I am done! I give up!
NotGoingDown90
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I'm going against my screen name and everything i thought i was. I started this weight loss when i came back from 4 month visit to my family in europe. When i left i was 127 at 5'1 and when i came back i was 142 pounds and decided that i need to lose that weight starting then but it didnt work out for me that way. I have kind of a busy life and most daysi dont get to cook until 10 pm and i dont like to eat that late so i started eating out 2x a week. Fast forward to now i have been between 146 - 141 since i came back. I bought a food scale 3 weeks ago and i stopped eating out, i measure everything by the gram and still no weight loss, i have a desk job so im sitting in a busy office all day. I dont know what to do! I feel so fat and people make me feel terrible, my husbands family are all slim and im now the biggest one. There is a wedding coming up in 3 weeks and i will be one of the bridesmaids and my dress is VERY tight. Oh, the last thing that made me very upset was a lady i saw at the mall last week, she came up to me and rubbed my stomach asking me when im due 
half of the people i was with started laughing. I just dont understand, im eating at deficit but the scale is not moving.
half of the people i was with started laughing. I just dont understand, im eating at deficit but the scale is not moving. 0
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Can't you go back to the way of eating you had before the Europe trip?
(And I must say your peeps sound kinda rude
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I wish i can. My schedule was different as i was at a different job that had a huge salad bar in the cafeteria, so i always ate salads with grilled chicken or tuna for lunch. My youngest sister in law was the biggest she was at least 30 pounds and she lost all the weight for the wedding so now everyone teases me after they used to tease her about her weight.0
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Don't give up! I work a desk job 50hrs a week from 6pm-2:45am and on top of that I also go to school full time. I don't wake up until 11am, sometimes 12pm, and I always make my meals for the day once I get done with school work, usually around 2pm. I then have about 2hrs to myself and find the time to go for a 30min walk before I start getting ready for work. If I can find time so can you! You can do it. Giving up will just make you feel worse about yourself. Feel free to add me as a friend. I have an open diary if you ever want to view it to get some ideas. In the last week I have lost about 4lbs after joining MFP and I have 63lbs left to lose before I reach my goal weight...0
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First off the Ppl you are around sound horrible and I would probably stop hanging out with them for your own sanity. Obviously In Law's you have to see but, you don't have to really acknowledge those comments. Second off can you do some kind of meal planning on a day off? Like dicing veggies and cooking some chicken breast. I just made 4 chicken breasts in 20 mins for lunches. Plus when I make dinner at least twice a week I make recipes where there will be leftovers for a day or 2.0
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You're eating in a deficit? Using scales to weigh your food? What's your stats and calorie goal?0
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Try to hang in there. I know the feeling. It's really hard when your weight creeps back up like that. I had gotten down to 135 last summer and then skyrocketed back up to 150 and then started on Weight Watchers in January this year. I've lost 15 lbs already. It just takes strict dedication to whatever plan you are using. I weigh and measure all my foods and try to eat a lot of veggies and especially green veggies. Make sure to exercise at least 3-4 times a week (I do it every other day). After you get yourself in to a good, solid routine it will be easier. Good luck!0
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If you wish to open up your diary perhaps someone can offer some advice.0
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You might have to experiment also with your calorie goal. If the scale isn't moving drop your calories by 100 per day to see if that gets it moving. I know for me I have to consistently eat 100 to 150 calories below my MFP number to get the same weight loss.0
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Why would anyone think your pregnant 141 isn't fat0
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Eating out is usually 2 servings. As much as you want to eat it all you're consuming 2 servings. Remember that. As soon as you sit down to whatever you're eating take half of it and put it in the fridge or whatever. Eat the other portion for lunch or save it for dinner the next day so you have something there and on hand. Also, take out is chock full of sodium. So more than likely you're probably also bloated.
You say you used to have a salad bar. Why can't you just as easily make a salad and take it to work for lunch? Most work lunch rooms have fridges you can put stuff.0 -
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I agree, sounds like the peeps you hang with are jerks. What adult makes fun of someones weight? On another note, many many people on here would LOVE to be fretting over just 19 pounds.
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Tupperware, patience, and logging0
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141at 5'1 is over weight, and other than the occasional teasing they are actually good people, i think the laugh they had was the omg this is awkward laugh. And to the person that said to check the salt, that really could be it. I have a bad habit of putting salt on every food without even tasting it first, im a big salt lover, is their an amount that i shouldnt go over? I can weight it by grams for the day and set it on the side or something. Im going to give it another try, i just need to find good meal ideas. Its also frustrating that when i put on mfp that i want to lose 1 pound it recomended i eat 1200 calories and when i did the same for 1/2 a pound they also gave me 1200 calories so my weight loss if it would to happen would be very slow. Thank you everyone for your help0
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Springfield1970 wrote: »Tupperware, patience, and logging
The last 2 i've been dealing with for the longest time, i am really losing patience, this started in october, i should of seen some number change since then0 -
That's why I put Tupperware first. You have to take control of your food and measure it out at home. Stop eating out.0
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Springfield1970 wrote: »That's why I put Tupperware first. You have to take control of your food and measure it out at home. Stop eating out.
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I suggest you food prep for the entire week. I have portioned bags of almonds (for my mid morning snack) and diced chicken all ready to go. I also cut up all my vegetables for salads. Each night I fix one tupperware container full of lettuce and another with all the mixed veggies. I also add in black beans, roasted garbonzo beans and pineapple. All of these are weighed and logged. Sometimes I chop up a cheese stick or some almonds to throw in. I also have my low fat salad dressing all weighed and ready to go. I bring a huge glass bowl. At lunch I warm up the chicken and toss everything together. It looks and tastes delicious. I am a teacher and my 6th graders are always jealous of my salads! It is really important to eat well and regularly. It is super easy for me to stay at 1200 calories a day. I also add in some exercise calories each day, if I feel like I need them.0
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I am just under 5'1" and about 145 right now. I'm losing weight from my last pregnancy (he's 17 months). I know a lot is how you carry the weight!
Look into resistance training. It can allow us to look better even at a slightly higher weight (meaning my goal is 125-130, rather than 115 or something). It also is empowering
It is also important to be very careful in logging. This is my downfall. I know I will lose weight if I eat 1600 calories and exercise regularly, so maybe give that some thought. Also make sure that you're getting enough protein (for satiety as well as for maintaining lean mass as you lose, especially doing resistance training.) Drink plenty of water. Sodium can cause a temporary gain or mask a loss for a short time, but if it's over several weeks, it's probably more than just that; still try paying more attention to the sodium.
For the wedding, try some good shapewear. It will help you fit the dress without it looking as tight/snug. Eat properly and exercise until then, and continue after, but don't try to lose a lot in just 3 weeks. And if the in-laws keep making comments on your weight, your husband needs to speak up and tell them it's not cool (or, you can, if you feel like they'll listen to you - it depends on your relationship with them).
ETA: I just checked your profile, and I'm more than 10 years older than you ... so, I would be surprised if you don't lose weight eating 1600 calories a day and exercising most days. When I was your age, that's what I did and I lost a pound a week or more.0 -
I've learned to tune out all the 'helpful' comments. I think we all have to figure out our own way and its trial and error. I personally eat the same things very often because it just made it easier and faster for me to plan. I take a cooler/lunchbox with my food for a 12 hour shift.0
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You are eating more than you think.0
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Springfield1970 wrote: »That's why I put Tupperware first. You have to take control of your food and measure it out at home. Stop eating out.
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Please don't give up- Keep trying- forgive and/ or forget the rude comments and do this for YOU- because you are the one who has to live with your weight whether it is a loss or a gain- good luck and never give up
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Seriously, that's exactly what the OP needs right now. More people discussing whether she is overweight or not.
Anyway, I was literally in the same emotional place you were like 36 hours ago so I feel you. Take a break, eat one satisfying, moderate meal, and get a good night's sleep.
And regardless of whether you're overweight or not, it's time for you to look and feel pretty. Make a day with a positive, supportive friend or family member, and treat yourself a little. Go on a Sephora splurge, or get a massage or a facial - that kind of thing. Whatever you version of self indulgence that's not food is
You'll get through this.0
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