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Nice to meet you! I'd be happy to buddy up and help you along your journey! I'll send you a buddy invite

My husband is 7-8 inches taller than me and of course eats a ton more than I can. I've found the trick is to match him in the times we eat, and to a limited extent in the things we eat, but I eat much less overall, and my proportions of entree to side veg are different. It turns out I can socialize easily with people eating very differently from myself as long as I keep these principles in mind. It helps to have a big, low-calorie-density salad to munch on while others are eating bread, cheese, etc. If it's a big gathering and it's appropriate to bring a dish, I opt for a salad or simple veg side dish (i.e., not covered in cream, gravy, or cheese). Portion control is important, too: I may be eating the same Thanksgiving dinner as everyone else, but I have dabs of this and that instead of plates full. A serving size for me now is likely 1/4 cup or 1/2 cup. At a restaurant, I often order an appetizer and even then I'll probably put half of it in a to-go container before I start eating. When we hang out with neighbors in the evening, I bring a bottle of club soda and a little fruit juice to mix with it, so I'll have something to sip from a wineglass.

The biggest thing may be not to eat impulsively. At home, of course, I'm planning my own meals and usually logging them first to see what I can fit in the budget. At a party or restaurant, it's trickier, but I still think through the whole amount I can eat while I'm there instead of munching on whatever is handed to me or comes within arms' reach. Party food adds up fast. Most of the food available at a party has to be put in the category of "stuff that has nothing to do with me today"--as if it were food on a stranger's plate at a restaurant two tables away.