Ugh.

jeni2005
jeni2005 Posts: 4 Member
edited November 30 in Motivation and Support
The title says it all. I have lost nearly 30 pounds in less than 2 months; more than 10% of my body weight. I feel good about my diet and exercise, and am starting to notice the change in me; but literally no one outside my spouse has mentioned anything and a little external recognition would be wonderful. I also feel a big difference in my clothes but not enough to go a size down. Just feeling frustrated, and I assume many of us face these little battles.

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  • brb_2013
    brb_2013 Posts: 1,197 Member
    It will come, I don't think anyone noticed on my body until after 50lbs or so. Honest!
  • samanthachen
    samanthachen Posts: 360 Member
    I know it is tough, but remember every person is different. Depending on where you hold your weight and how much you have to lose, people might not be seeing it yet, even though 30lbs is incredible. Also, another thing to note, is many people feel uncomfortable commenting on weight loss because they worry that it implies you looked heavy before. I'd be willing to bet that lots of people have noticed. They just don't want to ask because of the feared implication.

    Keep up the fantastic work, and keep your chin up!!! People will notice if they haven't already!!!
  • mel35645
    mel35645 Posts: 267 Member
    30 lb loss is amazing you have sooooo much to be proud of. I know it's wonderful when people notice and comment on the changes but what matters most is that it seems like you have made a lifestyle change and that is the best thing any of us can do for ourselves!! The smaller size clothes will come, people will notice but more important than any of that is the amazing accomplishment you have achieved so be proud of yourself and let that pride keep you going!! Big changes are ahead for you keep up the amazing work.
  • Pob25
    Pob25 Posts: 13 Member
    This is an incredible loss! Well done!!
    You will always have days like this its bound to happen, only you see how hard you've really worked, and like Samanthachen said, people feel bad pointing out weight loss sometimes.
    Spin it and focus on the positives!
    You can feel the change in your clothes so you're not far off sizing down, that's a fantastic achievement and it feels fab shopping for the lower size, well done!
    Good luck, keep your chin up x
  • DaisyHamilton
    DaisyHamilton Posts: 575 Member
    Also, just because no one else has commented on your weight loss doesn't mean that no one else has noticed. Some people don't want to comment on it because they don't want to make you feel uncomfortable, like "never comment on a woman's weight" type thing.
  • kissedbythesunshine
    kissedbythesunshine Posts: 416 Member
    Congrats on your loss!! I agree that others may have noticed but don't want to say anything. I have lost 34 so far and people are just now starting to say something and it's only been people I haven't seen in a while. Come to think of it, no one who I see day to day have said anything except my husband. Keep it going darling. You're doing great.
  • jeni2005
    jeni2005 Posts: 4 Member
    Thanks for all the shout outs y'all! Logically, all of these things make sense, sometimes it's just hard to remember. Thanks for the supportive reminders! Keeping on keeping on.
  • MinmoInk
    MinmoInk Posts: 345 Member
    edited March 2016
    First off congratulations! Some people CANT see past any sort of weight loss due to their own mindset IMO!

    I'm sorta in a similar situation where a lot of certain kind of people whom I've known for quite a while won't even comment on my weight loss. I've gone from a size 18 to a size 5. It's like they don't want to comment, and when I bring it up something like "I've gotten in shape a bit thankfully!" They'll retort "yeah I don't have time for that." Only certain friends do this. Or they will comment like this if anything "looks like you lost a little" yah. ya think? It's probably them not you in some cases.
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    30 lbs is great. There are many reasons why people don't say anything--they truly don't notice, they think they notice but aren't sure if you lost weight on purpose or were ill, they noticed but are afraid to say something because many people take offense to being told "you lost weight, you look good!", they noticed but don't think it's appropriate to comment on somebody's weight, you lost weight but are still dressing like you did before so you don't actually look any better, they think you look different but can't put their finger on what it is that looks different, etc.

    Nobody outside of my husband said anything to me until around the 30 pound point. Then in a few weeks time I had several different people compliment me on my new hairstyle. The only thing different about my hair was that it was sitting above a thinner face. At 50 pounds a woman who I told "you look great!" told me that I had been her inspiration to lose weight--she had never said a word to me about my weight loss. You just never know who or when people will notice.
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