Can't stop crying..

Hey everyone!

I started dieting a week and a half ago. I was probably eating 2500 to 3000 calories a day, and now I'm sticking to 1200. I've had no problem going to the gym. No cravings or problem dealing with the reduction in calories.

But, I can't stop crying - about everything and nothing. I do have depression, but I havn't changed my meds and I was doing fine before.

Is this a side-effect anyone else has noticed, or am I going crazy?

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  • Bowsergirl
    Bowsergirl Posts: 89 Member
    You might want to increase your calories a little. I've had some mood swings when I'm not eating enough. I get really short tempered though. So you might have something different going on.
  • Squirrel698
    Squirrel698 Posts: 127 Member
    It sounds like you're under a lot of stress. Dieting is hard on your body and perhaps it's overflowing with emotion. It's best to let it out, perhaps talk to someone you trust, and tomorrow is a new day.
  • kbmnurse
    kbmnurse Posts: 2,484 Member
    Get to a mental health professional.
  • Blueseraphchaos
    Blueseraphchaos Posts: 843 Member
    I agree, if you were eating so many calories before, maybe 1200 is too low to instantly drop down to. I certainly get hangry, this could be something similar. However, if increasing your calories doesn't work, it might be time to visit a doctor.
  • macgurlnet
    macgurlnet Posts: 1,946 Member
    I would call your doctor's office and talk to someone there. It may be related to your diet change, maybe not. But better to call and ask your questions there than to ask here.

    ~Lyssa
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  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    When I was on only 1200 calories my doctor asked if I was feeling depressed or cranky so yes I think you need to up your calories. If that doesn't work then see your doctor.
  • AlannaPie
    AlannaPie Posts: 349 Member
    I would increase your calories and make sure you're getting quality vitamins in you. Your body is freaking out that it is starving! I really admire how you've cut your calories so drastically and stuck with it!
  • Ready2Rock206
    Ready2Rock206 Posts: 9,487 Member
    I'd cry too if I was only eating 1200 calories.... Your body is probably just letting you know that's too extreme of a drop.
  • shrinkingletters
    shrinkingletters Posts: 1,008 Member
    In general, if I don't eat enough, I can sometimes experience some pretty intense Hangry mood swings that, at very worst, become crying fits of frustration. You may do well to recalculate your goals.

    Scooby's Workshop calorie calculator has yet to steer me in the wrong direction. The numbers given I believe are pretty sensible and easier to work with than drastic cuts in calories.

    http://scoobysworkshop.com/accurate-calorie-calculator/
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    I see that you are 43 years old female. And you are on depression meds. There is nothing on your profile to help us with answering this question. No personal stats.

    Going from between 2500 to 3000 to 1200 calories in a weeks time? Heck I would cry just going down to 300 or 400 calories as it would mess with me immensely (I am 48). You have more than cut the amount you eat 1300 to 1800 calories a day? That is huge..

    Is the 1200 calories what MFP gave you to eat each day based on your stats? This does not sound right at all.

    I do not like the blanket "see a mental professional" comments either, but you are being seen by a doctor that prescribes your meds and I think you should consult with him/her before making such drastic changes to your diet and being on meds at the same time.
  • bellabonbons
    bellabonbons Posts: 705 Member
    Dieting is hard. You have suddenly decreased food drastically. It takes patience to adjust to a drastic reduction in food. Not surprised that you are crying. When suddenly our comfort food is gone it's like losing a best friend.
  • Q_Is_Poison
    Q_Is_Poison Posts: 203 Member
    Call your doctor. Your medication dosage probably needs to be adjusted. Less calories can make some of your meds much stinger than needed...
  • user001964
    user001964 Posts: 2 Member
    I'd also recommend talking to your doctor. Let them know you've been feeling unusually emotional and can't shake it. Also let them know you've changed your diet.

    They'll probably do a blood test and might tell you to exercise since it's good for stress. If you're taking medication, something might need to change there. You could be absorbing thing differently with the change in diet. The doc might also have you talk to a counselor, try to figure out what's getting you down, help you work through that.
  • Akimajuktuq
    Akimajuktuq Posts: 3,037 Member
    gia07 wrote: »
    I see that you are 43 years old female. And you are on depression meds. There is nothing on your profile to help us with answering this question. No personal stats.

    Going from between 2500 to 3000 to 1200 calories in a weeks time? Heck I would cry just going down to 300 or 400 calories as it would mess with me immensely (I am 48). You have more than cut the amount you eat 1300 to 1800 calories a day? That is huge..

    Is the 1200 calories what MFP gave you to eat each day based on your stats? This does not sound right at all.

    I do not like the blanket "see a mental professional" comments either, but you are being seen by a doctor that prescribes your meds and I think you should consult with him/her before making such drastic changes to your diet and being on meds at the same time.

    ^This. Many meds used for depression have associations with metabolic problems and such a drastic change in your diet just might not be beneficial at the moment. I'm in the camp of 1200 never being beneficial but add in your other factors and definitely not. (Have you looked into WHAT you eat? What you eat has a huge influence on depression for instance if you are eating very low fat... your body needs healthy fats, including natural saturated fats from animals- yup I know you've been told different.) I'm on an anti-psychotic (also used for mood stabililizing) and my efforts to try to lose weight are on hold while I deal with some big trauma in my life, present and past. That doesn't mean I'm pigging out and gaining, just means drastic efforts to lose weight are NOT on the agenda right now.
  • yourhiddengem
    yourhiddengem Posts: 171 Member
    Yikes. I would increase your calories. What are your stats? You prob don't need to jump your calories down that drastically in order to start losing weight. *hugs*
  • AbigailC17
    AbigailC17 Posts: 78 Member
    You cut your calories way too low so fast. It would be best to reduce your calorie intake 100 less per week till you reach 1200 cal. It's best to give your body time to re-adjust to the changes.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    call your doc .

    and eat more.
  • ElizabethOakes2
    ElizabethOakes2 Posts: 1,038 Member
    Pretty much what everyone has said.
    Making the leap from 2500 down to 1200 would certainly make me cry!
    Try starting at 2400, and dropping down by 100 calories a week until you're at your target weight loss. Sudden changes in nutrition can have an affect on moods.
  • Q_Is_Poison
    Q_Is_Poison Posts: 203 Member
    If you can't get ahold of your doctor and the crying or depression switches over to suicide ideation either go to the nearest emergency room or call 911. Some meds can overwhelm your system when you are dieting and you might need to be watched in a safe place for the night.
  • emmycantbemeeko
    emmycantbemeeko Posts: 303 Member
    Please call your doctor. Have a snack while you're on the phone- it's certainly possible physical hunger and the sudden change in diet is playing a role. But most importantly, as a person with depression suddenly having episodes of uncontrollable sadness and crying, please, call your doctor. It might be related to the diet, it might not- none of us can tell. Either way, the stakes with suddenly worsening depression symptoms are high. Your doctor is the one to talk to about this.

    Also, this:
    If you can't get ahold of your doctor and the crying or depression switches over to suicide ideation either go to the nearest emergency room or call 911. Some meds can overwhelm your system when you are dieting and you might need to be watched in a safe place for the night.

  • kiara1066
    kiara1066 Posts: 119 Member
    Please seek professional help especially since you mentioned you suffer from depression .
  • lostinfbg
    lostinfbg Posts: 2 Member
    Thank you all for taking the time to reply to me. I feel like I have a crew! I'm going to try to address all the things you've said in one go.

    I can't remember when my next med check with the psychiatrist is - I'll call and move it up. One of my tells that I'm depressed is that I don't think of the obvious - like this.

    I'm 5'2, and 240 llbs. My long goal is 105, but I'm starting with getting to 215 by the end of April. Whenever I've calculated the number of calories I'm supposed to eat, it's always come out at 1200, so I wasn't surprised. Maybe I should have taken it with a pinch of salt. I can certainly eat more!

    I have been exercising - it's not making me happier, as far as I can tell :-(

    I've had depression since I was 8, so I'm not worried about suicidal ideation. If I get some bad thoughts, I will go to the emergency room.

    Thank you all for replying. The weight of your replies really helped me. If one person says you're green, you just ignore them - but when it's all of them - I may be green.

    Thank you again.

  • emmycantbemeeko
    emmycantbemeeko Posts: 303 Member
    lostinfbg wrote: »
    Thank you all for taking the time to reply to me. I feel like I have a crew! I'm going to try to address all the things you've said in one go.

    I can't remember when my next med check with the psychiatrist is - I'll call and move it up. One of my tells that I'm depressed is that I don't think of the obvious - like this.

    I'm 5'2, and 240 llbs. My long goal is 105, but I'm starting with getting to 215 by the end of April. Whenever I've calculated the number of calories I'm supposed to eat, it's always come out at 1200, so I wasn't surprised. Maybe I should have taken it with a pinch of salt. I can certainly eat more!

    I have been exercising - it's not making me happier, as far as I can tell :-(

    I've had depression since I was 8, so I'm not worried about suicidal ideation. If I get some bad thoughts, I will go to the emergency room.

    Thank you all for replying. The weight of your replies really helped me. If one person says you're green, you just ignore them - but when it's all of them - I may be green.

    Thank you again.

    We're here for you!

    35 lbs by the end of April is a pretty steep goal- you're looking at over 2 lbs of weight loss a week. You'll see a lot of websites blithely state that "up to two pounds a week" is healthy/sustainable, but the truth is that while a tall guy with a lot to lose might knock off two pounds a week without a problem, for those of us who are vertically challenged, to get to the kind of calorie deficit that creates 2 lbs of loss a week is *tough*, and it will only get tougher as your mass decreases and, correspondingly, so does your calorie burn.

    You'll likely see big drops the first few weeks and you can DEFINITELY feel better and be down quite a bit by the end of April, but I'd suggest taking it at a slower pace than you currently are, where you'll be able to eat more calories and still see loss. Moderate exercise has been shown to be somewhat helpful with depression, but I bet most exercise feels a lot more intense than "moderate" at 240 lbs and eating only 1200 calories. 1200 calories a day is something like 600 cal/day off your BMR as I calculate it, and that's just BMR, WITHOUT considering exercise calories and your typical activity level. That's a pretty miserable level of restriction to be eating at- 1200 calories just isn't that much food- and yet depending on your activity/exercise level it might still not be enough to get you the 2+ pounds/week you're aiming for.

    It's okay to get to your goal at a slightly slower pace and feel better while you're doing it. This is supposed to be a forever change- begin the way you mean to go on, sustainably and not miserably. And consider adopting process-based goals in addition to your dated target weight goals. Target weight goals are great, and dated goals are great, but when you attach a date to a goal that's actually, ultimately, out of your hands (you can control what you eat and what you do, but you can't actually guarantee you're going to be that weight on that date, for so many reasons) it's easy to get dispirited even when doing your absolute best. Whereas process goals- "I will log my food 95% of the time between now and the end of April," "I will work out at least 3x a week"- those are totally in your control, and more actionable than dated target weights. Focus on your inputs and the outputs will follow; focus on the outputs and it's easy to get discouraged and give up on the inputs.

    Good luck! You can do this.
  • senecarr
    senecarr Posts: 5,377 Member
    To drop that many calories, you've given up a lot of the stuff involved in generating neurotransmitters. Certain amino acids in proteins are base blocks of neurotransmitters like serotonin which relies on the amino acid tryptophan. Other macros like carbohydrate intake signal dopamine and serotonin release and reuptake as they are involved both as mental neurotransmitters and transmitters in digestion control and appetite.
    You're also potentially raising cortisol as a stress response because your body doesn't know the controlled part of controlled starvation that dieting is.
    I'd reiterate the advice of check with your healthcare team about such drastic calorie deficits and consider a less drastic one for now.
  • yourhiddengem
    yourhiddengem Posts: 171 Member
    Side note: There's also a really good thread about depression. I don't know if it would help at all but reading some of it has helped me realize that I'm not alone. :)

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10058170/depression-and-weight-loss
  • robertw486
    robertw486 Posts: 2,399 Member
    lostinfbg wrote: »
    I'm 5'2, and 240 llbs. My long goal is 105, but I'm starting with getting to 215 by the end of April. Whenever I've calculated the number of calories I'm supposed to eat, it's always come out at 1200, so I wasn't surprised. Maybe I should have taken it with a pinch of salt. I can certainly eat more!

    Being your questions on the crying seem to be well in hand, I'll move on to this.

    Something is wrong with your calculations unless you are aiming for a really aggressive weight loss goal. And though some will do it, for many it makes more sense to ease into your loss goals so that you can sustain them longer term. If you are determined to lose that fast, pay close attention to your macros, take a break at maintenance calories if you need it, and supplement with a vitamins if you have a hard time hitting goals there.

    It seems to be a trend that people that get too aggressive with loss goals are more likely to burn out and either quit or binge eat at times. If you start feeling low on energy adjust before either of those happen. Remember, you didn't gain the weight in a day and as long as you are moving towards a goal you have the rest of your life to get there.

    Just use caution. Some people are successful dropping weight quickly, but the end goal is what is more important.


    senecarr wrote: »
    To drop that many calories, you've given up a lot of the stuff involved in generating neurotransmitters. Certain amino acids in proteins are base blocks of neurotransmitters like serotonin which relies on the amino acid tryptophan. Other macros like carbohydrate intake signal dopamine and serotonin release and reuptake as they are involved both as mental neurotransmitters and transmitters in digestion control and appetite.
    You're also potentially raising cortisol as a stress response because your body doesn't know the controlled part of controlled starvation that dieting is.
    I'd reiterate the advice of check with your healthcare team about such drastic calorie deficits and consider a less drastic one for now.

    People should read that again, especially anyone already on a medication that may impact neurotransmitters in any way. But that would include anyone that deals with mood changes during dieting that is not taking any antidepressants or other drugs as well.


    Side note: There's also a really good thread about depression. I don't know if it would help at all but reading some of it has helped me realize that I'm not alone. :)

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10058170/depression-and-weight-loss

    One of the most respectful and helpful threads on the MFP boards in my opinion, as well as very helpful for many.