Losing on my own

You can have some pie too as long as it stays within your calorie deficit.

At first, I was making a separate dinner for myself, too. After about a week, I realized that nonsense of double cooking every night was going to burn me out and make me resentful. I eat what my family eats, just a smaller portion if it's calorie rich, and fill the rest of the plate with salad greens or veggies. Another way is I keep breakfast and lunch low cal, but filling, and then I can have plenty of cals for dinner.

I have 2 concurrent thoughts on this:

1. You can eat what they eat if you want it, fit it in your daily calories, add more veg as a side, work out the portion that fits your calorie goal and have at it; and

2. Why would you not want your family to eat "healthy" too? I'm not saying whack them on a calorie controlled plan, but my husband eats what I cook, he might have some extra or different sides, but I am eating better for health not just weight loss, and even people who don't need to lose weigh can benefit from a more balanced diet in other ways. I just kind of think that I got to need to lose weight eating my own cooking, so continuing to feed him that same stuff may just end in him needing to lose weight down the track.

Perhaps you can find a happy medium where you cook things you all enjoy and fit within your calorie goal?