How do you get your hubby's help in this?

Tell him you appreciate the gesture but next time please make you something healthy instead. Tell him you are working on being healthy so that you will be around for a long time!!!


Memaw

I had that problem last year when I was losing a bunch of weight. After I lost 50lbs, he finally said "OK, I'm in, you are obviously doing something right. So this year he is side by side with me on our mission together.

i feel the same way!!! :ohwell: my fiancee actually prefers me with the extra weight!!! :huh: i likes me at exactly the weight i am (which just happens to be one of the highest weights i have ever been :mad: ). i find it so hard to stick to the eating portion especially because he loves to cook and is himself kinda fat and happy at the moment!! :frown:

Check out this article on the Prevention website, it's called, "Dieting with the Enemy, Are Friends and Family Making You Fat?" It tells why our loved ones may be sabotaging us (sometimes unintentionally) and how we can keep going. Hope it helps.

http://www.prevention.com/cda/article/dieting-with-the-enemy/aa0968f271903110VgnVCM10000013281eac____/weight.loss/strategies.for.success/support.for.weight.loss/0/0/2

Mine is thin and eats a lot. He just went to the doctor and is now on high blood pressure and high cholesterol medicines. I thought good now is a great time (selfishly) for us to start eating basically fruits, vegetables, whole grains and some lean protein which is what I have been trying to do but it is almost impossible if you have a family eating other crap. Well when I talked to him about nutrition, etc. he told me that the Dr. told him point blank that his problems were hereditary and that all he has to do is take the meds and not change his eating that he can not blame it on being over weight or smoking or anything like that. UGH what - I think doctors should push nutrition more. So here I go trying to get around the junk food

I just ignore my husband. :laugh:

I've been a size 2 to a size 16 and back again since we've been together.
Naturally he quietly prefers the smaller me, which do I, but he's never said anything negatively either way.

He wines about wanting to lose weight, but won't do anyhing about it.
I've tried for a couple of years to get him out and about like we use to be, but no dice.
Nothing sticks more than a day or 2.
If he wants to do a physical activity, I stop what I'm doing and participate with him.
But, I just ignore him and don't let his sedentary life affect mine.
I know how I look the best, and I know I can once again work hard and get to my happy weight.
I'm in control of my own happiness and wellbeing.

I workout 5-7 times a week, I do all the cooking, so I'm in total control of all foods.
We never fry foods and rarely eat out or have ready made meals.

We're child free, so we just don't keep any junk food in the house, just light popcorn and sugar free/fat free puddings.

So I've laid out all the groundwork for him.
All he has to do is get up and exercise, but until that day happens, he's not going to bring down my momentum!

There are sometimes when you just have to put yourself first! :flowerforyou:

Just stick with it. He'll realize you're serious and come around. That's what happened with my husband.

All I can say is sometimes they will surprise you...REALLY surprise you. This weekend I helped my hubby set up an account on mfp (not very computer literate). I can't believe it! We have both been entering our calories and working out. I am telling you, I never imagined he would be asking me, "Do you know how many calories are in..." or "If I work out this long, how many calories do you think I'll burn?" It's kind of blowing my mind

Then I guess this is a good thing...I can't cheat when he's around.

Here's what I suggest: he baked cookies for you - yummy cookies? OK, then take one or two (and I mean 1 or max 2), enjoy it and say "wow, delicious, thanks" and stop there. It is HARD, I know, but you make it a point in showing "I'm not on a freaking diet, but I'm not going to put garbage in my system , nor am I going to forbid things. I know the balance".

Also, try to cook healthy, but also tasty. Put spices instead of extra salt, make a fruit salad as an alternative to his cookies, or mix curd with fruit to give a dessert option. My hubby's family also eats fatty and he found my cooking rather bland (never complained, always ate it, but sometimes later joked about me always cooking diet food ). I think the truth is somewhere in the middle, so try show him that this lifestyle does not mean eating bland food, but rather limiting the treats, which don't bring anything healthy in your system anyway.

"We eat to live and not live to eat", right? (boy, does this sound tough to me :embarassed: )

Hope this helped a bit :blushing:

what great advice you're getting.

also tell him that you wanting to lose weight is not just for you but for the wole family, you want to be te best mom you can be to your 2 kids and it requires a lot of energy to keep up with them. you want to be able to play with them and go bike riding and hiking and the more weight you have on the harder that is not to mention what it can do to your health. and you want to be the best wife you can be which i'm sure will be more fun in the bedroom if you're 20 ls lighter :flowerforyou: