have a smaller portion size than you might normally and then go for a longer run, or whatever you do to be active, earlier during the day or the next. It's all about balance, not abstinence.

or... you could suggest have a small oreo sundae and then go for a nice walk.Or you could make a lower calorie healthier option like low fat vanilla yorgurt with a berry sauce or a smoothie. Also, once you start planning your life around other things rather than food, it gets easier. So next time you two could have a nice walk instead of a desert. For me, i started losing weight when I stopped making food the focal point. good luck!

I find it a lot easier to save up my calories if I'm going to have a big dinner/night/whatever. Just have a small lunch?

Lower fat ice-cream is the way to go though. Frozen yoghurt is even better. And try adding in fruit instead of Oreos? Or perhaps just plain choc ripple biscuits or something. That way you're not eating the creamy filling of the oreos. Or chopped nuts. Mmm...

It's hard around friends and family who don't really get it. My mum is trying to lose weight and she has no concept of how many calories are in something as simple as butter. And when I measure out a teaspoon or ask for less noodles in my soup she gives me crap about it.

So, I have all my calories for those days when I'm around her "saved" so it doesn't look like I'm dieting. I still get my full amount of food, and she doesn't get grumpy. Its also something I employ around friends who get "offended" by healthy eating.

I also vote for the smaller portion.

Such great advice from everyone!!!! This is an awesome thread for newbies to read!

I would totally have the oreo sundae 1 scoop of icecream and 2 oreos BUT i would probably eat grilled chicken and spinach salads for the day to keep my calories low

Find a low fat/ low sugar ice cream or a fat free frozen yogurt and make sure to measure out a serving. Maybe get some different toppings to try out instead of the oreos (i love putting fresh strawberries or pineapple on my ice cream). If you want to be successful you need to learn how to budget your indulgences into your plan instead of trying to avoid them. If you try to completely avoid it you will get to a point that you say screw it and will over indulge. If food is a big part of what you do with your friends, find ways to enjoy it with healthier alternatives. Good luck!