So discouraged

anyrmca84
anyrmca84 Posts: 25 Member
edited February 2016 in Motivation and Support
I am hoping you guys can help motivate me. I was doing good and then I got knocked down so to speak 3 times and now I'm discouraged. How do you deal with the discouragement of not being where you think you should be or where you want to be? How do you deal with being rejected because of your weight?
So yesterday morning I told a friend of mine that I had weighed and lost 4 pounds. I was pretty excited. I know it's just 4 pounds and not more but it was a loss and I was excited. My friend looks at me and says.."you're excited over 4 pounds? That's not much."
Them later yesterday a different friend of mine asked me for a recent picture and I sent one. The friend then asked me "do you have one where you're less fat?"
Then today I was told by a guy that he didn't want to be with someone who was as heavy as I am.
I thought I was making progress. I knew it wasn't much. I knew that. But to be knocked down like that just broke my heart.
Any advice or encouraging words?

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  • foreverslim1111
    foreverslim1111 Posts: 2,632 Member
    A true friend should care enough about your feelings not say such things to you - rather they would be supportive of your efforts to lose weight. Let these people know when they hurt your feelings and if they continue, find some new people to hang with. You don't need that negative energy in your life. And, don't give up on yourself and let them win.
  • anyrmca84
    anyrmca84 Posts: 25 Member
    Thanks! I'm trying hard not to give up but I'm discouraged. Thanks for your kind words.
  • foreverslim1111
    foreverslim1111 Posts: 2,632 Member
    Some people are jealous or threaten by success - don't let those people take it away from you. Honestly there are lots of people here on MFP that have gone through this same experience. Keep reading these threads and you will learn how other's cope. You can add me as a friend if you like.
  • anyrmca84
    anyrmca84 Posts: 25 Member
    Okay thanks. You are so sweet
  • bellabonbons
    bellabonbons Posts: 705 Member
    Sounds as if you have some pretty negative friends who don't realize or see the beautiful person you are. I would say find some great positive encouraging new friends as soon as possible and hold them close and place at a far distance the people in your life who is putting you down. Take great care of yourself, you are worth it. :)

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