I'm pathetic...

No worries! Venting is OK. You are not pathetic, and I'll wager that a lot of guys have the same story. You can do this. I am also starting to ease myself back into healthy habits (and MFP) after a long hiatus as well, but I am not perfect. I have to develop some habits, and figure out some ways to make it work, but I know that I will get in the groove.
MFP... I love the simplicity of the tracking tools. Being able to add those calories from workouts is like "money in the bank" food wise. I am motivated to work out more so I can EAT more. (*kitten* starvation, am I right?)

You ARE NOT pathetic! I was having the same struggles just a few short months ago. I ate out for EVERY meal. Pizza, burgers, tacos the list goes on and on.. Over a 6 year span, I gained 125+ lbs and I felt like a failure.. like how did I let this happen.. I couldn't walk without getting winded, I was uncomfortable in my clothes, I was frustrated and sad. I got to the point where I felt like I should just except myself as this larger person. But then about 4 months ago I made the decision to lose weight. It wasn't easy when I started and I still have struggles now but everyday is a chance to do better. Someone told me at the beginning of my journey that it isn't about perfection but it is about progress. I've held on to that motto and every time I feel like I failed I remind myself of all the progress I've made. For instance, I used to park right next to the door to my job.. Now I park 2 blocks away and walk. It may not seem like a lot to others but for me that is a huge "win"! You're going to get on track whether it's today, tomorrow, or next month. Just keep trying and don't be too hard on yourself.

You can do this! Many of us have been in your boat...the good thing is that you WANT the change! You've made the first step! Get your plan happening, and start seeing those results! Good luck!! xo

Fantastic that you are ready to make the change and you are taking the necessary steps to make it happen! You are NOT pathetic....you lost your way somewhere, and you are fighting like the dickens to get back on track! That is something to be commended, not shamed, for sure!

And, venting is good! You've got to get rid of the frustration, the anger, the disappointment, the negative, to make room for all the positive that will be coming your way. The beauty is that you know what you CAN and HAVE done, and you know how good it feels to be at that level. You have some seriously good motivation!

You got this! Best of luck to you, man!

I hear you and felt the same way not too long ago. I struggle with food addiction too and it wasn't until I cut out artificial and processed sugar and flour products that I was able to get in control. Once your make the effort not to eat all those processed foods, it really does get easier. I will admit though I went through some crazy mood swings for about 4 weeks (pretty sure it was the sugar detox). After I cut out the flour products, I got really productive at work, my mind was clearer, and it was just great.

I still miss my desserts but there is no way I'm going back to feeling like I was or eating like I was (bingeing and poor food choices).

Feel free to friend me, its a tough start, but its worth fighting for.

Stop saying you are pathetic and speak positive words to yourself. If you think you can, or you think you can't - either way you're right. So think you CAN.

Instead of "I'm pathetic," say:

I am in control of my eating now.
I will be in control of my weight.
I will reach my goals.
I am a beautiful person now.

Bunless cheese burgers with fried garlic mushrooms, half a pizza with salad or sweet potato fries, 3-4 chicken strips with a jacket potato.
You don't have to do without the foods you like. You just need to reduce the portion size or make some lower calorie swaps.
Thinking about how much you are consuming really is the key.

You can get fit again

What happened a year ago that set you off on your current path? There's usually a reason behind it.

To deal with the present; you are not pathetic. Anyone who hasn't been in your situation can't possibly understand the turmoil going on in your head.

Is it possible for the rest of your family to join in with a healthy eating and fitness regime? It's always easier if you have support and encouragement.

MFP has been great for me as it keeps me focused. It makes me accountable for my actions, which I need because I am doing this alone. It is hard at times because I am a comfort eater and like you I don't eat because I'm hungry. I still eat things I like that are high in calories but much smaller portions and only as a treat occasionally. I gained weight after being diagnosed with breast cancer over 2 years ago. Outwards I was ok with it but inside I was a mess. Luckily I'm a survivor (so far). Strangely my kickstart was that I had alife,l, which ended up resulting in arthritis in my knee. If I want to stay mobile I need to lose another 3 stone (already ditched 2 stone) life, not for anyone else but t it takes determination along with the setbacks that will inevitably happen (and has).

A bit of honesty here, like the rest of us YOU are the only one who can make the changes in your life and it needs to be because this is what You want for yourself and NOT because others are nagging you. Life is too short to waste it on regrets, get stuck in and get your life back.

Good Luck, you CAN do it.

wizzybeth wrote: »

Stop saying you are pathetic and speak positive words to yourself. If you think you can, or you think you can't - either way you're right. So think you CAN.

Instead of "I'm pathetic," say:

I am in control of my eating now.
I will be in control of my weight.
I will reach my goals.
I am a beautiful person now.

So many replies to read through BUT I love this one! @clobern80 I often feel the same way about myself, and it's a constant struggle to stay positive. But once we get it through our heads that we are in control we can totally beat this stupid food addiction! I'm a emotional eater so I really do feel pathetic because I lose control when I am emotional and eat all the wrong foods. I think it is important to think we can. Goodluck to you and I hope to see some success from you in the future. YOU CAN do this!!

@clobern80 I think we've all felt pathetic at one time or other. Mine was when I was sitting on the couch watching TV and just couldn't get comfortable because of my fat rolls. I was just. sitting. there. and still was uncomfortable. I did manage to lose about 25 pounds on my own by just making small changes in my diet, starting with switching to diet soda (I just knew I was going to hate this but then realized it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be). I lost 7 pounds, which spurned me on to make other changes.

I really believe that something in your mind changes and all those things you think you can't live without, just fall away. Of course, not everything or I wouldn't still struggle with my food choices (nachos and French fries are my kryptonite, I tell you!). But I've come a long way. I never thought I'd be able to live without so many things. Yet here I am, avoiding cheese cake, pizza (yes, really!), and flour tortillas (no burritos, whattttt?).

About 6 months ago, I started running. RUNNING. Me, the person who always said, "if you see me running, you should probably run too. Clearly I'm trying to avoid death because I never run on purpose." Now I'm on the treadmill three to four times a week and miss it when I don't do it. I still struggle to get to the gym on the weekends because, basically I can be super lazy.

I'm just your average person who struggles daily in this journey. Sometimes I hit my calorie goal, sometimes I'm below, and sometimes I'm so disgusted I avoid tracking a whole meal. Anyone, feel free to add me if you want.

Congratulations on the weightloss.

You're definitely not pathetic! We've all been there! The most difficult step is over when you decide you're willing to change congratulations on your weightloss already!! Keep at it!!