Unsupportive friends and family

It's really hard to communicate your weight goals to people who don't understand that self-restraint is a healthy thing. Even when they see that what you're doing is working, they still pity you instead of encouraging you.

Most people aren't willing to put in the effort to count calories and log every day. When you do you achieve results. How is what you're doing any different than someone who sets an educational goal, or a physical training goal? If you use an analogy like that and they still aren't getting you (or they don't want to), it may be time to set their opinions aside and do what's right for you.

I often get this kind of response when I'm seen weighing my food. It sucks. But honestly, I just keep doing it because I'm focusing on my results and seeing progress. Sometimes I'll say that it's part of portion control, which is part of healthy eating, and that's it.
Wish you the best in this.

When I first rejoined mfp in January my husband was not supportive at all. He thought all I needed to do was exercise a little. He would get upset and annoyed seeing me log everything or asking him what he put in a meal he made so I could estimate calories or even if I said I couldn't eat something (because it wouldn't fit into my daily goals) or getting up from the table and pulling a bag from the trash so I could scan it.

Me losing weight put him in a bad mood a lot of the time.

I have one pound to lose before I move from obese to overweight on the bmi scale, so clearly I need to lose the weight.
I've lost 20 lbs so far. Now that he's seen the progress he's accepted this whole lifestyle of mine a little more seeing there's real result and I'm not being crazy.

It's tough. I have a lot of overweight family members, and I'm probably the healthiest of them. I always get the "make sure you're not making yourself sick." Which I have never understood because I have always felt better when losing weight. I think that's a varied way of saying you have an eating disorder or something. I think part of it is from their lack of willpower, and you make them feel bad about it because they see how successful you are. The best thing is just to ignore their comments as hard as it can be. Finding people that are supportive of your goals can help make your life easier. If you are a gym member try to make friends there, since they most likely have similar goals as you. Keep at it.

Well, don't throw pearls at pigs' feet. Share here; you'll get support.

i have felt that also....i ignore them and move on. life is too short. i log each night or in the AM before work and dont discuss it anymore...been maintaining for a year and you have to do what works best for you!!! good luck

It is true, people can't handle watching you do what they feel they can't. People at work give me a hard time saying "your not going to get too skinny are you", or they badger me to eat things I don't want to. It is all because they feel like they couldn't stay focused and lose the weight. I realized I needed to keep positive ad encourage them. Instead of making it something I was doing I made it something we all could do together. Not everyone was on board, but I few people.

I support ya

There's nothing more annoying than when you talk about losing weight and someone says "you look fine!"

I'm not doing this to satisfy anyone but myself. If I say I'm not fine, I'm not fine..

If you need motivation, feel free to add me.

I just don't tell anyone what I'm doing. Not because they wont be supportive, but because theyll get super annoying about it, and make it about them, not me. A few years back i mentioned wanting to join a gym and my maternal figure somehow turned it into an hour long sob fest about how SHE needed to lose weight. I have very few things that are just for me, and this is one of them.

been there.

giiirl, i keep it all inside now. just do you. ♥

I felt this just tonight when my partner groused at me for delaying dinner to weigh ingredients. He also makes comments whenever he notices me logging.
I chalk it up to he knows he needs to eat better, but doesn't want to, and resents me doing it.

You say have never really been overweight, but stressed about being less thin than your friends and people are telling you you look fine. Why is this not supportive? How is it negative? Would you want them to tell you you look awful? Or that when you had a bit more weight (and it must have been just a bit unless you now are underweight) you were fat? Losing a few kilos and moving from e.g. high normal BMI to mid range is something most people around you will not even notice, it is one of these things that really are about you and how you feel better.
Now, assuming you are honest and never really had a weight issue, if the plan is to log calories forever, or if this is how your friends and relatives understand it, I understand their concerns. Calorie counting is a tool. It can be helpful sort term to figure out better portion sizes and it can be helpful long term when you have been for years eating way too much or too little and have kind of lost the ability to eat intuitively. But if you decide to count calories forever because it makes the difference between a BMI of 20 and 23, then this is concerning behaviour or at least is makes sense for people to wonder if fine tuning your weight is becoming an obsession.

It's hard, I like the accountability of people knowing, but not the criticism.