Fear of saggy skin and wrinkles

The post below about "what you miss" made me think of something that I fear about losing weight. I'm 38 and have 50 lbs to lose. I'm excited, but scared of the skin and wrinkles!! Not that I'm proud of my fat, but when I take my clothes off it's firm and smooth, my face has few wrinkles because the fat stretches it out! Lol I've seen friends lose a lot of weight and they now look older, they've even shown me their stomaches and it's droopy. Not that this will stop me, but it is a fear. Is there any truth about reducing this by losing at a slower pace???

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  • ilex70
    ilex70 Posts: 727 Member
    Biggest factors:

    How long you were heavy.

    Your personal genetics/elasticity.

    The general consensus is you need to maintain the lower weight 2 years to find out how well your skin tightens up.

  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    Skin can take 2 years to bounce back, so whether you lose in 6 months or a year, it's just not going to make a difference (in my case, I've been at this weight for 2 years and I haven't noticed ANY difference, for what it's worth). It depends on how long you were overweight, your age, your genetics, and how overweight you are, pretty much.

    I have loose skin... under my chin (ugh), in the inside of my thighs, under my arms, and the worst of it on my belly (over the belly button and the lower part). The hard part is realizing that you won't reach the aesthetic goal you were aiming for.. at this point the more inches I lose, the worse it gets... and yeah I don't look too good naked... but I look good in clothes. I look older, IMO, but my goal isn't that low (a bit over the mid range for healthy BMI) so I don't have a very skinny face... I'd probably look older if I lost more.

    Despite everything, it's still worth it just to be healthier, fitter, and not running out of breath all the time.
  • Expatmommy79
    Expatmommy79 Posts: 940 Member
    Nothing a tummy tuck, Botox and fillers won't fix.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    I would rather have a bit of sag on an otherwise fit body than skin that is firm and smooth because it's filled out with excess fat. That is what it comes down to, for me. I look younger, or at least more age appropriate now that I'm 50 lbs lighter. Before, I looked like a frumpy middle aged Midwestern mom. Now I look like a fit and healthy 39 yo.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    i think the losing at a slower rate is a myth.
  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    You are smart to be doing this now- you may rebound nicely (though maybe not to the level you might hope). I've got a decade on you and have spent most of my adult life in the obese range. I'm starting to come to terms with the fact that this is going to be a permanent consequence of how disrespectfully I've treated my body all of these years. And yep, I look my age now. But I feel great (except for the whole perimenopausal thing) :)
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    ive lost 70 and dont have saggy skin. i do have more to lose, but at this point, all is fine :)
  • flaminica
    flaminica Posts: 304 Member
    I have lost 80 so far and I have age and genetics against me--over 50 with brittle skin. Yes, I have lots of loose skin, but I've also been told I look twenty years younger nevertheless.

    In my opinion, vanity-based reservations over loose skin are not a reason to not lose weight. No one but you will ever see most of it, and the multitude of physical and psychological health benefits more than outweigh it. Some sagging skin versus being obese? Not even a contest.

    I also agree with @besaro regarding rate of loss. I've yet to see anyone produce peer-reviewed data on the relationship between skin elasticity and rate of weight loss. I think that people who lose the weight quickly just notice it more.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    besaro wrote: »
    i think the losing at a slower rate is a myth.

    Agreed.

    Slower loss rates reduce the lag time between weight loss and shrinkage rate but I've yet to see anything indicating that they affect the final 2 years after the end of weight loss excess skin (or lack thereof) results.
  • spzjlb
    spzjlb Posts: 599 Member
    I'm 51 and lost 30 lbs last year. It may have been my post that got you concerned. All I can do it repeat: my happiness at being slim and fit with defined muscles greatly surpasses my irritation with a few wrinkles. But then, a few wrinkles are not unusual for women my age.

    I love being 50+ and much of this feeling is because I'm now happy with my body. Don't worry about a few wrinkles as there are other things at are more important in life about which we should be preoccupied.
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    edited January 2016
    I'm 46, and constantly amazed by the little changes I'm noticing as I age...my face is skinnier, and I can now count the wrinkles, my skin doesn't have that pretty glow people used to compliment me for, my hair doesn't shine like it use to, my skin on my body isn't even the same texture anymore... you name it....But Guess what? No one is getting younger!!! Not you, not me, not the pretty, young things at the gym......Please try not to let something like skin and how it changes affect your life, because it will happen eventually no matter what you do or don't do. We need to be happy with ourselves, at all stages. Self improvement is a wonderful thing, but being realistic about life changes makes them easier to deal with as they happen. Good luck xo

    Edited: I forgot to say, I've heard that if you don't lose too much too fast, and try to do lots of bodyweight exercises and lift some, you can combat the loose skin on the belly. It didn't work for me, but you never know!
  • angelamaryhanes
    angelamaryhanes Posts: 1 Member
    I've lost 70 pounds (18 more to go!) and yes, I have some saggy skin on my lower abdomen, arms, upper thighs. But I would rather have a little saggy skin than the 70 pounds back. Besides once I get to goal and see what it looks like after a year - some minor skin removal on my lower tummy doesn't seem nearly as daunting as losing weight. And the scar....well a scar can be hidden easier than the weight!! Btw I'm 39 and losing the weight has made me look younger. :)
    And feel younger!!
    You'll thank yourself - especially when you look at your before pictures!!
    Besides like previous posters have mentioned, it may not even happen to you - don't let 'what if' roadblocks get in your way!

    Stats: F/39
    Start: 223
    Current: 153
    Goal: 135
    Journey started 8/11/2014
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    I would rather have a bit of sag on an otherwise fit body than skin that is firm and smooth because it's filled out with excess fat. That is what it comes down to, for me. I look younger, or at least more age appropriate now that I'm 50 lbs lighter. Before, I looked like a frumpy middle aged Midwestern mom. Now I look like a fit and healthy 39 yo.

    This..exactly...and btw, you look awesome!
  • TaraMizzou
    TaraMizzou Posts: 7 Member
    Thanks for all the comments!! this is the first time I am choosing to lose weight for reasons that are not related to my appearance, I want to be healthy! That is my main goal! The appearance changes will be a big bonus! Skin and wrinkles won't stop me, but it is something I thought about. I will cross that bridge when I get there, right now I just want to get this weight off!!!
  • newheavensearth
    newheavensearth Posts: 870 Member
    I've come to accept that I will have loose skin and stretch marks on my lower stomach .At least I'll have a better prize at the end of this journey- good health, self respect , and confidence. Those outweigh any body flaws. Besides, how many of us can truly say we have perfect bodies after all the dieting and exercise in the world? ;)
  • pstegman888
    pstegman888 Posts: 286 Member
    A lot of people who do very restrictive diets seem to end up very gaunt and grey-complected. I believe that a good dietary balance, with plenty of protein and healthy fats, and plenty of water, keeps the complexion looking fresh and lively. And of couse, stay as active as possible to keep a good muscle base under the skin and good circulation for that healthy glow. A smiling face goes a long way to improving the appearance, too!
  • dmaclark71
    dmaclark71 Posts: 1 Member
    I'm 44. Have lost 89 lbs from my highest weight of 262. Yes I have skin especially my neck, but I will never let it define how I look because I FEEL a million times better. When guys whistle at me in jeans at my age I know I have earned that, and heck they will never see what's tucked inside those jeans! LOL. Honestly being "skinny" is a reminder of where I've been and where I will never be again so I will take it, own it, and use it. Do I look older? I don't know, maybe. No one has said I do, but if they are just being polite I still don't care because now I can take my grandson skating, skiing, and sliding!! Before I would have said let's just watch another movie! It's worth every wrinkle!
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    I am 40, have lost 90 pounds and have no wrinkles on my face.

    It's not an inevitability.
  • mrtastybutt
    mrtastybutt Posts: 87 Member
    I think that some of it may just be down to genetics too. My weight has bounced around due to to everything from pregnancy, to health, to surgery, meds, you name it. I've yet to get the saggy skin syndrome. *knocks wood*
  • middlehaitch
    middlehaitch Posts: 8,486 Member
    I lost my weight in my 50's and am 62 now. When I initially reached my goal my face was gaunt, rather than having extra wrinkles, an this made me look miserable.
    However after about a year my face had adjusted to the lesser amount of subcutaneous fat, and though slimmer, is no more wrinkled than it was before.
    It did take time for me to adjust to not having chubby little cheeks.

    With regards to the fast vs slow loss difference in skin elasticity/retraction.
    I think the slower loss gives one a better chance of hitting nutrition goals, above minimal, so the skin is healthier. Healthier skin will probably allow, genetics aside, for a better response when weight is lost.
    Kind of like muscles, bones, organs, etc are optimised by good nutrition.

    Just my thought, don't have any science behind me.

    Cheers, h.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Look into gelatin / collagen, may give you a slight helping hand. Great Lakes do a good one
  • tracie_minus100
    tracie_minus100 Posts: 465 Member
    I've lost 94. I do have some saggy skin. Not a lot, but some. Sure I wish it wasn't saggy. But I would take the saggy skin over the excessive fat I had there before any day of the week.
    I don't have wrinkles. And since I lost the weight, I've been told by several people that I look younger!
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    Yep, a lot of it has to do with genetics...but there are other factors, such as:

    -nutrition (low sugar, sufficient fats)
    -smoking
    -environmental exposures
    -sun exposure
    -hydration
    -skin care, moisturization

    So, keep losing weight and slap on some extra sunscreen. :)
  • BurnWithBarn2015
    BurnWithBarn2015 Posts: 1,026 Member
    edited January 2016
    For me it was no question at all. My health is more important than some wrinkles or a saggy skin.

    And after losing my weight and looking at it...its not that bad. Its not beautiful or nice dont get me wrong. But i can live with it np at all.
    I am fit, stronger, and healthier and for who ever dont like a wrinkle or a saggy skin....well dont look at me. I didn't ask them to.

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  • Annr
    Annr Posts: 2,765 Member
    I personally think if people go into this weight loss journey with the idea of pure aesthetics then that is all they see. Granted I have only lost 30 lbs in my journey, but my goal is to move thru this world easier, to be a bit more graceful and willowy. I wish to live a long live with my husband. I wish to see my sons grow into adults, to be healthy to be a "hip grandma". All these things shall not be measured by how much saggy skin I have or don't have. Look at the whole picture. For me, living an honest life, happy in my skin is what its all about.