When family sabotage your diet.

I spent more than a 2 full years just letting the rest of my family do what they wanted to do while I concentrated on doing what was best for me. Now I have a whole family (including my adult kids) who are losing weight, working out and eating healthier!

Cool!!!!

Unless they have tied you up and force fed you, no one has sabotaged your diet unless you did it yourself.

You can not expect other people to change their habits just because you are trying to change yours.

My family eat more than I do and things that I don't eat and that's ok. I cook for them and they buy things I don't eat or I may eat less of it than they do. If we have a meal that includes pasta, a meat and veg, then I might not eat the pasta, or I have half cup of pasta or rice, where some will eat two cups. Plus maybe they add butter or olive oil to the veg or starches and I may have none. Things like chips and popcorn too, I may have a few, not the whole package. At brakfast we have oatmeal, eggs, toast, yogurt and fruit. So I don't eat all that either. They may add cheese with crackers and I don't, I have a fruit or small yogurt. It used to get to me. Then at some point, I gave up. I said, I can't change them, better change myself instead.

Sometimes they cook and then I eat whatever they make. One of the younger ones likes Snickers for brakfast!

Actually its my daughter in law that suffers the most, she works full time and so she has no time to cook or prepare foods and she wants to eat healthy. When there are a lot of people eatimg and a few people cooking, there can be clashes.

concordancia wrote: »

Don't confuse family "who continue to lead their own lives" with family "who sabotage."

Make your own choices, avoid if that works for you; figure out what one serving is, or even a half serving, and incorporate that into your diet, if you prefer.

Love this answer.

concordancia wrote: »

Don't confuse family "who continue to lead their own lives" with family "who sabotage."

Make your own choices, avoid if that works for you; figure out what one serving is, or even a half serving, and incorporate that into your diet, if you prefer.

Have to agree here....

Now if there is one thing that is you kryptonite, I would say please don't....but not for everything

cindyharris_2 wrote: »

I'm pretty new here and trying to lose weight. My husband keeps buying snacks like cookies, cakes, and candy. I have managed to ignore the food, but does anyone else have this problem?

I feel like we can go for months without bringing any cakes, cookies, ice cream, etc to the house, but the minute that my husband sees me cutting back on sweets, Freaking Candy Land manifests in our house.

You're not alone. Keep looking the other way and limit the treats to the best of your ability.

Unless they are dressing up pizza to look like a piece of broiled chicken, it ain't sabotage.

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Reminds me of that episode of American Dad where Haley and Francine are injecting lard (or was it sugar?) into some celery to try and get Stan to gain some weight. But that was because he was drastically underweight so it was fine.

bri170lb wrote: »

I spent more than a 2 full years just letting the rest of my family do what they wanted to do while I concentrated on doing what was best for me. Now I have a whole family (including my adult kids) who are losing weight, working out and eating healthier!

Cool!!!!

That's awesome. It's all about finding a way to gracefully pull people up to your level instead of letting them drag you down to theirs.

I don't think it's sabotage but I do understand your temptation to have those things. Some things are good in moderation, but if you truly want to or need to stay away from those things, do so. I know easier said than done. Good luck on your journey.

My bf is a straight up sugar addict. But I don't say anything about it. It's his life, and he already knows it's not healthy. He's also younger than I am, so he's not at the same stage in life as me as far dietary concerns go. At first I told him not to bring that crap around, but that quickly became not workable. But, I realized my mistake. My mistake was in eating "just a little bit" when he bring it over. And we all know what happens when you eat "just a little bit". Now, I just don't eat it. At all. And now, it's so much easier for me. But that's just me.

lisawinning4losing wrote: »

I only consider it sabotage if someone tries to force it on me, and people will do that to you sometimes. One time someone accused me of "hating on myself" because I didn't want to eat a doughnut. People will say and do stupid things sometimes. You just have to be strong. One thing I watch is how I say things. Instead of saying "I can't have that", I'll say "I don't want that." That way, I'm not "depriving" myself. It's simply something I don't want.

But if they aren't forcing it on you, then basically it's all on you. As the days go on, I feel less and less tortured by junk food. For me, the trick is to just not eat any. When you don't eat any, it starts to fade from your consciousness, and you start to just look at it with the same disinterest as you would look at an inedible object. But as soon as I have "just one cookie", then it's all over with.

People's opinions on how you choose not to eat something, still isn't sabotage. They aren't physically forcing it down your throat. You MAY do it out of guilt, but that's not sabotage, that's just emotional sympathy for them.

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