PCOS: New to Me

I am 26 years old and my husband and I have been trying to have kids for 5 years now. When we first started trying to get pregnant I wasn't really over weight and it was more of a we'll see if it happens. I wasn't really overweight when we started maybe 10-15 pounds but I was try to get in better shape for pregnancy. I went off birth control I didn't get my period for 3 months, and then 5 months and then almost a year and my doctor said that it could take up to a year to get the birth control out of my system and my cycle could be messed up for the first 12 to 16 months. After a year and a half the doctor found that I had slightly high cholesterol and told me I was way to young for that and sent me to a nutritionist, and a few months later I had my cholesterol under control and he say my cycle MAY return to normal in a few months and that I was a young woman and that my cycle could be off for a few more years and I thought that was just crazy it should be regular by the time you are 23. I waited 6 months and then went to see a different doctor he had some ideas for blood work and the iodine fallopian tube test but he was always gone with climbing mountains and riding his bike cross continent, so I would make and appointment and then they would cancel it and it went on like that for months, it was just another waiting game for me. Finally a female doctor came into our area so I switch doctors again and the first appointment I told her my issues with my previous doctors and my cycle and cholesterol and she looked at me and told me that she didn't want to waste any more of my time and sent me to see a specialist.
My specialist did all the blood test and physical tests the my second doctor was planning on doing and discovered that I had a blocked fallopian tube and wanted to do exploratory surgery, after my surgery my doctor left me a note saying the he found so endometriosis that he got rid of and that my tubes were both open. 2 months later when I went for my post-op appointment he, then told me that he drilled holes in my ovaries and when I asked him why he told me I had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and to come back in six months and then if I still wasn't pregnant then we would try some fertility medication, and sent me on my way. I couldn't help wondering why he didn't write that down on the note he left me after my surgery so that could come up with some questions to ask him at my post-op surgery.
After doing a bunch of research on line I found the the first treatment for PCOS was diet and exercise and when we first started trying to get pregnant I was trying to lose weight but it was really hard I would do good for a few months and then all the weight plus some and I always blamed it on my bad spine, when I knew I was going for surgery I had already started a diet again and lost about 14 pounds but then we went to Mexico for 2 weeks and gained almost all of it back even though I was watching what I ate while there, but that was also before I even new that I had PCOS and I really don't know why my doctor never mentioned that before. From my research I also discovered that ovary drilling is one of the last things a doctor considers after diet, exercise, and fertility treatments, has anyone else been through this?

I am feeling really out of control about this and that my doctor is choosing my options for me without even consulting me. I decide to see my regular female doctor to discuss maybe seeing a dietitian, a nutritionist, or a naturopath since I found out that that women with PCOS have a really hard time losing weight and my even need a insulin resistance diet to help lose the extra pounds along with cardio and light weight training.

I am just hoping to hear how some women's other stories about discovering that they have PCOS, especially since I never even heard about it before and that it is the leading syndrome for sub-fertility/infertility!