Advice from people who've lost 50+ lbs?

Just keep plodding along.

Choose a goal, and a method of getting there...then stick with it.

operationfitlikejmo wrote: »

I need help.

I know how to lose weight (eat less, move more, calorie deficit and all that) but, I suck at it.

I once lost 40lbs by extremely unhealthy dieting, and it was impossible to maintain and I paid the price by gaining it all back and then some.

Now I have 70lbs to lose and I'm not sure how to start.

I eat extremely unhealthy (fast food, junk food, tons of carbs and barely any protein), so I'm starting by cutting out the fast food completely, and trying to aim for more protein and fat and less carbs. What I'm having problems with is my calorie deficit in that I feel like I'm starving all the time.

So what I'm wondering is, is it okay to start out focusing on eating healthier and hitting my macros, or should I be striving for the calorie deficit from the start? I feel like I should aim for eating better and then cut back once I have that down, but I also can't trust my own thoughts because I know I rationalize my behaviour and eating habits (one does not become obese without some rationalization, right?)

So if anyone can offer advice on what works long term and how to get started, I would appreciate it so much! I don't want a fad diet, I want a lifestyle change and I want to do this right so I never have to do this again!

I think that your method is perfectly fine. Baby steps helped me. IMO it's a good sign that you are trying to plan this as a long term change of habits. Best of luck to you!

The key to sustained weight loss is a change in habits. That's why 30-day diets and the like may work for that time span, but they usually don't actually teach you about how you're supposed to eat, and, more importantly, why. People do these short-term diets, see results, and then go right back to their old habits. People want quick fixes like these, but it doesn't work for long-term results.

"I feel like I should aim for eating better and then cut back once I have that down, but I also can't trust my own thoughts because I know I rationalize my behaviour and eating habits (one does not become obese without some rationalization, right?)"

This is how I started. I didn't initially count calories, just focused on eating better. I made little changes at first: the soda and sweetened coffee was the first to go. Then I actually started making/cooking the majority of my own meals, instead of just buying frozen premade food or getting take-out. I found that this REALLY helped me. It allowed me a lot more control over what I put into my body. I found out I actually liked a lot of vegetables I used to think I didn't, and started eating a lot more veg as a result. Since I had actual control over what I ate, I was able to more accurately track my calories once I started. I realized the portions I used to eat were WAY too big, and adjusted my cooking so I wasn't cooking enough food for two people and eating it all in one meal.

A tip: load up on vegetables. They're super filling, good for digestion, and they can be really yummy without adding a bunch of butter and salt.

Another tip: eat off of a smaller plate. You can't put nearly as much food on it, and if you go back for seconds, I find that I tend to take less. One and a half small plates is less than one large plate piled with food.

Start slow and change your habits. Realize why you need to change your habits and figure out the best way. Maybe don't cut out the fast food completely, but start to wean yourself off of it. Get a small soda and a water instead of a large soda. If you are going to fast food places out of convenience, there are a lot of resources online for making large batches of food that you can then divide for your weekly lunches at work or school.

Source: I lost 60 lbs over two year. I gained back 20 lbs because of sheer laziness and terrible time management, but I'm getting back into things now1

operationfitlikejmo wrote: »

I need help.

I know how to lose weight (eat less, move more, calorie deficit and all that) but, I suck at it.

I once lost 40lbs by extremely unhealthy dieting, and it was impossible to maintain and I paid the price by gaining it all back and then some.

Now I have 70lbs to lose and I'm not sure how to start.

I eat extremely unhealthy (fast food, junk food, tons of carbs and barely any protein), so I'm starting by cutting out the fast food completely, and trying to aim for more protein and fat and less carbs. What I'm having problems with is my calorie deficit in that I feel like I'm starving all the time.

So what I'm wondering is, is it okay to start out focusing on eating healthier and hitting my macros, or should I be striving for the calorie deficit from the start? I feel like I should aim for eating better and then cut back once I have that down, but I also can't trust my own thoughts because I know I rationalize my behaviour and eating habits (one does not become obese without some rationalization, right?)

So if anyone can offer advice on what works long term and how to get started, I would appreciate it so much! I don't want a fad diet, I want a lifestyle change and I want to do this right so I never have to do this again!

I did the opposite, started with the deficit and tweaked the macros later. I never eliminated anything - I'm 75 pounds down and still regularly have hamburgers, pizza, etc. although I eat far fewer donuts, mainly because they don't fill me up, not because I think I can't.

Remember, those who start with a lot of weight to lose can afford to eat more and still have a strong deficit - don't go nuts and try to have a crazy deficit. I ate (and eat) an average of about 1900 per day and still lose a bit above 2 lb/week on average.

Some other things I do:

I time most of my eating to when I am hungriest, which is the evenings. I make do with only light foods (granola bars, etc.) at work so I can put my calories to one really satisfying meal. Works better for me personally, you need to find the meal timing that works for you.

I pre-plan all my meals for the day except I leave a few hundreds calories for snacks. Everything else is logged the day before, and I eat only what I logged, weighing out the portions on a scale. I take note of the meals that really fill me up, and I try to make one of those the core of most of my days, and fill in the rest around it.

Even now, protein is the only macro I try to hit. When I have days like today where most of my food is carb-heavy, I add a protein bar or shake to meet my goals.

Fully agree with giving up nothing you won't give up forever. I see food as a trade-off, not an absolute. I could go and get fast-food burgers and custard, and sometimes I do, but the trade-off is that I'll be a bit hungrier afterwards than if I spent my calories on something more satisfying. It's up to me to decide when it's worth it.

I did the opposite of what you're doing. I started by fitting my fast food, soda and ice cream diet into my calorie goal, and finding that it wasn't enough food, went in search of lower calorie options. I still haven't given up any of that stuff, but I work it into my diet. 68 pounds down since Jan 24 2015. That it works for your lifestyle is what matters most.

operationfitlikejmo wrote: »

I need help.

I know how to lose weight (eat less, move more, calorie deficit and all that) but, I suck at it.

I once lost 40lbs by extremely unhealthy dieting, and it was impossible to maintain and I paid the price by gaining it all back and then some.

Now I have 70lbs to lose and I'm not sure how to start.

I eat extremely unhealthy (fast food, junk food, tons of carbs and barely any protein), so I'm starting by cutting out the fast food completely, and trying to aim for more protein and fat and less carbs. What I'm having problems with is my calorie deficit in that I feel like I'm starving all the time.

So what I'm wondering is, is it okay to start out focusing on eating healthier and hitting my macros, or should I be striving for the calorie deficit from the start? I feel like I should aim for eating better and then cut back once I have that down, but I also can't trust my own thoughts because I know I rationalize my behaviour and eating habits (one does not become obese without some rationalization, right?)

So if anyone can offer advice on what works long term and how to get started, I would appreciate it so much! I don't want a fad diet, I want a lifestyle change and I want to do this right so I never have to do this again!

Put some things back in.
Stop focusing on what is "healthy" and what is not healthy because there is no clear definition of that.
Eat at your calorie number for the day.
Eat enough protein: ground beef, eggs, chicken thighs, bacon, . .
. . . . (any meat or fish or seafood or dairy or eggs or nuts or seeds)
What works long time is spending two or three weeks weighing and logging your food and getting used to the data base. Log everything starting now. Try to log the day before so that you do not encounter surprises.
Check the calorie information at the fast food places you like. Include the options with relatively low calories and a decent amount of protein into your plan.

I dropped carbs too and have lost 95 pounds since Feb 2015. When you drop carbs you should up your fats. My macros work out to be about 5% carbs, 25% protein, 70% fat. The fat keeps me feeling full and I actually eat less doing it this way. I only eat about 1 to 2 meals per day and when I only eat one meal I may have a snack which naturally drops my calories. Low carb keeps your insulin levels low and constant which helps with craving and false hunger feelings. My carbs come in the form of diary, protein, lots of veggies, berries and nuts. The first 2 weeks were the hardest for me but it's been smooth sailing since. Honestly I don't even count calories, I focus on carbs, protein and fats and I'm never starving! It's great! I don't feel like I'm starving myself, I don't feel like I'm missing out, none of that. If I'm honestly hungry I eat and I'm good, no over eating just eating until I'm satisfied. The calories have naturally gotten in line as I've been getting my cravings and hunger back under control. You just have to make sure you have healthy fats (I use lost of animal fats and coconut oil), not processed fats like margarine. Also drop out the processed foods, eat whole natural foods and watch your labels! This way of eating totally goes against what most people follow and I'm ok with that. It's working for me, I'm losing weight and my blood work/pressure is better then ever. Sugar/carbs is very addicting to many people but once you get that stuff out of your diet you will probably feel much better after a bit. But be aware that once you take those carbs out you can't eat a piece of cake or ice cream even if your under your macros because it will knock you out of ketosis (the whole reason why low carb works). I'm not saying you will never be able to again but there are consequences and it will set you back. I've treated myself in the last year but it's very far and few between because it just not worth to me. If you really want to try a low carb diet I would be more then willing to help out with questions. Also check out Butter Bob on You Tube. I send a lot of people to his you tube videos because he has done tons of research and has been living and breathing low carbs for awhile. I've personally learned a lot of things that have helped me from his videos. Does low carb work for everyone, no, but defiantly research it and talk it over with your doctor.

Ninety five pounds down here. I think the error you are making is "all-at-once". You know all the things you want to change. Make a list. Now concentrate on knocking one thing off your list a week. Re-evaluate every week if your strategy is working and if not modify your plan. Only tackle a new thing after you make the old one a habit.

The fast food abstention is a good start. If it were me my target would be "eat home cooked 5 of 7 days a week". I haven't given up any foods. I control my portions instead.

A good second week goal may be "log everything". The key to sustained weight loss is maintaining a modest deficit.

I've lost 60+ so far. Nothing is off-limits unless I decide it's not worth the calories in that moment/that day. Choose a deficit that will work for your hunger level but still give you a steady(ish) loss. Unless you have foods that will absolutely trigger a binge every time you have it, don't deprive yourself. Want chocolate? Fit it in. Want a jack & coke? Fit it in. Want a nice medium rare steak? Fit it in. Understand that weight loss is not linear. As long as there's a downward trend you're doing well. Sometimes you'll do everything right but won't lose, or may even gain some. Sometimes you'll think you completely blew it but wind up down instead. Don't let those wobbles frustrate you or make you give up. Mistakes will happen. Learn from them and move on. Love yourself, accept this is an ongoing process, and make sure whatever you choose to do is something you can do for the rest of your life.

jgnatca wrote: »

Ninety five pounds down here. I think the error you are making is "all-at-once". You know all the things you want to change. Make a list. Now concentrate on knocking one thing off your list a week. Re-evaluate every week if your strategy is working and if not modify your plan. Only tackle a new thing after you make the old one a habit.

The fast food abstention is a good start. If it were me my target would be "eat home cooked 5 of 7 days a week". I haven't given up any foods. I control my portions instead.

A good second week goal may be "log everything". The key to sustained weight loss is maintaining a modest deficit.

I agree with this. Pick one or two small things to work on at a time and wait until you have mastered those things before you add tougher goals.

Think of it this way. If you lived on the second floor and you didn't have stairs, could you jump up that far in one big leap? Of course not. However, if you go up the stairs one step at a time, that distance is something that you can manage. One step at a time!

I never ate much fast or junk food to begin with, so I can't really speak to that issue. It certainly is less of a challenge to be full and satisfied if you are not spending a large part of your calorie budget on empty foods.

What is your daily calorie goal?

My advice is small change do not cut anything entirely you will crave and binge. So this I focused on food first and I must say pre-logging helps. Allow yourself a little of what you fancy so if you like a burger order the smallest one and nothing else. Eventually you wont want it. Find healthier ways of making your junk foods you like.

For me what helped was 1) food and meal planning.
2) having healthy snacks ready to eat
3) making food like burgers
4) focus on calories once you nail this then look at what makes up your calories
5) find exercise you like and will keep doing.

Agree with everyone saying to focus on one thing and don't take on too much. Developing just a single habit and breaking just a single habit is really difficult, typically demanding a lot of focus and conscious effort for most people to successfully do it. Trying to develop or break many habits is ambitious but also in my view is a fools errand.

I would recommend focusing on your calorie goal and adjusting your deficit to something less aggressive if need be.
Losing your extra weight is probably the best healthy thing you can do.

I've lost about 130lbs, I began with calorie counting, then macros and overall nutrition became interesting areas of focus soon afterwards, but my calorie target trumps all else in order of priority. And eating foods I like to eat (much of which is nutritious, but not all is ideal) helps me with adhering to my calorie goal.

I'd focus on hitting calorie goal first. Once you're reliably doing that, focus on nailing macros. Weight loss is all about calories.

After you've got calorie goal and macros down, look at micros.