I need help!

You don't need to give up bread to lose weight. You just need to do calorie counting, making sure your intake is less than your outgo. I would suggest you try C25K since you already run/walk. It will take you to be able to run 5k/30 mins straight by the end of 8 weeks. It made me feel very good to be able do accomplish more every week. And in terms of time efficiency in burning calories, running is still pretty high on the list.

I will also suggest you do pelvic rolls. It is just something I wish I remember to do after giving birth to my last baby It helped tighten my stomach muscle after I had my first child.

I will let others comments on the strength training part. But I just want to let you know that, I lost 20 lbs (my goal) and then some more as a mother of 3 and more than 10 years older than you. If I can do it, you can too!

If I read your post correctly, please accept my deepest condolences. Losing a child is a deep, scarring pain.

Since you already go to a gym, as already suggested, can you request a consult with a trainer? Sometimes they will give you one free session. Or, if you hire one, meet with a few first, find out their credentials and do your research. Remember, you are hiring them. They need to be a good fit for you and also knowledgeable.

Do you have a food scale? You can still eat bread and everything else you like. It just needs to be in portions that match your calorie goal.

I dropped all wheat and lost 30lbs last year. I changed my settings again and started anew! I'll be sending you a friend request soon. Bread loss was a kick start for me, but it's not easy.

So sorry for your loss (if I interpreted your post right) there are no words

If you are at a gym, often they have great group fitness classes where you can keep motivated (and push yourself harder than maybe you would on your own) in a small group setting and learn good form etc....cardio and strength classes (the name is different everywhere) , or a session with a trainer to get set up on a plan to meet your goals. Don't worry about being out of shape in a class, no one will notice you everyone is too self absorbed in their own insecurities to notice yours I only say this because I know I avoided going because I was too worried about looking like a fool.

I don't believe in good food vs bad foods, calories in and calories out si what alters weight, I love bread! and in moderation I get to have bread, and sweets and really anything I want....in moderation. some foods I can not eat moderately (potato chips you know what you do to me) so I have to refrain.