Dealing with emotional rollercoaster

hiker583
hiker583 Posts: 91 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hi,

My life has been an emotional rollercoaster for many years now. My partner has no sense of stability or family. Today he is here living with me, tomorrow he is packing his bags to chase the next thing he wants to do in his life, then back again and then gone again. I did not realize for a while, but this on-again-off-again has taken a real toll on my health. I have become addicted to food as an emotional eater. Every time he comes, stays for couple of weeks and leaves again my routine is all disturbed. I spend next 3 - 4 days hogging on ice-creams, chocolates, cookies and just food till I settle down. But the damage is already done. The cycle repeats every time he leaves.
I am trying to figure out how to cope with this in a more healthy way. Separating is not an option even if it seems like the very logical thing to do.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this emotional rollercoaster without drowning myself in food?

thanks,

Replies

  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    Can I ask why separating isn't an option?
  • hiker583
    hiker583 Posts: 91 Member
    edited March 2016
    Personal, family reasons that I don't want to discuss here. I am fairly independent and able to cope with living alone in general. Its only the transition days that are really bad for my food addiction, and I am totally off my routine and it takes days to get sanity in diet back.
  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    Fair enough. You can't control your partner's actions - you can only control yours. Have you tried counseling/therapy? It does work....my Husband builds retail stores and is gone 5+ weeks at a time - so I know what it's like to have an absent partner. Basically - you need to have the tools to deal with his absences. Do you have a good network of friends? That's important. Do you have any interests/hobbies that you can submerse yourself in - when your partner is gone? I'm a work-out-addict - I have a gym in my house - I use it daily (it's cheaper than therapy - but I've gone that route too). There's no quick fix for this - put your time and effort towards bettering YOU. As far as the food issues go - you need to substitute that with something else - go for a walk, call a friend, etc. Message me if you want to 'discuss' this further, please

Categories