Crappest food intake ever feeling embarrassed!!

I didn't realise people on here can view your food diary

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  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    stretch002 wrote: »
    I didn't realise people on here can view your food diary

    #feelingembarrsed#
  • FiNnY22
    FiNnY22 Posts: 126 Member
    haha is it that bad?
  • Melmo1988
    Melmo1988 Posts: 293 Member
    You can set it to private.
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Oh can you how do I do that xx
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Yes it is that bad read it
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,232 Member
    The default is closed. If people can see, it, you have made it public. If you don't want to be embarrassed that people can see it, I'd suggest:

    a) not making it public;
    b) not starting threads about how embarrassed you are that it is public; and
    c) not inviting people who post in your thread about how embarrassed you are that it is public to go and have a look for themselves.
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Thankyou for those wise words
  • Itisibigj39
    Itisibigj39 Posts: 196 Member
    The default is closed. If people can see, it, you have made it public. If you don't want to be embarrassed that people can see it, I'd suggest:

    a) not making it public;
    b) not starting threads about how embarrassed you are that it is public; and
    c) not inviting people who post in your thread about how embarrassed you are that it is public to go and have a look for themselves.

    Well said
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Nice
  • blankiefinder
    blankiefinder Posts: 3,599 Member
    What's with the inappropriate flagging? #yourusingthemwrong #rules
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Has anybody considered that I'm new on here and don't quite understand the workings of this site yet???!!!! Wish that was all I had to worry about. Came on here for support NOT AGRO. Nice !!!!!!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,232 Member
    Hon, if you would like someone to have a look at your diary and give feedback, you just need to ask. If you want to vent about the food you eat and get some advice or support, you also just need to ask.

    Lots of people start threads asking others to review their diaries and give feedback. You don't need to pretend that you didn't know it was public and do the whole "omg, that's so bad, don't look! no, really, please don't look!" thing to get people to engage with you.
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Oh my lord. I don't actually know what to say to that Unbelievable.
  • tcatcarson
    tcatcarson Posts: 227 Member
    stretch002 wrote: »
    Oh my lord. I don't actually know what to say to that Unbelievable.

    The directness of the MFP boards can be overwhelming at first. People can expect more of a Facebook style love-in, but that's not how it ends up.

    Embrace people's honesty and experience here and your food intake will be less crap before you know it.
  • marmitebirdie
    marmitebirdie Posts: 26 Member
    Wow some judgemental people on here! We are all part of the same journey, We are on here as we want to be healthier!!! So embrace someone for messing up on one day,its not like we all eat perfectly ALL year round!!! Shame on those accusing her of attention seeking. Negativity helps no one
  • ktekc
    ktekc Posts: 879 Member
    To be fair, if her diary is open she would have had to open it. Acting suprised that it is open is kind of wierd. But to each their own. Good luck in your journey OP. My advice is to dip one toe at a time in the forums to develop a thick skin and avoid chit chat and games til you have become immune to wierd and monotonous.
  • marmitebirdie
    marmitebirdie Posts: 26 Member
    could be a genuine mistake, as none of us know her personally (ive added her so hopefully will be able to get to know a bit) we cant assume either way. Good luck on urs too. I want everyone to do what they can and hopefully enjoy the journey. I have low days where i eat bad and feel awful but i have a friend on here who is dieting too so we vent. Maybe ppl need these forums to vent if theres no one around to talk to. Good luck everyone! :D Peace x
  • Phrick
    Phrick Posts: 2,765 Member
    could be a genuine mistake, as none of us know her personally (ive added her so hopefully will be able to get to know a bit) we cant assume either way. Good luck on urs too. I want everyone to do what they can and hopefully enjoy the journey. I have low days where i eat bad and feel awful but i have a friend on here who is dieting too so we vent. Maybe ppl need these forums to vent if theres no one around to talk to. Good luck everyone! :D Peace x

    oh honey you're in for a rude awakening! This is one of the nicer, gentler forum settings on the internet. At least no one is going out of their way to be nasty (although it seems you think they are). Buckle up!
  • marmitebirdie
    marmitebirdie Posts: 26 Member
    I dont need to toughen up miainly cos its not aimed at me. Like i said i talk to my best friend who is on the same weight loss journey as me. Also a great believer in "if u cant say anything nice" the comments upset her so I thought they were unnecessary. Im a sunshine person, water off a ducks back and all that so thanks for the heads up but I'm fine :P
  • thiosulfate
    thiosulfate Posts: 262 Member
    Your diary is set private by default. You have to literally have to change settings to open it up, which implies you knew it would be opened. Unless of course, you didn't understand what MFP meant by this: 8a06f45d4f.png
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Well thankyou marmitebirdie for your kindness. I can't see those options you have there thiosul fate, does it depend which device you're on ? I'm just unsure as I'm new here.
  • thiosulfate
    thiosulfate Posts: 262 Member
    Are you on mobile or PC?

    If Mobile:
    Click on More (bottom right) -> Settings -> Diary Settings -> Diary Sharing

    If PC:
    Click My Home tab -> Diary Settings-> Scroll down to bottom of page
  • crb426
    crb426 Posts: 661 Member
    I don't think OP is looking for some sort of false sympathy. Calm down people.

    I have mine set to private (so I thought), but didn't know that adding friends makes it so they can then see everything I do. When I made a friend, then saw that they "liked" that I worked out that morning, it freaked me out. I stopped making friends with anyone simply because I don't like that aspect of MFP. I like to be all by myself in my diary.

    It would be nice if veteran posters would not immediately go on the attack.
  • stretch002
    stretch002 Posts: 17 Member
    Are you on mobile or PC?
    I'm on my iPhone. Will try that Thankyou. Couldn't of said that better myself crb 426
    If Mobile:
    Click on More (bottom right) -> Settings -> Diary Settings -> Diary Sharing

    If PC:
    Click My Home tab -> Diary Settings-> Scroll down to bottom of page

  • blankiefinder
    blankiefinder Posts: 3,599 Member
    crb426 wrote: »
    I don't think OP is looking for some sort of false sympathy. Calm down people.

    I have mine set to private (so I thought), but didn't know that adding friends makes it so they can then see everything I do. When I made a friend, then saw that they "liked" that I worked out that morning, it freaked me out. I stopped making friends with anyone simply because I don't like that aspect of MFP. I like to be all by myself in my diary.

    It would be nice if veteran posters would not immediately go on the attack.

    I can't imagine what you saw in here that was an attack, other than someone flagging people for abuse, which is not what the abuse flag is for. The abuse flag is for hate speech and pornography, basically.

    If you don't want friends to be able to see that you worked out, you can change what friends see by (on the website) clicking settings in the top right corner, then select 'Automatic News Feed Update Settings', pick and choose what you want from the list and then 'save changes'

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  • marmitebirdie
    marmitebirdie Posts: 26 Member
    not sure what flagging is so i never use it. TBH i dont often use forums but I saw this and was curious as i have the occasional "crap" day. its ok stretch002 Im happy to give kindness where kindness is due :D x
  • mgr8888
    mgr8888 Posts: 1 Member
    Wow... People are just mean and it seems like we are all on the same journey. My dairy is public and I didnt make it that way. However I dont care who sees what I eat. It actually is a good accountability partner. To the one that started the blog, please ignore people who criticize and are just plain mean. They call it honesty but it isnt. Its a way to be rude and mean. Not all of use are that way. Some of us were raised with manners and respect. Good luck on your journey and remember its all about you.
  • marmitebirdie
    marmitebirdie Posts: 26 Member
    mgr8888 wrote: »
    Wow... People are just mean and it seems like we are all on the same journey. My dairy is public and I didnt make it that way. However I dont care who sees what I eat. It actually is a good accountability partner. To the one that started the blog, please ignore people who criticize and are just plain mean. They call it honesty but it isnt. Its a way to be rude and mean. Not all of use are that way. Some of us were raised with manners and respect. Good luck on your journey and remember its all about you.

    Well said :D x
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  • snickerscharlie
    snickerscharlie Posts: 8,578 Member
    mgr8888 wrote: »
    Wow... People are just mean and it seems like we are all on the same journey. My dairy is public and I didnt make it that way. However I dont care who sees what I eat. It actually is a good accountability partner. To the one that started the blog, please ignore people who criticize and are just plain mean. They call it honesty but it isnt. Its a way to be rude and mean. Not all of use are that way. Some of us were raised with manners and respect. Good luck on your journey and remember its all about you.

    What blog?

    What rudeness and mean-ness? And how is *you* calling others mean and rude not, um, mean and rude? <baffled>