What has MENTALLY changed in you ?

Untilproud11 · March 2016

Hello all !
We always hear about how the body has changed , but how about mentally?
Which changes have you experienced with weight loss ?

mdrichardsons · March 2016

Great topic. I'm realizing how mentally I beat myself up a lot. I had a weird thought the other day that stopped me in my tracks. I was talking to someone and was thinking to myself " well they're not going to take me seriously because I'm fat." Then I was like "wait I'm not fat anymore" then it hit me how weird it is to think that no one should take me seriously because of my weight anyway. I had never consciously realized I have been thinking this for years until I now have the weight off. What a horrible thing to be saying to myself subconsciously. The biggest thing that hit me was I would never think that about anyone else so why did I think that about myself?

dramaqueen45 · March 2016

I think I'm a lot more patient with the whole process. I used to want it fast and then would give up quickly if I had a set back. I just met my goal and it took me a little over a year and a half, which is fine. I have made small changes along the way so none of it felt overwhelming.

Mentali · March 2016

I've managed to reset how I feel about portions. I used to feel that I was depriving myself if I didn't have a serving of pasta more than twice as big as a normal one. Now I look at the proper serving size as an appropriate amount - which makes me hopeful that when I'm ready to maintain I'll be able to without too much trouble!

lmhbuss · March 2016

I think the biggest mental change I've had to undergo happened before I really started to see any lasting success. I had to accept myself and care about myself exactly as I was. After that, taking care of myself became a lot easier. Now I'm not trying to achieve some socially acceptable/magazine appropriate appearance but simply to take care of me to the best of my ability. When I have a bad day, I don't need to abuse myself with mountains of junk food...because "what does it matter I'm crap anyways." Weirdly it was one phrase that put everything into perspective and gave me that "aha" moment. "It's not your job to be pretty. Pretty isn't something that you owe anyone." It was an oddly freeing thought.

Montepulciano · March 2016

While I am not at goal, maybe a third of the way there, I was just talking to someone about what has changed mentally. I am kinder to myself. That voice in my head that was so judgmental and expecting perfection 100% of the time has softened. The goal is perfection but the reality is as long as I am at 90-95% I am going to reach my goals. It may take a bit longer, but if it means I get there rather than give up, I am so in for that.

upoffthemat · March 2016

Montepulciano wrote: »

While I am not at goal, maybe a third of the way there, I was just talking to someone about what has changed mentally. I am kinder to myself. That voice in my head that was so judgmental and expecting perfection 100% of the time has softened. The goal is perfection but the reality is as long as I am at 90-95% I am going to reach my goals. It may take a bit longer, but if it means I get there rather than give up, I am so in for that.

SO much truth in that. Perfectionism can be such a harsh mistress

becca_rup23 · March 2016

The biggest thing for me has been realizing that I have to actually change my behavior, and that if I keep making the same choices I've been making, I'll stay the same weight. It seems simple but it's been hard! Also I've realized that the way I think about food, exercise, and my body is more positive than it has been in the past!

allaboutthecake · March 2016

I'm FIERCE.

But then....I've always been fierce. So maybe that hasn't changed at all.

Annr · March 2016

I have embraced a couple of great quotes.

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

So I try not to be so perfect in everything that I do. Hey, reality happens when you are busy making plans!
I think there is PERFECTION in IMPERFECTION. My scars tell my story, and what an epic saga it is. I am proud of my journey in this. It's also something I shall never END. To forage in the kitchen and find a meal that is satisfying, and healthy, makes me feel powerful.

The most important ingredient in food preparation is my MOOD!

So I love the chopping, the gathering, the saute'ing and layering flavors in a pan. It's all about patience, and letting flavors marry in the pan. My Betty Crocker Momma didn't teach me that, I DID.

wonna13 · March 2016

Annr wrote: »

I have embraced a couple of great quotes.

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

So I try not to be so perfect in everything that I do. Hey, reality happens when you are busy making plans!
I think there is PERFECTION in IMPERFECTION. My scars tell my story, and what an epic saga it is. I am proud of my journey in this. It's also something I shall never END. To forage in the kitchen and find a meal that is satisfying, and healthy, makes me feel powerful.

The most important ingredient in food preparation is my MOOD!

So I love the chopping, the gathering, the saute'ing and layering flavors in a pan. It's all about patience, and letting flavors marry in the pan. My Betty Crocker Momma didn't teach me that, I DID.

Wow, That is the most profound statement I heard so far on myfitnesspal. I am writing that down. That you for sharing that.

jenilla1 · March 2016

Self-confidence + I love the feeling of success. It feels like I'm winning all the time!

TK6299 · March 2016

Self confidence, pride, and an amazing feeling of accomplishment.

hzl22 · March 2016

I'm no there yet but I am realizing that if I succeed is because of me and if I fail is because of me. I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.

Untilproud11 · March 2016

hzl22 wrote: »

I'm no there yet but I am realizing that if I succeed is because of me and if I fail is because of me. I am my own best friend and my own worst enemy.

That's true!

dutchandkiwi · March 2016

A few times in my life I have been hit with the: "If I can do this I can do anything" vibe. Looking at myself and realising that I am quite possibly in the best shape of my life, I am mentally catching up to that and feel that "If I can do this I can do anything" vibe coming on again. I am bracing myself as in the past the vibe has taken me to some unexpected places and events. We'll see what happens

hamstertango · March 2016

You know how great you feel whatever size you are/were when you wear a brand new outfit that you know makes you look good....

With the new slimmer body I feel like ive got that brand new outfit on every day, even when I've got my scruffy clothes and no make up on

I guess it's really just self confidence

imicevska7 · March 2016

It might be weird,but I used to look at myself in the mirror and think : "I'm chubby but cute". Now all I see are flaws that I need to keep working on. But I guess that's good,cause it helps me to keep going. ^_^

Melwillbehealthy · March 2016

I'm way more relaxed about myself than I was. I'm not in a rush. I've been losing weight for a year now, and don't think I'm dieting. I think, I'm living.

JeromeBarry1 · March 2016

Changed mentally? I went from "My obesity is managed well with a tiny pill to keep my blood pressure down, I don't need to do anything more", to "My obesity has caught up with me, I cannot survive with it, it is my enemy, I must fight it." War works better if one side is motivated.

Untilproud11 · March 2016

Amazing responses ...

Diana_GettingFit · March 2016

One word. Confidence. A year ago if someone had offered me a pill that would make me invisible when out in public, I would have taken it. Now I want to be seen.

I've only been on this journey for barely a year yet the changes I've gone through have been amazing. From getting off diabetes meds to dropping from size 40 pants to size 32.

Scrappincarla · March 2016

Mentali wrote: »

I've managed to reset how I feel about portions. I used to feel that I was depriving myself if I didn't have a serving of pasta more than twice as big as a normal one. Now I look at the proper serving size as an appropriate amount - which makes me hopeful that when I'm ready to maintain I'll be able to without too much trouble!

My sentiments exactly! Well said.

Mersie1 · March 2016

This is brilliant! Love all of the responses. For me I am now thinking everyday, what would I be doing, feeling, thinking if I lived how I looked and felt today? I am doing exactly what I believe I will be doing when I get to a healthier weight. I have battled eating disorders for most of my life. When I was severely anorexic and dangerously low weight, I still hid, isolated (bec I needed to lose a little more.) eventually I began struggling w bingeing (which is what I'm coming out of now.) my weight whether lower than heathy or higher has always reflected how unhappy I was. I'm doing what I can to enjoy myself and be my own best friend. I absolutely believe my weight will eventually get to where it should be, just bec I'm treating myself w kindness. I'm now measuring my life in numbers- but different ones. How many hugs have I given today, how many kisses did my kids give me, how many times have I laughed...

Scrappincarla · March 2016

Mersie1 wrote: »

This is brilliant! Love all of the responses. For me I am now thinking everyday, what would I be doing, feeling, thinking if I lived how I looked and felt today? I am doing exactly what I believe I will be doing when I get to a healthier weight. I have battled eating disorders for most of my life. When I was severely anorexic and dangerously low weight, I still hid, isolated (bec I needed to lose a little more.) eventually I began struggling w bingeing (which is what I'm coming out of now.) my weight whether lower than heathy or higher has always reflected how unhappy I was. I'm doing what I can to enjoy myself and be my own best friend. I absolutely believe my weight will eventually get to where it should be, just bec I'm treating myself w kindness. I'm now measuring my life in numbers- but different ones. How many hugs have I given today, how many kisses did my kids give me, how many times have I laughed...

Thats wonderful. Keep it up. Hugs!

overw8gosk8 · March 2016

I am loving all the responses!! For me, I was a binge eater. I would skip meals, sometimes for days at a time and eat a whole bunch of crap when I was really emotional. I've learned how to manage my eating and I know what my triggers are, how long the urges to eat last and what to do instead of going into the kitchen. I've also turned off (for the most part) that negative voice in the back of my head. I just push through and keep going. Being patient with myself and taking this a day at a time. I don't worry about what is going to happen to me tomorrow, I just worry about what is going on today.

Shells918 · March 2016

I went from "ugh I have to work out" to " I can't wait to work out today! Maybe I'll do extra!"
And
"I have to eat because it's _______ time."
To
"I'm not hungry so I'm not going to eat anything."

Annr · March 2016

wonna13 wrote: »

Annr wrote: »

I have embraced a couple of great quotes.

Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's unbecoming everything that isn't you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.

So I try not to be so perfect in everything that I do. Hey, reality happens when you are busy making plans!
I think there is PERFECTION in IMPERFECTION. My scars tell my story, and what an epic saga it is. I am proud of my journey in this. It's also something I shall never END. To forage in the kitchen and find a meal that is satisfying, and healthy, makes me feel powerful.

The most important ingredient in food preparation is my MOOD!

So I love the chopping, the gathering, the saute'ing and layering flavors in a pan. It's all about patience, and letting flavors marry in the pan. My Betty Crocker Momma didn't teach me that, I DID.

Wow, That is the most profound statement I heard so far on myfitnesspal. I am writing that down. That you for sharing that.

Thanks for your comment. Part of this journey is to Say What I Mean, and Mean What I Say. All part of my strive toward a more honest life.

jarablue · March 2016

Before I would just eat anything without thinking about it at all. If I craved something, I would eat it. Now it's a conscious choice. I think about how many calories is that. What are the nutrients. How can this fit into my day. Mentally I will try my hardest to not go over my calories. Just a whole change in the thought process when I eat now.

lisaisso · March 2016

For me right now, I'm beginning to think of "hunger" as just another feeling, like anger, tiredness, joy, loneliness, etc. Feelings aren't fact, and they're fleeting. Just as I'm tired at work right now, I'm not going to sleep on my keyboard. Just as anger set in during a traffic jam, I'm not going to go on a murder spree. And so when hunger comes, I don't have to devour anything in sight. It will pass. And I'm getting plenty of calories a day so I ain't gonna waste away and die

PandoraGreen721 · March 2016

I have established more discipline in my life..in all areas, not just fitness. I am more dedicated to the things that matter and less worried about the things that don't. I've also learned to take things/disappointments in stride..and patience..I have far more patience now.

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