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No, I don't have anyone like that. When I go to my Dad's he always offers sweets.. as he knows I love them.. But he doesn't know i'm really trying to lose weight now..

Think this is pretty common. I have 2 guys at work who do the exact same thing daily. Its eat these chips, you look pale, thats not good for you etc. to putting biscuit on my desk, or chocolates etc. Just plain annoying.

Your friend may be feeling a little vulnerable that your doing so well. People are just weird lol

My boyfriend is like that. He's super skinny, no matter what he eats, so he'll bring over candy and ice cream, and want to go out to dinner at unhealthy places.
I just tell him that if he's not going to support me, then he wont be coming over here to see me.

It kind of does sound like she is trying to sabotage you, probably because she doesn't have the willpower you do, and she doesn't want anyone else to succeed better than her.
I'd stay away from her for a while, if you can. You don't need someone like that constanting tempting you, when you have done such an amazing job!

You know, my best friend does that to me. But, I know that it is just her way of trying to have fun with me for a day. Even though she knows my struggle to lose weight, she doesn't know how hard it is for me to stay on track. So, I just try to laugh it off and stay strong. She eventually forgets it and moves on to another conversation.

Others that I have mentioned this too said it's because she is jealous, or doesn't want me to be "thinner" than her. Could this be? Are people you have been friends with for over 20 years that petty?

If she's been a good friend that long, I don't think jealousy or competition is her reason for encouraging you to take a "day off". I think it's more likely that seeing you make healthier choices, esp. when they aren't readily available to everyone else in that setting probably makes her feel guilty about indulging in whatever food is served.

People are much more comfortable socially when everyone around them is eating the same stuff that they're eating. I'd try to be polite but firm when she gets on your case and say something like "Thanks. I've worked so hard to lose so much, it can be a slippery slope for me to take "cheat" days, so I would really rather just eat _____ that I brought".

Another strategy for parties is to bring enough of a healthy item to share with everyone, so people who might feel bad about eating fatty, fried, heavy foods while you nibble on carrots (or whatever) is to bring enough of your healthy dish to share. It's funny, but a lot of times, when you bring something healthy to share at an event where most of the food is less healthy, the healthy food is the first to go!

This obviously doesn't work for everything though (like a wedding or something formal), but in situations where it's OK for you to bring your own food, a shared dish for everyone is usually welcome too.

The people in my "real" life are Amazingly supportive!! They totally rally me on and are my rocks!! Most of the people in my "work" life are supportive, but there are a few of them who make comments like "you're too skinny...you have no *kitten*", and my favorite one "oh, she's got an eating disorder" which really stung considering I overcame bulimia when I was younger. They constantly try to get me to eat junk food and I politely turn them down. Keep strong in your quest...screw the haters!!

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"you're too skinny...you have no *kitten*", and my favorite one "oh, she's got an eating disorder" which really stung considering I overcame bulimia when I was younger.

Just read that there now...Christ Almighty what is wrong with some people????...seriously. I do wonder at how anybody can be so hurtful and nasty.

My mom is like that. But, I think it is for different reasons than your friend.

I lost a bunch of weight the summer before my senior year and started getting a lot of male attention from people who didn't know I even existed before. My best friend was used to being the skinny one and getting all that attention when we would go out bowling or to other events. She stopped inviting me out as much and things got really weird. It could be a bit of jealously, but it could also be that she doesn't have your willpower, and when she sees you doing so well, she feels guilty about what she's eating and misery loves company! Keep being strong and sticking to your guns. Obviously you are doing something right!

This is so true - being the proverbial 'fat friend' you get the cast offs from the skinny friend - so to speak (horrible I know). Actually, the people I've met through my fat friend days were actually great people, who, like me felt there were letting their skinny friend 'off the lead' lol!! Quite an unhealthy relationship in retrospect - and I didnt realise it at the time.

Can i just say, my 'terminology' above is what was quoted to me by my now 'Ex-skinny friend' who eventually couldnt handle that I developed the art of caring conversation with people because of him abandoning me for so long - and when i lost the weight, well - lets just say the ladies didnt flock to him anymore lol!!