I have a problem.

The only thing that should matter is how you feel about yourself. I know my self being at heavier weights, I feel yucky in my own skin. But at the end of the day, if I've tried my best (even if some days I don't exercise or eat great) then I am happy with myself. I try to keep my thinking positive and know that even a small step in the right direction is still the right direction. Don't let the judgements of others falter how you see yourself. You are beautiful. Those people that shame you are not happy with themselves on some level of their lives and find comfort in hurting you. Send them loving energy because they probably need it more then you think. Even if it doesn't seem possible. The more positive energy you put out the more you will recieve and the happier you will be and the more you will love yourself. Good luck on your journey

abigailtolin wrote: »

Hi, everyone! I don't know if anyone else is having this problem, but I'm looking for support. I'm dealing with some fat-shaming at school right now, and it's getting discouraging. I mean, I'm 206 lbs. right now, and my goal weight is 145 by the end of this year. I know that I'm bigger, but it doesn't justify making fun of people because of their weight. What do you guys think? Do you guys have any problems with this?

Kids, and adults can be cruel. Sorry to hear that you're going through this. Is there anyone in your life that you can talk to?

As a side note, through all of this, it is good to read that you're taking steps to get healthy.

Big Hugs!!!!

abigailtolin wrote: »

malibu927 wrote: »

How old are you, OP? Because in the other post you made about this last night you said you were a junior in high school, which means you're likely not 18.

Just to let everyone know, this is a really embarrassing subject, but I got held back a year when I was in 4th grade, so I won't be graduating until next year.

That's why I asked. I reported your other post, and I now apologize for that. But many 15-17 year olds come on MFP and we can't help them.

Have you talked to the teachers/administration about these comments? These kids are bullying you, and it should be stopped. I remember getting those comments in junior high, and it hurt.

Firstly, congratulations on your commitment to yourself. It has taken many of us a lot more time then you to make ourselves a priority and it is very admirable that you are doing it so young.

I was bullied in High School and again at work recently. The fact of the matter is that the people who act like this are generally either a) deeply unhappy themselves (these are usually the leaders) or b) sheep who follow for fear of being different/the victim themselves.

When I was younger, I spent a lot of time wondering how I could make them stop or treat me differently.

As an older person, I realised that I have no control over others and applied a mantra a friend thought me instead.

"Control the controllables"

I empowered myself by controlling the way I felt about them (which was primarily that they were pathetic and not worth my time)
I controlled the way I talked to myself about their comments; I would say "Am I a *kitten* as they say? I know myself better than they could ever comprehend and that is not my truth so why am I taking it on-board?"
I controlled their place in my present life by ignoring them and their place in my future by planning to it without them or their opinions.
I controlled my ability to handle them by nourishing my mind and body with good food and exercise meaning I was better placed to take them on.

You will be a better person for the journey you are on and they will hopefully redeem themselves in the years to come. In the meantime, control the controllables with the number one most important controllable being your opinion of yourself.

It should be very high as you are clearly a determined and strong young woman.