All I could think was.."are you freakin serious"!

Learnin2LuvMe
Learnin2LuvMe Posts: 465 Member
edited September 28 in Motivation and Support
So I went to my nephews bday party today,feeling pretty good.i had hit my 30 lbs lost mark,bought a super cute outfit,was able to get in some skinny jeans,so I felt pretty fly overall. So I get to the party and my sis in laws family is all there,people that I know but don't see often..well I was with my sis and she has lost so much weight from past yrs and has kept it off. She has always had problems with her weight but the past two yrs has maintained it. Well some girl that knows us starts complementing my sis on how great she looked and im standing there just smiling being proud of my sis,cus shes my inspiration n so proud of her,then this girl turns to me n tells me you should learn something from her and get rid of those hips,she says your pretty but could lose some weight..i was like,are u freakin kiddin me..for some one to say that and not know how much ive worked my butt off! Thank goodness my sis backed me up before I could say anything,but that really made me upset..i can't stand people that are ugly like that. It honestly just motivated me even more,so shame on her! I just really wanted to vent cus it did upset me at that moment.. This is the second time this has happened to me and I still can't understand why people are like this...oh well i'm the one thats "winning"!

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  • LolasEpicJourney
    LolasEpicJourney Posts: 1,010 Member
    That is incredibly insensitive! You have come a long way so far! Be proud :)
    You are doing fabulous and I am sure you looked absolutely drop dead gorgeous!!!
  • wantconfidence
    wantconfidence Posts: 47
    she was probably just hating cuz u looked so good some ppl mostly chicks like to down others to make themselves feel good
    your doing an awesome job so keep up the good work and next time u see them their jaw will drop looking good is the best revenge
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Wow. What a rude *****. Seriously, who behaves like that?
  • Kelly_Wilson1990
    Kelly_Wilson1990 Posts: 3,245 Member
    How rude!!
  • barbiex3
    barbiex3 Posts: 1,036 Member
    wow.. some people are really rude. It's okay tho! =]
  • bjohs
    bjohs Posts: 1,225 Member
    Just relish in the fact that you can't fix stupid! You will continue with your journey and reach your personal goals. Keep your chin up... it sounds like you are a strong woman and will get through anything! Congratulations on being beautiful on the inside as well as out. :)
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    That was really rude and uncalled for... but, I've learned that people c an be very insensitive.

    Because I am grumpy and have low tolerance for stupidity -- I would have said "Well, I am working on losing my hips -- are you working on your personality?"
  • magpie8402
    magpie8402 Posts: 121 Member
    You should have totally bitten her head off with a back-handed complement or something. All kidding aside, 30 lbs is a lot and you should be very proud of what you've done so far!
  • tappytaptap
    tappytaptap Posts: 46
    that girl sounds like a troll.. i would have slapped her
  • sustainableandsimple
    sustainableandsimple Posts: 3
    The world is a better place with people like you in it... and as for the insensitive woman.... sure hope she gets some help and stops hurting people with her cruelty. hater.
  • rtmama
    rtmama Posts: 403 Member
    What a terrible thing to say! I'm so sorry! Don't let it get you down, just keep pushing forward toward your goal!
  • bmmadden
    bmmadden Posts: 499 Member
    i know what you mean I had lost weight between my second and third child 65 lbs to be exact and my sister in law at the time (I am now divorced from that family) had just gotten gastric bypass and lost over 100 lbs and the first 100 was just sittting on her butt I lost my full 65 on my own and every time we had a family occassion I barely got a compliment and I did it the right way
  • anotherana
    anotherana Posts: 16
    i would have been like "girl have you seen the mirror recently? i can loose weight but your problem... its going to take surgery and lots of it."
  • d_llopez
    d_llopez Posts: 167 Member
    I wouldn't sweat it., the only opinions that matter are the positive ones. Keep your head up and don't let useless words hurt you.
  • mattbryan
    mattbryan Posts: 147
    You have nothing to feel bad about. The comment was rude, because it's just in bad taste.....period! But to make things worse, it's someone that doesn't even know you that well...the gall is amazing. Too bad your sis didn't escort her to the door....lol! Keep your chin held high and keep up the hard work!
  • Inspiredtobe
    Inspiredtobe Posts: 53 Member
    wow that's hella rude! I also hate people like that, they just need to stfu. Don't listen to her because someday you will prove her wrong and she won't got nothing to say. You're going to get there, I know you will! Don't you ever give up and don't let those kinds of words get to you. Turn all those remarks into motivation! You will get there and you will be happy and confident! I believe in you, gurl!
    Stay healthy and strong! (:
  • Learnin2LuvMe
    Learnin2LuvMe Posts: 465 Member
    Thanks everyone..It is very rude,I'm just not the type of person who would say that,not even joking,so I just stay blank when someone behaves that way.
  • deniseg31
    deniseg31 Posts: 667 Member
    Girl, I agree with others. She's just hating. You have done and continue to do so well so don't let it bother you. I know, easier said than done but you do your thing and forget her. I have insensitive inlaws as well...blah!

    Hang in there and keep it up! :)
  • missanitab
    missanitab Posts: 12 Member
    First of congratulations on losing 30 lbs!! Wow thats amazing =) And good on you for not cursing her out on the spot! lol. Even though she would have deserved it! lol
  • Learnin2LuvMe
    Learnin2LuvMe Posts: 465 Member
    First of congratulations on losing 30 lbs!! Wow thats amazing =) And good on you for not cursing her out on the spot! lol. Even though she would have deserved it! lol
    Lol..thank you!
  • babygurl48
    babygurl48 Posts: 1,237 Member
    That was really rude and uncalled for... but, I've learned that people c an be very insensitive.

    Because I am grumpy and have low tolerance for stupidity -- I would have said "Well, I am working on losing my hips -- are you working on your personality?"
    This would have also been me!! I don't have to think twice about replying to these stupid biatchea!!
  • Thriceshy
    Thriceshy Posts: 708 Member
    Not only have you done amazingly well (be proud!), but anyone who walks up to anyone else and makes a disparaging comment about hips, backside, thighs, or anything else, is totally out of line. Ew. Makes me want to march right out there and smack 'em for you.

    You look great, and you've got every reason to be proud of yourself.

    Kris
  • Learnin2LuvMe
    Learnin2LuvMe Posts: 465 Member
    Not only have you done amazingly well (be proud!), but anyone who walks up to anyone else and makes a disparaging comment about hips, backside, thighs, or anything else, is totally out of line. Ew. Makes me want to march right out there and smack 'em for you.

    You look great, and you've got every reason to be proud of yourself.

    Kris
    Thank you!!!
  • tjwolf13
    tjwolf13 Posts: 14
    I am so happy to hear that it motivated you even more! That is exactly how people should take an incident like that, but it can be so hard. You have the right attitude and it helps me to hear people like you because I can take things like that to heart too often.
  • Jreneewright
    Jreneewright Posts: 87
    that was such a rude and horrible comment!! you keep your head up!! you will be more beautiful inside and out then that woman will ever dream of being!! you and your sister jsut keep pushing each other to reach your goals! glad sis took up for you! Im so proud of you!! i know how hard it is to loose 30 pounds! your doing an awesome job!
  • kyodi
    kyodi Posts: 376 Member
    I don't normally advocate violence; but you could have slapped her and I don't think anyone would have minded. That level of rudeness and blatant lack of respect for another human needs a higher than normal repercussion.
  • kyodi
    kyodi Posts: 376 Member
    BTW... 30 lb is EPIC!! Keep on keepin on!!!
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