motivation

This is a tough one...are these "friends what you would call "close" or just the "sometimes" kinda friends? I have found with some of my friends and even family they didn't seem supportive in my journey...and I would take it personal...but I thought maybe it is because they aren't sure how to support me or with a few it might be they need to be making some of the same changes and aren't ready yet. I decided to find support here @ MFP and that has gotten me through some tough days. Best of luck!

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"Well they are some of my best friends, and even on top of not being supportive-- they also tell me i can't do it...because im not fit enough...and i'm like well DUH, that's the friggin point!"
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That is really sad...you prove them wrong...you can do this even without their support!

I can feel you when it comes to dealing with your "friends." Sometimes friends are not true. On the other hand, you have to remember many of your friends and even family will not be able to cheer you on or give you advice, because they cannot. When I lost the weight, it was largely on my own. It was not because my friends and family were not there, but it was because they did not have the experience to push me. I come from a family composed of members who are very large. They, themselves, fight with weight issues. I always wished they had joined me on my journey in regaining my health, but, alas, they did not. Maybe you can do better. I am happy to say, I have convinced TWO of my cousins to take care of their health and they have lost more than 100 pounds! I still push others to join me today. It is very hard to find a motivation. There will be slumps, but you have to dig deep and motivate yourself. Nevertheless, you will find support. We are here to support you! You will also find a few in your life who genuinely see your passion for health. Ultimately, my message is that your motivation has to be your own! I hope this helps. Here are a few things to think about:

You are young!
You have a whole life to explore!
You will be able to find clothes to wear! (ON SALE!)
You can be the change in someone else's life!
You can prevent the onset of diabetes, alzheimer's, cardiovascular disease, arthritis, and even cancer!
Food can become your friend, eating healthy can regulate your digestive system well! (I am sensitive to junk food).
You can participate in many intense sports (white water rafting, swimming, bungie jumping, etc)
Your perception of self will improve.

I think it is important to surround yourself with people who support your choices. If your friends don't at least support your decisions they are not really your friends. Good friends support you no matter their personal beliefs. This website is great for lending support and motivation. Feel free to friend me.